whenever a female takes one look at me, she runs off in disgust. women pick up their walking pace when they see me out in public; they immediately move away if i sit next to them at bars, on buses/trains, or anywhere for that matter; and they always give me angry/disgusted looks if they haven't turned their heads in another direction. i have good hygiene, i don't smell, i don't dress like a bum, so why do women find me so repulsive? i'm a good person who has never done any harm to anybody. what did i do to deserve this harsh treatment?
i see females flirting on guys all the time, yet no one wants to even get near me. my self-esteem has taking a beating over the years, and right now i'm psychologically crippled with little hope of recovery.
and don't even say that i'm "generalizing." i have had these experiences with 100% of the female population. they give me the same sh!tty attitudes all over the country: in cali, in denver, in chicago, in ny, down south, in my hometown, etc.
2006-06-24 03:18:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you are not looking in the right place but you need not look wait for her to come to u thats the best way. try overseas
2006-06-24 03:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_love_12518 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, I sometimes felt almost the same way. Even though I knew I was basically normal looking, I always had this inferior feeling. Later on I just got to the point that I didn't care. That seems to be like a turning point for me. Since I didn't care, I could be myself more. I didn't hold a grudge against women, since I really didn't know what was wrong. Eventually I realized that most of the time it was just my own insecurities. These things still come back to haunt me sometimes, as it was a deep-seated problem, and may never leave you. But you must realize that what other people think about you don't matter, as long as you are a good person. If you have to live the rest of your life alone, as long as you have your own personal code of honor, that is all that matters. If you recognize this and give up worrying, eventually things will get better. Not instantly, but gradually improve. Contact me if you want to talk some more. Good luck,
Merlin
2006-06-24 03:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it fare to assume that you are still a virigin. Or maybe you are 13. Well, maybe it's time you had a good look at yourself in the mirror and styled yourself differently. Have you got gay friends - they would groom you in the way a woman would want you. I'm not making fun of you. You are doing something wrong. It's time you took some other advice then the ones your getting now. If you say 100% of the women treat you like this, then man, you're really doing something wrong. Try my advice. But don't sleep with the guy;-)
2006-06-24 03:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by Yves L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this isn't an act for fun, then I think you are paranoid. There is no way every female who sees you runs off in disgust if you don't smell or dress inappropriately. If it had anything to do with your appearance you would get the same reaction from men. If people in general are avoiding you then you need to take a better look at how you present yourself to the public. There is something you are not sharing. Do you stare or "leer" at people? Do youlook in inapporpriate places? People teach others how to treat them. IF you are being treated this way by a lot of people (I don't believe it is everyone- not everyone probably even notices you) then you are doing something to contribute to the behavior.
2006-06-24 03:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by wolfmusic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you look at the situation hard enough, you may find that a lot of the people who are looking at you this way or actin sh!tty with you, have somthing wrong with them. Maybe those people are not comfortable in their own skin, so they don't like you because you are. I bet you dress in really nice clothes, and walk with our head high. A lot of folks will look at you in disgust because they feel that you think you are all that. I have a male friend who people treat the same way, but he has me to tell him that he should not worry, because those same people need to check out a mirror.
2006-06-24 03:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by stontamika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's odd.
What do you look like. Don't get angry that I'm asking. Physical appearance means quite a bit. When you sit next to them, do you allow personal space? At bars, do you approach women in a group or individuals? How do you start conversations.......or do they immediately turn away before you can get a word out edgewise.
I've never heard of a person who ALWAYS gets turned down.
2006-06-24 03:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, (which it sounds like it is) I am really very sorry you are having these problems. I truly hope that you are able to meet someone soon who sees you for the person you are and not just by your looks. Have you considered a make-over to help with your self-esteem as well as improve your appearance? I wish you the best. Good luck.
2006-06-24 03:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, most women think that they are superior by default. With that understood, don't look to women for happiness. Find your own happiness enternally. A woman could possibly make you happy one day and all that but, don't place them in such high reguard because women pick up on that and exploit it! Most people on this planet are evil by nature, and you need to understand that FIRST!
Thats why nice guys get stepped on by women, because alot of those women who have been disrespected by men in the past, never got redemption from them. Therefore, it's transferred anger upon you! Think about these things.
2006-06-24 04:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...there must be something you're doing..I'd date a guy even if he was ugly, as long as he has a nice personality. Maybe you should try again and observe the moment and point of reason they're doing this. Maybe you could stop the woman before they leave and ask her youself...Are you fat...did you give them a wierd look....you must've done something wrong..By the way..the bar isn't a great place to look for women.
2006-06-24 03:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by poetic_lala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is unlucky that has been your journey. some women have been raised with abuse (many times by a male determine) and are so demoralized that they are able to purely functionality in an abusive relationship. They hate themselves and project internalized hatred outward (many times onto their infants). there is likewise a jealous that many women experience approximately lost little ones, because of the fact it is so prized in this society. each and every so often what you could desire to do is harm the cycle. once you're a mom, coach your females delight and self-self assurance--that's what my mom did.
2016-12-08 12:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a girl who is a friend for tips and honesty. You might be staring or appear desperate.- Also girls love confidence-low self esteem is not attractive. You're standards might be too high are you looking at really pretty girls try a new location
2006-06-24 03:25:04 · answer #11 · answered by tiffany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋