I know this sounds like all of the other questions, but please help me out. I met my friend about a year ago now, we met through some friends, and he's made a few comments in passing, but I had a boyfriend back then. However, over 2 months ago, my boyfriend and I split (we are still friends), and my guy friend and I started hangin out more. At first he made a comment about how he didn't want a relationship or anything at this time (I am not sure why he said it, b/c we weren't even talking about that at the time) and then about 3 weeks back he stated that now that he has his residence papers, he wants to find that one person you know, and he's made that comment twice now, and we hang out, and it's a lot of fun, and he's so sweet, and I just don't know what to do or if he is interested. I don't want to mess this up because I really like him, and today we are helping a friend more and the he is coming to mine for dinner tonight. Any suggestions would be appreciated. BTW I am pretty shy.
2006-06-23 23:57:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
added details guys, ummm in Canada (here) residence papers means you are in the country and your own will for as long as you want, he said that's why he waited, because he didn't want some people thinking that is why he is dating Canadians :) just to clear that up. thanks
2006-06-24 00:07:56 · update #1
I truly blieve the man is very interested in you, he has given so many subtle hints. It appears that both of you are a little shy and maybe he is afraid of being rejected by you, then possibly losing the friendship. I believe both of you are thinking on the same lines, it's just no one wants to make the first move.
But someone has to, if you two want to take this thing to another level. I suggest you go through with this dinner, yes make it extra special and if he is feeling the same mood that you are feeling then you will know it by his actions. I understand you being shy, but if you want this and he wants this, someone has got to break the ice. If you want to keep just hanging out and just let things happen, maybe your next outting can be a movie, then a picnic, a walk in the park and or at the beach. After all of that, someone is bound to break the ice...
Good Luck!!!
2006-06-24 02:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by ms2goood2btrue 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its always difficult to read a persons mind and know their intentions... been good freinds, its quite possible he is sharing his feeling with u... he is also aware abt. ur breakup, which occured 2 months back, and hence he doesnt want to push u... he is also taking calulated steps... i understand u r shy by nature... and he is important to u today... if u feel if he proposes and u would accept in that case u now need to think, how to make him speak out to u more openly... both u and he needs to be comfortable while u both talk... dinner time, i am not sure will be the right time... but, an even walk after a days work.. is apt... all i want to say touch and words speaks volumes... expres ur self with words... dont go round and round.. stick to ur topic.. and u can always write back...
2006-06-24 00:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by TOTO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all sounded like a whole lot of good times...till you threw in that one small line,,,,,"now he has got his residence papers"
"and he wants to find that one person you know"
Well this means he is looking for that one person 'you know' who will let him stay permanently in the country,before his residency papers expire. He is looking for a woman gullible enough to think he loves her, who will marry him and allow him to get permanent residency. Don't fall for this trick, its very common and pulled by Asian and East Indian men all the time in countries from Britain and Australia to the US...
You have been warned....
2006-06-24 00:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is ready to settle down. If you are shy then just this once you need to open up to him. If you don't and he meets someone else, imagine how hard it would be for you to deal with. He is DEFINATELY interested in you. Take a chance and either tell him how you feel or, just lean over and kiss him after dinner. I bet he won't back away.
2006-06-24 00:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you could make the dinner extra romantic, in a really obvious way. Low lights, candles, you putting extra effort into your appearance. Table looking good. Long lingering looks. Plenty of wine, even champagne, and let him do the rest??
2006-06-24 00:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by baroness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it sloooow, boyfriends are a dime a dozen but good friends are rare - take it real easy, if he is making those comments he may be telling his buddy (you) what is coming next, just let him tell you in his own time and if you are not the one then its ok you still have a great friend remember slow, slooooooooow
2006-06-24 00:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to be yourself, move slowly, and accept whatever happens. I know what it's like to have your heart racing, and you want more from them, like a relationship, but if you move slowly,and let it build, it's much better. Have fun today, and enjoy being around your guy. Hope it happens for you!
2006-06-24 00:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inform him about ur attraction towards him. Depending on his reply, act accordingly.
2006-06-24 00:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by HarRY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Take the chance. Tell him EXACTLY how you feel. I think you will not be disappointed.
2006-06-24 00:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by contrafilms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were interested in you you would know
2006-06-23 23:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋