I used to think that he really loved me and cared but, when we would have arguements he would say really hurtful things. He had nothing untill I came into the picture and then he had a car, a house, money, and someone who really loved him. He made me feel as if the only reason he kept me around was because I gave him everything but, other times I felt he really cared. Which one is it?
2006-06-24 02:43:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, I would have to say you hit the nail on the head. All too often, people shower those they love with monetary gifts as a show of affection, & it backfires. Even if the object of their affection had no intention of using them, it becomes all too easy to do, & they do so, sometimes without even realizing it for a while. Therefore, it may sound elitist, but I would recommend you set your sights higher, & date someone more on your social & financial level. Next time, look for someone who would be a good partner for you, rather than a man you have to support. You can really do better. This may also prevent the hurtful arguments, because I believe a man like this wanted to hurt you because he blamed you for the times he may have been ashamed of himself.
2006-06-24 02:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont wana b rude but if he loved u then u would still b together. It looks to me that he "cared" so u would stay with him and gave him what he wanted until he had everythin. BUT at the end of the day he is the only one who has the answer 2 ur question so maybe u should ask him. Good luck in findin out x
2006-06-24 02:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I came into my relationship the same way you did. Your guy may not know how to love and care for you any other way than what he is showing you. I had to teach my now husband how to care and love, period. You might have to do the very same thing. Just let him know that you are comfortable in y'alls relationship and that you love him, and you know that he loves you too. Then show him how to love and care for you. It will take time, but he will learn that your way is better than his way. He will realize this when y'all make love. The proof is in the pudding.
2006-06-24 02:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're feeling used because you see how much you've invested in him and don't see him investing the same. Kind of a one sided relationship with you giving all and him letting you. After awhile it gets old. You're obviously not feeling like he's meeting your expectations or needs. Opposites attract and for every "giver", there is a "taker".
Tell him what you want from him and how you need to feel appreciated.
2006-06-24 02:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by lmdragonldy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep ur self away from those people who dont respect u my dear, respect means love which means a good chance to carry on happy in ur life
2006-06-24 02:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by repentant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he loved you as much as you say he did mean words would of never slipped out of his mouth.
2006-06-24 02:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he have a job when you were together? cuz that would answer my question....
2006-06-24 02:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋