Today I was suppose to go to a purse party at 12. I had asked my mom a month in advance and she said I could go. Then I asked again yesterday and everything was okay but she said that at 4 she would be going to bingo to continue this affair with some guy who she promised him to visit about two days ago. and that I would have to babysit my brother. I was okay with that but this morning at 7:30 she woke me up saying that she was going to bingo and that I;d have to babysit. So that doesn't allow me to go to the party at all. I honestly hate her right now cuz she's done stuff like this before and I kinda feel like she cares about this dude more than me. I dont care about not getting a purse, I can cope with that but it's the fact that she completely lied to me and didn't tell me her intentions ahead of time. What are your opinions on this.
2006-06-24 03:26:36 · 20 answers · asked by CANADA ! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Boo hoo hoo
2006-06-24 03:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I right that your mom is a single parent?And your grandparents don't live nearby? I would be upset also because playing BINGO is not neccessary.She could drop you off at the party and let you have a nice day! She just cares about herself first and then you.Maybe she wants to meet a guy at BINGo or maybe she doesn't even go to BINGO,maybe that is just what she tells you.You are a very smart 12-year old! Maybe you should ask your mother why she doesn't try to make you happy.Tell her your other friends are going too and you will be very sad if you can't go and that you really looked forward to this party.Can you ask another friend if their parents could take you or stay the night with your firned that also goes there?She shoudl take your brother to a babysitter.Find him one,have the guy she met come over to your place1 Good luck!
2006-06-24 03:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by willywonka172 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mother feels her outing is more essential then yours. She is using you to baby sit your brother. Do you have a friend / neighbour who can baby sit your brother? I hope You get some one to do so. Can You talk to her & ask if she can consider an alternate and also mention her that you had informed her in advance about your purse party? Talk to her very carefully. If it works then its going to be great.
In case it does not work your way, don't feel bad. We get dejected some times in our lives. It is one of those days. This kind of days sometimes comes in our life to test us as a person. We have to eliminate what happened and concentrate on the lesson we learnt out of it. It helps us to think of ways and means to overcome it. It pushes us little beyond our capacity and there is a hidden benefit which if you dont get today, you will certainly get it later. This result will definately be more than what you expected.
Wish I was around you, I would have certaintly helped to take care of your baby brother.
2006-06-24 03:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by ddivvi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be completely honest, I think your Mother had the intent to allow you to act your age but she's more caught up in acting your age herself. When she fancys her life and lifestyle over your own that a serious problem that needs to be addressed. And it is beyond me how she would resort to asking to you watch over your brother so she could continue an affair. That's real good parenthing there -- not. Talk to her and explain your feelings. If she doesnt want to listen, you could always take it up with your school counselor or friends.
2006-06-24 07:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by ~Mother Of Angels~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom. socializing is very important to a teenager. and a promise is a promise. she should let you still go to the purse party. she needs to spend more time with her own children instead of some guy who comes and goes. she will see the facts when she starts losing her children. Talk to your mom and see if she can spend a day with each child by theirselves then after spend some time with her guy in her life. Other then that talk to an adult that you trust and vent out. Every child needs an adult they can look up to......talk and spend some time with your mom.
2006-06-24 03:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kathi T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom cares about you, she just is all caught up with this guy. Get her attn. Sit her down and let her know how you feel about everything that is going on right now. She will not know unless you speak up and let your feelings be known. And if she still ignores you and just totally keeps going against what she is saying then, tell someone else in the family (grandma, aunt) about whats been going on.
2006-06-24 03:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to grow up. Is there an adult in the family that you can talk to? If not, when your mom is in a good mood, sit down and discuss it with her calmly. Tell her that it makes you very sad when she breaks her promises. Tell her that you feel she puts her boyfriend ahead of you. I hope she recognizes her bad parenting and she is setting a bad example for a daughter with this man.
2006-06-24 03:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your dad in the picture? You might calmly without attitude and you do have the right to be upset and tell her how you feel and maybe tell her that your brothers Mom is her not you and you do not mind helping out but she is the Mom and you deserve a life outside with your friends also.
2006-06-24 03:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by tina m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not 12 yet call a friend and have them babysit your lil bro whil you go to the purse party and pay her the money you get 4 baby sitting cause after all she did help
2006-06-24 03:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a month in advance was more than enugh time for her to find a spare baby sitter thats just not right you need to talk to her about it tell her how you feel and if this still presists i would say just tell her that you are done doing her bidding all of the time and that you need to be able to do your things and she needs to start paying you for babysitting if it cuts into your time
2006-06-24 03:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by alex h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that you mother is a selfish(beep).my advice to you take care of your brother if your mother treats you this way he probably feels the same way or will soon.stick together and remember that this will not last forever,you will grow up and move away.then you can so whatever you want.im sorry about your party i would send you a purse if i could.
2006-06-24 03:33:28 · answer #11 · answered by mojomuppet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋