Why I cannot talk to others properly?

Question

Whenever I talk to someone, I felt nervous and my thoughts doesnt seem to match words that comes out from my mouth. I suspect I have serious problem with my self-confident and I am also over cautious about my slang as i am not a English native speaker.

Answer 1

First of all you are trying to be more than what you are. Avoid pretending. Try to be genuine and realistic. There can be mistakes when you talk. Quality is attained gradually. All of a sudden no one can be the best. Time and efforts are needed. While trying to improve give attention to those who speak proper language. Take some time in the evening to refer dictionary to solve your doubts.

Answer 2

Do you think in English when you talk in English? Translating words and thoughts as you go is not very effective and it creates problems. I have learned a couple of other languages and I guarantee a stumble if I translate word for word. The best thing is to keep going and to keep using it. There will be times that you say the wrong thing, but people around should understand and cut you some slack.
Being cautious about slang and humour is a good thing because they are the last to come in the learning of a language.

Answer 3

This is because you have undergrade yourself among people,thinking that you are not fit in the position which you are. Also you do not compose yourself and your thought well before speaking to people.Put in boldness and do not compromise whenever you speak

Answer 4

I have the same problem sometimes. try taking a few deep breaths before you speak

Answer 5

Talking is loud thinking.Learn to think in English (as it is not your mother tongue ).That may take some time.But it works.

Answer 6

you are afraid to be laughed at.Build your confidence and practice conversations.dont be afraid and sometimes a sense of humor is needed to fall back on.

Answer 7

think about what you want to say before you say it. thats what i do in spanish class.