thanx for reading this.. the woman i am dating now has a male friend she enjoys going places with . they sometimes spend the night together .. no sex she assures me....while she is away i like hanging out with an ex g/f but my current girlfriend gets upset abouit that cause she is afraid we will have sex .... so should i stop seeing my ex while my current is away with her friend ?
2006-06-24 03:27:29 · 19 answers · asked by rovedidit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, neither situation is good. your woamn with another man at nught. Unless the brother is gay, then no problemo. But if he's not. how naive are you. Come on your a guy. Sh*t you know it's going to happen and trust me. Don't get upset with her or him. Get upset with yourself. Tell her if she doesn't stop doing what she's doing - like spending nights, you'll dump her sorry as*. It's alright to be meeting a gut friend but spending nights. Hell no. Would she let you spend nights with a friend who was a girl? HELL NO.
2006-06-24 03:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by Yves L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has a guilty conscious, so she is accusing you of being unfaithful. While spending a whole lot of time with your ex is probably not a good idea, her spending the night with a male friend is suspicious behavior. If you both want a serious, committed relationship, cut out the questionable situations and spend more time with each other. Otherwise, it appears you are both still on the market.
2006-06-24 03:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by fictionalpoet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not so sure I would be thrilled about somone spending the night with someone else of the opposite sex. But the main answer is that you once had an emotional and physical connection that in her mind could be rekindled. I think I would make it clear that you do not appreciate the overnight visits, but that a visit once in awhile with her friend otherwise is fine.
It does not sound like you two communicate well, or respect one another's boundaries.
2006-06-24 03:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is making a mistake by spending the night with her male friend. That means she isn't spending any quality time with you. No, go see your ex-girlfriend as long there isn't sex involved. And if she has a problen with it, tell her: "You're staying the night at a guy's house. Not even staying the night with me. We're still friends. You can't stop me from seeing my friends. And if you don't like it, I'm sorry".
2006-06-24 03:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by ddevilish_txnfml 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you want to see your ex because you really want to or just because you feel like you need to get even with your current? If you really just enjoy your ex's company, then you need to stand up to your current and tell her it's no different than her seeing her guy friend, assure her there's no sexual interest, and suggest to her that you both need to try to be mature about it. Surely she can't expect you to sit around alone while she's with someone else for the simple reason that she doesn't approve of your choice of company.
2006-06-24 03:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, your contemporary female friend would or gained't have a level. evaluate this: how would you sense in case your contemporary female friend become passing a at the same time as with an ex boyfriend? even if in case you would imagine it really is okay she does no longer, and component to loving someone is thinking what makes them sense uncomfortable and doing the option. replacing and doing issues that somebody else likes does no longer unavoidably recommend that you're replacing who you're; it only signifies that you're taking yet another persons emotions, likes, or dislikes into interest. (frequently at the same time as in a courting consisting of this, that's the case) My advice: reduce your contact at the same time with your ex female friend. Your ex female friend is on your previous and your contemporary female friend is your contemporary. Am no longer putting forward or suggesting you need to push aside your ex female friend altogether yet your ex should be dealt with an same way you would deal with yet another guy buddy. (it is going to strictly only be friendship from afar; given the heritage you men have with one yet another.) wish issues exercising recurring, and that i wish this recommendation helped.
2016-11-15 05:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to seriously talk to her, because that is a very unfair double standard that unfortunately many women are guilty of. Tell her that if you are supposed to trust her with another guy, she needs to trust you with another girl. It's hard when you have history with the girl, but that's what it is... HISTORY. In the past. My ex actually lives with my boyfriend and I... I made sure they got to know each other well so that we could all be friends. Maybe a little group dating is in order if you want to keep the peace.
2006-06-24 03:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a girls point of view shes just seeing " a friend" while you have previously had feelings for your ex girlfriend. Make a female friend and then see what she says.. but avoid the ex!
2006-06-24 03:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by Answeringallday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she may think that you two will end up doing something, or that you will realize that you still have feelings for your ex. If you really want to see your ex talk to your gf and tell her how you feel about all this.
2006-06-24 03:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by Megan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its harder to deal with the fact that you want to hang out with an ex g/f rather than someone who is just ur friend. im sure she is worried becuase the two of you have dated. its a female thing she would be thinking are they doing anything or is he going to come home and tell me its over so to be safe she just tells you that you cant do it.
2006-06-24 03:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_love_12518 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋