I am an active father and I spend time in several parenting chatrooms. They are mostly made up of SAHMs complaining. Why do women who "want" to stay at home with the kids act like it is a prison sentence and are constantingly whinning about it.
2006-06-24 00:21:30 · 13 answers · asked by butnozzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
because everyone wants what they don't have and it's a catch 22. here is the thought process in 6 month intervals.
I want to stay home and watch my baby grow up. I want to see all the fun firsts.
Man, this is harder than work. How about we put him in day care one day a week so I can get some rest?
How about we put him in day care and I go back to work?
work is hard and i barely make enough to pay for day care. Maybe I should stay home and watch him?
when are you going to turn 5 and go to school?
oh ****, i'm preggers again.
2006-06-24 00:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're getting a slightly skewed viewpoint by basing your premise on the chatrooms... EVERYONE has bad days, everyone sometimes complains about their job, and women, in particular, are likelier to vent their frustrations by seeking support and company....so the same women who are in the chat rooms may very well love their lives but you're just seeing them at bad moments.
Also, no matter how much a SAHM might adore being a SAHM, you must know that it's a choice they catch a lot of flack over, a lot of folks percieve homemaking as "doing nothing" and THAT is frustrating, in itself.
Lastly, there's some folks who'd whine if they were hung with new rope and those folks always seem to want an audience.
The disgruntled SAHM is rarer than you think, you just happened to find the gathering spot.
2006-06-24 08:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by UppityBroad68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love staying at home with my son! I got out of the Navy, a job I loved, to do it. What I hate is when my husband comes home and takes a nap until dinner and then sits in front of the TV. Or when he goes fishing all weekend. I know he has to work but being a stay-at-home mom is the toughest job I've had (and most rewarding). Sometimes I just want a break. We have one truck so I can't go to the store while he's working and when he comes home and I mention that I need to pick stuff up, he wants to stay at home and wants me to take our son! I know how hard it is to work and take care of a baby. When my husband went to Iraq our son was 3 months and I was still in the Navy. I didn't get to come home and sleep for three hours and then just sit on my ***. I want my husband to pitch in. I'm pregnant again and if something doesn't change soon, he's going to get a rude awakening! THAT is what I ***** about!
2006-06-24 08:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by proud_usmc_wife04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying at home with children is the hardest job in the world. It is also the most important. Sometimes, one can get so exhausted, that they do complain. I have also heard men complaining about their jobs. How tired they are and what long hours they put in. When a man comes home from work, usually they are done for the day. The woman on the other hand is never finished. She usually gets no help from her spouse. Women get tired too. So take it easy on them.
2006-06-24 07:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women prefer to stay-at-home, but that's not all they want to do or be seen as. Some like to volunteer or take classes or do something that's just "for them". Staying at home with/for the kids shouldn't turn into a 24/7 job. The mother should have some time to herself.
2006-06-24 07:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because men don't look at it as a job!! They think it relatively easy when in fact house work and dealing with children all day can be mentally draining. Men come home from a long day of work and expect the wife to be upbeat and not tired cause they were home all day. I'm sure that can be stressfull to some SAHMs.
2006-06-24 08:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by newburg_2_fine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like anything that is worth doing at all - it is a challenge. But the overall joy, the influence on the children's development, the long term JOY is immeasurable. It is a PRIVILEGE, though there are certain days and moments that the challenge is so great that is seems like a sentence for a moment.
2006-06-24 07:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they complain about satying homw with the kids because thats all they have to talk about. I mean, if your at homw all day with a bunch of runts who are screaming and crying, and spitting up on your favorite shirt, you woudl compain too. but, overall, i thing Moms like staying home with the kids, but sometimes they just crave understaning from other adults, and complaining about the kids or home life is a great converstion starter.
2006-06-24 07:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by alyssabeth2304 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they dont use their time wisely,I am a stay at home mom and when the house work is done its time to play!!!!We take adventures all the time,to the park,swimming,shopping,movies,you name it.I love being at home,if you wear the kids out during the day it means early bed times and more time to play with your partner.:)
2006-06-24 10:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're probably not getting out enough and there is no
balance in their lives.
They need the company of adults as well in their lives.
2006-06-24 07:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋