Wat do you think of people who choose not to have any kids?

Question

They don't think that further down the road.. their life may be so boaring and of course they are missing out on the joy.

Answer 1

Clearly this is their personal decision and they should not be judged. Having said that people should really think about things and make an informed decision. I know people who changed their mind (from not having to having) and were happy.
The worries like "would I be able to raise", "what if they turned out to be.." are interesting and should have much less weight. The main one should be financial. Also they need to consider when their parents are gone how their life will be.

At the end it is their decision. We live in a democratic socity.
Live and let live.

Answer 2

Some people just don't have what it takes to be parents. Sure, there's a lot of joy, but there is also hard work and sacrifice. There are other ways to have a fulfilling life. I don't regret being a parent (of 4!) but it is not a job to take on lightly or without full commitment. The people that I know who have purposely decided on a life without kids definitely made the right choice for themselves. The people I feel sorry for are the people who want kids who get involved with someone who doesn't want kids. Either they have to give up their dream or they end up raising their kids alone, when they find out the other person really meant it. I think this is an important discussion couples should have early in a relationship, before things get too serious. Different viewpoints on having children is a definite deal breaker.

Answer 3

Well, some people have kids, others don't, people gotta make their own choices in life and live with them, what you percieve as 'joy' might be percieved as a burden to others, parenting is easy, you just have a baby, raising a family is a 20-year process.
That costs lots of money. And requires a stable home. With 2 parents. They say 1 in 4 americans now basically live alone, that's 25% of the population, no friends no family, and no kids.
Of course, to understand where some of that comes from, take a quick look at the paycheck a lot of people are getting....you're going to support a family on THAT?!?!?!!? LOL Poverty sucks, but when you're by yourself, you can survive it better....

Answer 4

I think people know within themselves how much stress and responsibility they want to handle now and in the future. I think it is the most responsible decision and the least selfish choice to make if that is in your heart. I don't think they should be coerced by others and made to feel guilty because they choose not to have kids. If you look at the way the world is progressing and even the way the children are growing up in it, many of us would make the same decision. There are plenty of opportunities to help other people and their children that have been abandoned and are not being cared for or nurtured. Any animal can pop out kids...and many people do.

Answer 5

I am one of them.but my reasons stem from insecurity i guess.i worry that i may not bring them up well.they may be disobedient.they may not turn up the way society expects them to.i may not make enough money to bring them up properly.and my greatest worry is they may turn up like me and i can't let that happen.why add another miserable creature on this already crowded planet.

i have troubled my parents enough and i dont think i can go through half of what they have.

i think the joy is over hyped anyway .i know babies are cute but parental responsibilities dont just end there.they snowball into things much greater. there are lots of things to overcome boredom too.people should have children only if they are completely confident and prepared.i mean we are playing with a real life here not a toy to entertain us with.

the myth that every couple should procreate is just a survival instinct of mankind.but now i think the human race is evolved enough to stop this mindlessness.

to conclude i would say that we should let people make their choices(having/not having kids) and not be judgemental.

Answer 6

I'm 36, single with no kids. I don't want kids and actually think that if i heard i was going to be a dad , that would be one of the worst things that could happen to me. I like my life as it is, i love my privacy, and i enjoy silence and time on my own. Why would i want to change? I don't want to rely on anyone or anyone to rely on me ( except the people who work for me ). And yes, i am incredibly irresponsible and cant even look after a pot plant let alone another helpless human.

And by the way, i don't question the motives or life styles of people who do have kids. After all,someones got to do it.

Answer 7

What's it any of your business, or the business of anyone other than the individuals involved?

If they don't want kids, they have the freedom and money to do what they want with their lives instead of spending it on kids (AKA money pits).

And I'm glad that there are people that realize not everyone is cut out to be a parent. It's better to realize that before having children rather than after the children are already born.

Answer 8

Everyone has a choice and a right to exercise it.

If someone choses to not have children, it is much better than having a child that is unwanted. There are many of those in the world already.

I don't think badly of people that make choices for themselves and their life.

Answer 9

That's an individual choice, they know what's best for them and no one really knows why that decision was made. If one like living a carefree life without responsibilities, so be it. Later, if they choose to have children and the biological clock says "Hell to the no". there are many children available for adoption.

Answer 10

i just don't think they are ready at the moment. i mean, having kids is a lot of responsibility and you have to be mature enough to be able to deal with this. it's also a lot of stress - some experience depression, before and/or after giving birth. it's a big deal and it doesn't need to be rushed in my opinion.

i don't oppose to having kids as they are considered gifts but as i have said, both parties must be ready to take on the responsibility of parenthood before anything else. :)