i heard that best to have your boyfriend met your kids,when realtionship more serious or or at a certain months of dateing? so what is so called serious? and what months are best?
2006-06-24 01:44:34 · 4 answers · asked by it,sme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he knows i have kids,he met one them,at aget together, but was just quick hi. we been dateing for a while. his work shifts keep changeing ,which is hard. i was told there was no hurry.
2006-06-24 01:56:26 · update #1
there is not an exact time it changes by the type of your relationship but if you totally believe him you should met your kids with him, at the first your kids may not like him but believe me kids can sometimes adopt easilier than the adults. good luck :)
2006-06-24 01:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure you can really put a time frame on when it is best. I personally know from experience that once you introduce someone to your children the relationship takes a different turn, either for the better or the worse. My personal advice to you is to make sure first of all that he understands it is a package deal, second make sure that you can actually see yourself getting serious with the guy, serious meaning spending a great deal of time together and possibly living together. In my case, I get attached to the children quickly and their kids get attached to me quickly also, so make sure that before you bring them into your children's life that this is someone you can at least remain friends with for a long time. This will be much easier on all of you. Good Luck! ~Brandi~
2006-06-24 08:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by brandi91980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would worry about your kids' feelings more than him. If you think it is serious then it is fine, to have him meet them. What you don't want to do is to march several boyfriends (that don't end up working out) in front of your kids. If they get attached to one, then he leaves - it will be worse for the next guy. If your kids think that all mommy's boyfriends will someday go away (based on past boyfriends) - they will not want to get close to anyone.
2006-06-24 09:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by fffrrreeeddd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the kids should be in on the relationship from the beginning. does he know you have kids? did you tell him before your first date?
2006-06-24 08:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋