How does a mother of 7 find any real time for herself?

Answer 1

when they go to bed. Good Luck.

Answer 2

It can be easier to have 7 than to have 2. The oldest two can be of great value in helping to care for the younger ones...and a reward for their contribution will assure they want to do a good job.
You can do your shopping at night, when Dad is at home, and the younger children are already in bed.
You can get out with your gal friends on Dad's day off, leaving him in charge.
If you want an evening off WITH Dad, ask Grandma and Grandpa to come over, again, making sure the younger ones are ready for bed, so that all the grands have to do is be there and enforce the schedule.
Get organized, and get creative.
Other Mom's have the same delimma, so make friends with them and swap the babysitting so each can have time away from the pack.

I know you love them, and that they are tons of work, but organization is essential to any family. Children respond better when they know exactly your expectations, and when you use the REWARD SYSTEM.
The reward system is they have something taken away when they good up, and they get something when they do well. It's great incentive to do well.

Keep chugging Mom. When you're old you will be surrounded by adult children and grandchildren that love you for being their source of love and guidance.

stw

Answer 3

You don't. You have to MAKE the time. Even if its only 10-15 min. every day. If your kids are old enough to talk their old enough to understand when you tell them that Mommy is on a Time Out from them for a few minutes. The world wont come to an end if you make them wait a few minutes for what they want. If they arent all old enough to understand that then try putting everyone to bed 10 minutes early and use the time to relax and do something you enjoy. Also try giving the kids chores to help you out. Even the youngest can pick up clothes and put them in a basket. That will save you alot of time that you can use later. Its hard to make the time but once you get the hang of it you'll never give it up.

Answer 4

It's to difficult specialy if you are a single mother, I think the onlt thing you'll have time foyourself is when you are sleeping. But if you are quite well off, take a day break and leave the kids with a nanny and enjoy yourself either alone or friends. You need to do that once a while or you'lll be leaving a miserable life. Also if your kids are older, ask them to help you, do the errand in the house and look after the young siblings.

Hope it helps.

Answer 5

When they go to school/nursery - and you don't need to spend all that time doing chores.

Your older kids can start making their own beds and tidying their rooms from about 6 years old. They can put their dirty laundry in the basket and away their clean clothes too. Younger ones can help put their toys away. A bit older they can start helping round the house too, doing dishes etc.

If you have even just an hour, once a week when you don't have anything else to do, spend it totally on yourself. Paint your nails, put on a face pack, listen to nice music, relax! Your kids will find they have a better, happier mum if you get a bit of time off.

Answer 6

I have only one child and it's still hard to find time for yourself. I know with 7 it is nearly impossible. Assuming that you are single. Maybe a family member can babysit for an hour or two for you or if you are not single pick one day a week or even a month that is your night. Go out with a friend, or to a movie or even just take a bubble bath and go to bed early. Go to your town and see what kind of free activities that they offer for children. I know where I live the library have shows for children. You can bring them there than have that hour to yourself....

Answer 7

A mother of 7 must love children very much. Her real time is the time spent sharing with her kids. That's her quality time, and her kids love her for that.

Answer 8

Find a friend to stay with the kids and go to the park with a good book for an hour. OR, just take the kids to the park and let them loose and put the older ones in charge of the younger ones. Don't forget your book.

Answer 9

Parents of children, make a decision that even when they just have one child, that they will sacrifice what time it takes in order to raise their children the best they can. You made this decision 7 times. Unless your children's grandparents want them all to sleep over. Quit being selfish and live up to the decision YOU made. You get your time, when it's given to you. Kidz at school / after bedtime / at nap time. Now, quit whinning and enjoy the fact you were blessed with 7 children and learn to love watching them as they grow up and be a possitive role model in their lives. Oh yeah....and don't blame them about it. You decided to have them. THey never had a chance to decide to have you, but they will later on, and depending on how you spend your time. Can have a great effect on that. And yes, I have 3 kidz myself.

Answer 10

I have 2 and one on the way, and I've found as corny as it sounds that I take the trips to the grocery store etc alone. This may not seem like time alone to a lot of people but it's nice to be out somewhere and not have the little ones, even if it's just the grocery store...LOL

Answer 11

YOU WONT FIND TIME FOR YOURSELF, BUT YOU CAN MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF , YOU HAVE TO JUST DO IT PICK A TIME AND ESCAPE IF ONLY FOR AN HOUR. GO ON PUT YOUR FEET UP TAKE A WALK IN THE PARK THEY PROBABLY WONT REALIZE YOU MISSING TILL YOU GET BACK