When ever I think about my ex (often daily) or someone talks about her I skip a heat beat. I sometimes fantasise being with my ex, but like I say I love my girl and I fancy her like mad. My ex was difficult to get on with at times. I'm 25. What do you think? Am I a bad person, do I love my girl any less?
2006-06-24 03:30:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, neither. You're just holding onto the past. Obviously, you still have feelings for your ex. Time to let go, push her and any feelings away. Be with your sweetie, show her how much you love her. Because if you hold onto those feelings, they will get in the way of the relationship down the road. Set the past free.
2006-06-24 03:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by ddevilish_txnfml 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just like fantisizing about a movie star. As long as you don't act on it. You're fine. Everyone.....even people in the most loving relationships fantisize every so often. I bet even your girlfriend does.
You are not a bad person. I know you probably feel like that because its your ex that you are thinking about. But, it sounds like your relationship with your ex was a good one.....for the most part. Its okay to think about it from time to time. You obviously still have some feelings for her. But just remember why you broke up and how much better you are with your current girlfriend.
2006-06-24 03:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, thinking about your ex is okay as long as you don't act on it...at least if still dating your current girl. Try to just remember why you broke up with your ex. There must have been a reason. It doesn't mean you love your girl any less as long as you stay loyal to her, everyone has fantasies, in fact she probably has some about actors or maybe even one of her ex's. It's okay, fantasies are fine. Don't beat yourself up about it.
2006-06-24 03:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kirsten T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are not a bad person. Your relationship with this one is just different than it is for the other one is all. Perhaps there is something that is more in keeping with your idea of sexuality with the former one, but the new one has better qualities for getting along in daily life. I don't know. But the two are different is all.
2006-06-24 03:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.u just MISS your ex very much!! tht doesnt mean anything...if u think of your ex a lot,y dont u try n remember how u guys broke up.it must have been ugly...so remind ureself tht.tht way, u'll stop thinking bout her..and besides..ITS NOT FAIR to your 4yr old gf! u r so mean!! just imagine if your gf tht u love madly right now, actually she's thinking of her ex bf!! and she sometimes fantasies being with her ex. im sure ure jealous and pretty mad! so try n stop thinking bout ure ex.if its hard for you, erm....spent more time with your current gf now..give her all the love u got! k?? :)
2006-06-24 03:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by dolly parker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be hard on yourself. First loves are always first loves. This doesn't mean you love your present girl less. It means you love her in a different way. If you've been with someone for 4 years, I think on the 2nd year you would have been fed up with her.
2006-06-24 03:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Yves L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you are not a bad person. Unfortunately, I know how you feel. Sometimes the thoughts stay with you for a very long time, but, if you truly care about your current gf, then just concentrate on that relationship.
2006-06-24 03:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's one where you have to sit yourself down, and review the choices you've made in life. You've got a woman you're with, and you say you love her, but you find yourself thinking about 'the other woman'(which is how SHE will see it). I'd say 'close your mind off' to the past, and be happy with the one you've got...you broke up with the other one for some reason, best to focus on that reason if your mind goes wandering...
2006-06-24 03:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not a bad person just not ready to handle a permanent relationship.
Give it a few more years.
Love is not emotion it is an act of ones will.
Respect is a major part to love.
2006-06-24 03:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person, and you probably don't love your girl less. People want things that they cant have. If you really love your girlfriend then I would stay with her.
2006-06-24 03:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by Megan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋