How many is too much?

Question

How many kids would you consider too many for a couple to have?

Answer 1

Too many is only more than you can afford. If you want a big family, go for it!!!

Answer 2

Yes, you have to consider money of course, but you also have to consider what standard of living you are happy living, We have two grown girls, three boys at home and have had extra kids thorugh summers each year. We would like to adopt from within the foster care network. We shop at thrift stores, we do the yard sale thing, we are cheap, cheap, cheap when it comes to the little things, so we can afford the things we want for them. That doens't mean you have to be poor..I am a stay home mom (which I wouldn't give up) and my hubby works a regular job, then a part time job a few evenings a week. We don't drive the best cars in the world, (althogh we have one newer Trailblazer for trips and safety) but we managed to build a nice 7 bedroom, 4000 sq. foot house, with a pool and hot tub, the kids even have a 10x14 foot playhouse and a 22x44 foot playset. And our house payment is less than 700 a month. We make sure our kids understand how much the electric bill is, how uch groceries cost, they are money smart even at 8, 9 & 10. Parenting is WORK though, one kid or 10. Be prepared, it is't all tucking in and lulabies. Organization and being consistant are the keys to any size family. Happy parenting.

Answer 3

At what point does a pie get cut too much. You only have so much time to give and if you have more than 3 there will never be enough time for them. The first one will get most of the attention and the middle one will feel left out. Don't forget they will have to go to college or a training process to earn a decent living and it will be you and your husband that have to foot the bill. I had 4 and know the first and last received most of the attention. I can not change what happened but I can remind them of what happened in our family. Luckily they all finished college and have done well in life but I believe the two middle ones have some resentment for their lack of time with their parents.

Answer 4

I think it really depends on the couple. In my case, for example, my husband and I have been together for nearly seven years and have a very stable and loving relationship. We are both wonderful with children, we have a lot of love to give, and we would love to add to our family as many times as God will allow us. This would be a great situation to bring as many kids as possible into, however we are financially strapped right now. For now, we are having just one. As our financial situation gets better and much more stable, we will consider having more then.

I think couples need to really "have it all" in order to have a big family...stability in their marriage, financial stability, and a true desire for many children. I think there is no such thing as "too many" kids as long as the couple can provide a loving, stable home for each and every child.

Enjoy your day :-)
Mandy

Answer 5

I think it all depends on how many you can afford.

Some people can afford 5 children while others can't even afford 2. People should look at their finances and really and truly look at how many they can afford. It's not right to bring so many kids into the world and not be able to give them a good life.

Answer 6

it's up to the individual family. As long as they can financially support their family it doesn't hurt anyone else. Sure you get the odd look in the street and whispers, but if you're supporting your family yourself and you have remained strong as a couple (ie you're not a single parent with 20 kids to 20 dads) then you should hold your head high and be proud of your family and all you've acheived.

Answer 7

I think that is a personal question, but i myself already have 3 kids and wanted 4 total. So i would say 5 or more would be to much. In this day its hard to raise more than 2, we struggle sometimes but its well worth it.

Answer 8

Let me preface my answer with the fact that I don't really like children. I think that 2 kids should be the maximum for any family. That way, if both kids are being little terrors, there is 1 parent to control each kid.

Answer 9

The more the better!
As many as you can support, love and educate to become good citizens. Some ppl this means 1, others may be many more.
Private matter for you and your spouse.

Answer 10

i think this depends on how many you can afford... There'snot a specific number. How many kids do you want? If you can afford havng as kids as you want, then go for it!!!