i dont know what should i do?? it just an accident!!! i know this is not an excuse for this problem but we aint ready?? were too young, we have so many plans for ourselves...she's delayed for about 3 weeks and possible she's got pregnant!!! But we aren't yet sure, she will consult a doctor by next week.. both of us agreed that this is not the right time. We don't have any plans to get married for now. What should i do?? We been thinking to use Cytotec? But we don;t know or have idea about this drugs.
2006-06-24 01:52:49 · 39 answers · asked by fhenzyjun 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If she is she is there's nothing you can do about it now. But, you can however make an adult decision....do you keep the baby or give it up for adoption?...Think about this...there are sooo many people in the world that want a child sooo desperately & yet they can not have kids of their own. If you & your gf decide you are not ready for this child do the honorable thing & bless a family with this child. An adoptive family would pay for the entire pregnancy & you could pick the family you want to adopt him/her if you wanted to. What to you is a burden would be someone elses dreams come true. At only 7 weeks along or sooner you can see the babies heart beating plz dont kill this little blessing but give him/her the gift of life, love & happiness. Sure your parents might get mad or be disappointed but they would get over it, trust me. Think about it...arent you glad your parents didnt abort you. My best friend is adopted & she was raised by parents that thought she was the soon, moon, & stars. She was loved beyond imagine & still is. I'm so thankful that her mom decided to give her up for adoption & not kill her in an abortion. I can't imagine life without her. Please if your gf is pregnant, give this sweet baby to a couple that so desperately longs for this chance. God will bless you for it. Please get the facts before you do anything hasty. And if your gf is not pregnant then take better precautions next time. God bless.
2006-06-24 03:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is not that your girlfriend got pregnant, you got your girlfriend pregnant. This is not just happening to her, you know! No accident! I'm sure you were there making the wrong choice too. There are many ways to have safe sex these days. THINK ABOUT IT! Start here: Take a pregnancy test. If it is positive, go to the Dr. to confirm it. If you two are pregnant, it is time to Stand up and be a man. You are now the proud father of baby with a heartbeat. Get both sets of parents together at the same time, in the same place, (it will be harder for them to make an *** of themselves finding this out in front of the other parents) and discuss your options. Sex is an adult act, act like an adult. What ever you do...do not get a drug, that is not prescribed and its results not monitored by a doctor, and let that girl, that you love, risk her life getting rid of a life, just because you two made a bad choice one night. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-01 22:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont know how much I can help ya but please dont use cytotec or any other method. that isnt the answer. Accidents happen. I was 14 when i had my first and yes thats very young but with the fathers help and my parents we made it just fine. A baby is the most wonderfull thing in the world. Yeah neither of you might not be ready but you should of took some actions before having sex. Just think about it and I hope I helped a bit if ya need someone to talk to my e-mail is melinda262005@yahoo.com and my yahoo messenger is the same.
2006-07-06 13:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Month 1
Mommy
I am only 8 inches long
but I have all my organs.
I love the sound of your voice.
Every time I hear it
I wave my arms and legs.
The sound of your heart beat
is my favorite lullaby.
Month Two
Mommy
today I learned how to suck my thumb.
If you could see me
you could definitely tell that I am a baby.
I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though.
It is so nice and warm in here.
Month Three
You know what Mommy
I'm a boy!!
I hope that makes you happy.
I always want you to be happy.
I don't like it when you cry.
You sound so sad.
It makes me sad too
and I cry with you even though
you can't hear me.
Month Four
Mommy
my hair is starting to grow.
It is very short and fine
but I will have a lot of it.
I spend a lot of my time exercising.
I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes
and stretch my arms and legs.
I am becoming quite good at it too.
Month Five
You went to the doctor today.
Mommy, he lied to you.
He said that I'm not a baby.
I am a baby Mommy, your baby.
I think and feel.
Mommy, what's abortion?
Month Six
I can hear that doctor again.
I don't like him.
He seems cold and heartless.
Something is intruding my home.
The doctor called it a needle.
Mommy what is it? It burns!
Please make him stop!
I can't get away from it!
Mommy! HELP me!
Mommy
I am okay.
I am in Jesus's arms.
He is holding me.
He told me about abortion.
Why didn't you want me Mommy?
Every Abortion Is Just . . .
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.
Please don't have an abortion! It is murder!!
2006-07-07 07:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by lady_dragonfly_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can anyone call a baby an accident?I guess when your mother was pregnant with you were a accident right?
It is to late to be scared.Now is the time to grow up and act like grown ups and take care of yall baby.The baby didnt ask to be bought up into this world.If yall dont know if she is pregnant,go to the doctor and have a blood test done to see for sure.If not,then take a home pregnancy test.
Ok,how young are we talking about?If yall cant take care of the baby and both of you dont have jobs,then why dont get the baby to a couple that cant.That would be a good choice.
I wish you and your girl the best of luck.Congrats and God bless
2006-07-06 06:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by ~Devilz~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get straight to the doctors, a well woman centre or a family planning clinic.
Real life scary, huh! Maybe now you'll realise why you should only have sex when you're both old enough to fully understand the consequences. When you're at the docs sorting this mess out, get yourself some proper contraception advice or education.
PS Getting pregnant is just an accident in the same way as driving in to a wall while drunk is just an accident.
2006-06-24 04:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want the baby, and you are not opposed to abortion. Consider it. Consult the doctor. Confirm the pregnancy, and see what your options are. Dont wait too long for going to the doctor.
Whatever you do give the girl support. As much as you are freaked out about this, you need to remember that it is happening to her body. She needs you to talk to, to support her, and to be there as a shoulder for her to cry on.
You are right it is an accident, one of the possible misfortunes that can occur as a result of having sex. BUT, you knew that. You just did not think it would happen to you. Don't let this accident ruin the plans you have for your life especially if you do not want to have a baby.
2006-07-06 20:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by sakeslug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better sit down and seriously think over your options and carefully decide because what you decide now could affect you for the rest of your life. There are many options out there and your local planned pregnancy agent, health dept, or several other agencies offer material on these. My main concern is why are you asking perfect strangers for an opinion on what could change your life forever. You should be talking to your girlfriend, friends, family, people that you respect and know that you can trust to have your best interests at heart. The main thing is not to beat yourself up over this and think hard before acting. You are not the first person to over go through this and it's not the end of life as you know it.
2006-06-24 02:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by tmoondove28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do mistake. Don’t blame yourself so badly. First of all buy instant pregnancy checker from drug store. Then check there is a positive result or not. If the result is positive then talk to doctor who have enough knowledge about this type of case. But first of all make sure that your girl friend is really pregnant. Don’t worry everything has solution. And next time have the proper protection before having sex.
2006-07-04 22:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by Maruf A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what the both of u feel is right but always know that if she is & the both of u don't want to keep it than u have 2 expect the fact that u guys might have guilt for the rest of your lives cause I know I would of but I decided to keep mine cause it's not far to play & the little one suffers when it didn't have a chance. My boyfriend & I talked about not keeping it but once I thought about it I couldn't live with that pain cause it's not it's fault when 2 people lay down to play. I'm happily 4 months & this was a mistake also but one last thing that I go by GOD ONLY gives people what he thinks they can handle. But follow ur heart hope this helped. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-07-07 11:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Fun girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋