i've met a person at a work place who become a very good friend of mine.. i know that he likes me but i want more than that... he admitted before that he's afraid of making any move so if we got together and then we blew it he'll loose me... but i'm getting tired of waiting and afraid what if he's playing me and gonna change his mind about me after he gets what he wants from me? what do you think i should do? i think i'm falling for him...
2006-06-24 00:20:22 · 13 answers · asked by flisety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you honestly believe that you're falling for him, then i think you've already decided to become just friends. maybe you two should do something date-like and see what happens. if you think you might have an actual future with this man than i think that supercedes everything else, especailly if you think you might already love him. take it to the next step. (if you're worried about him playing you than just take the next few steps slower than you normally would).
2006-06-24 00:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say you've met a guy at "a work place." If that means you work together, then DON'T DO IT. Do NOT date anyone with whom you work. You may WANT to, you may have all kinds of feelings for him, but DON'T date him when you work together. It doesn't matter whether or not your workplace is a small company or huge corporation, just DON'T date ANYONE who's in the same workplace.
Your thinking seems to be, "I like him. He likes me. That's enough to take a chance. Let's do it!" It's fine that YOU feel that way but he says HE IS reluctant because if you get together and it doesn't work out he'll lose you. You refuse to accept that and you're "getting tired of waiting."
"Flisety," he's not yours just because you like him. Your thinking that way could be your vanity getting the best of you.
What if the roles were reversed? He pursued you and you were reluctant? Would you want him to continue to pursue you? Or would you want him to leave you alone?
He could be insecure. He could have just gotten out of a relationship. He could be scared to date someone at work. He could be just a wimp, and even though he's attracted to you doesn't want to date you. You'll never KNOW for sure.
You say you're afraid he's playing you and gonna change his mind about you after he gets what he wants from you. Now that's YOU being insecure. And if you pursue him that could be exactly what happens. So, please don't beat up yourself. like that.
Respect his wish.
You offered, he declined. Move on.
2006-06-24 07:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by cboni2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either do it or don't. Even if he's playing you, taking it slow won't change a thing. He'll just think of it as more of a challenge and dump you afterwards anyway. If he does like you then hopefully it works out. Because if it doesn't you'll both be working together and that almost never works out. If you think you love him and you're not even really doing anything yet much less dating then you have problems and should leave him alone. He doesn't need your psycho drama ruining his workplace.
2006-06-27 12:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing for you would be to make a move, keep it simple, ask him out for a casual dinner or coffee. Somewhere quiet and clam then when you both are a little relaxxed then try to push the topic, this should be a perfect enviornment for him to say whats in his mind and if he doesnt, then just ask him and see his reaction. Strongly observe his reaction, if he gets really smooth all of a sudden, then hes got other intentions, proceed with caution.
2006-06-24 07:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by mystri_guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like maybe you two need to sit down and communicate with each other (verbally). Find out what's up with the individual, and clear the air. Lay your cards out on the table with him and he do the same. Have a serious talk about where your relationship is going!
Honey, I do not know what else to tell you. You will know it when you fall in Love. It appears to me like your falling for the guy but your unsure of the relationship with him. That is what love can do to you. Been there done that.
2006-06-24 07:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by MARK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're okay with making the first move then go for it. However, if you question his intentions you may want to pause a minute and figure out if that is just you second guessing things, or if it's a vibe he's sending off. If it's just you, go for it, what do you have to lose? Nothing if you know that he likes you. Good luck :)
P.S. I wish I had the guts you do ;) good job
2006-06-24 07:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see someone not having a job soon...not good to date someone you work with because of jealousy from either side which turns into fighting and breaking up then having a bad situation between you at work. Find someone else.
2006-06-24 07:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a fling, affair or dating someone in your work place is not a good situation. Lots of problems could arise and some companies forbid this.
2006-06-24 07:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a move. You will never know if he'll leave after he "get's what he wants" if you don't atleast make the move and see where things go.
2006-06-24 07:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what can i say??? if you really have feelings for this guy why dont you just fight for it.. or confront him bout it, & tell him that you're sick of waiting for him... you 2 can take the risk right, cause if not, how will you be able to know if you are really for each other...
2006-06-24 07:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by chiekboane04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋