I am really depressed.My parents are always fighting and i just can't stand no more.?

Question

They are fighting all the time and i don't know what to do,cuz i don't want my parents to get divorced.And they are always nervous and....
Please tell me what to do to help them or i will run away from home or i will kill my self.

Answer 1

Now now... look here dear,
Adults end up facing a hell lot of stress in life, stress at work, stress at home and what not... Sometimes it just plain breaks through the exterior and manists itself as squabbles at home. Listen to me carefully, try what I tell you to and tell me the result.
Next time your parents start quarrelling or you feel they're gonna quarrel, try to change the topic of discussion that has led to the tension. Next, when you find one of your parents in a good mood take them aside and confide your troubles to him or her. Do the same later with the other. Tell them that their quarrels are disturbing you and share your feelings with them. Tell them that life is all about concentrating on the positive... not the negative.... Ask them to let go of their 'GOTCHA' attitude of pointing out mistakes in one another and ask them to appreciate one another's good points, what I cal the 'WELL DONE' attitude. It is only when we see the good in others that we can lead a peaceful life. By that, I don't mean that we've to ignore the bad. Lets take an example: suppose your dad has done something your mom doesn't like, she shouldn't get angry, instead, she should tell him that his behavior pains her and that she knows that he can always do better. She shouldn't say that all he does is bad. Tell your parents this and ask them to try it out for a coupla months, for you. Believe me, the change will be better than you can imagine.

*When you notice a rose bush filled with roses, admire the rose but not the thorn. Just be aware of the thorn* Keep this in mind and tell this to your parents too.

(P.S.: I had the same problem too. The solution I mentioned above worked for me)

Answer 2

Tell them how you feel about the situation. Communication is the key in these situations. Tell them how you hurt inside when they fight. Don't find fault or lay blame when you do this. Just let it all out, how you love both of them and you really don't want them to get divorced. Maybe telling each of them separately would be better, then tell them again when they are together so they can see each other's reaction to you.

Try to get them to open up to you; when people are arguing, they aren't really saying what's really bugging them, they're often hiding it with some other issue.

Creating an environment of trust so they can open up is important. Ask them to see a marriage counsellor. Some work on a sliding pay scale; they charge less if you don't make much money. Good luck!

Answer 3

Let them fight...they are trying to resolve their problems and find solutions, plus if they are fighting, its because they still care.
There are things we can't understand because we haven't live enough to understand. One day you will grow up, and have your own family, than you will understand better your parents fight.
Just keep a thing in your mind, isn't not your thought, you are not the reason for it or responsible for their fights....most kids tends to think they are responsible for their parents fight, but the reality, is they are not.
Another thing....They are fighting because they care, if they stop to fight its because they gave it up and they will be much more close to get apart, and if this becomes to be the solution, be happy because there are a solution.
On my case didn't have a solution, because I got widow one year after I had gotten married...so try to be strong, for yourself and for them too....sooner or later, we all have to be strong, because I don't know if you ever heard the "Only The Strong's Survive"!!!
I wish you good luck and be strong for them feel strong too.
Don't ever think on killing yourself...doesn't matter how bad things are, sooner or later it will pass and all get well.

Answer 4

Firstly i just want you to know that none of ur parents agruements are ur fault. i have just been through my parents divorce and it was tough. but sometimes its better for them to get divorced than cause you all this pain and heart ache. it does make you feel better knowing that when you get home from school or work and know that you arent going to go home to a war zone. i might suggest that you see a counsellor near you. possibly at your school or even ur local doctor. thats what i did and i felt so much better after talking bout how i feel about the situation. hopefuly ur parents will sort things out but even if they do get divorced just remember that things are for the best and it isnt ur fault. u and ur family r in my prayers

Answer 5

well the best way out to this is to talk.talk about the probs ..whenever ur mom is alone u talk to her ..but mind it no direct questions..just in very cool way ..same with ur dad..what basically i wanna say is reduce the communication gap coz that is the only reason.whenever u think they are about to argue u be the mid person.. think logically n give them a word of advice & if that too dsen't work go for proffessional councelling.spend more time with them.

Answer 6

Sometimes adults fight and don't realize how hurtful and upsetting it can be for those around them. It might help if you talk to your parents and tell them how sad you feel about their fights and tell them about your fears they might get divorced. I know it's hard, but their relationship problems are not your fault. You can't "fix" it for them. Try to talk to them and let them know how much you're hurting over this. They may be so worried about their own stuff they haven't noticed.

Answer 7

dON'T TALK LIKE THAT.I don't know your age, but I suppose that you are young, so you have for what to live.Just talk to them and say them that you don't want to hear them fighting.Give them time, maybe they will make some kind of agreement.But if they continue fighting then maybe is better to get divorced.I know that you don't want that (the children always suffer the most) but maybe the things will be more easier for them.If you can't hear them, you can go out, or go somwhere peaceful where you can focus on other things.

Answer 8

run into the room they're fighting in and start hyperventilating and say, I can't breath - I can't breath!! and when they ask why, always claim you don't know why but you just can't!! when they ask if you want to go to the hospital you say yes!! and then when they get you in the car, belch! and say.. ,"I dunno. I feel better now. I don't think I need to go to the hospital". And everytime they fight... do this very same thing. They'll get the hint after a while. :-) hehe

Answer 9

You should sit them both down and tell them how you feel because the other two options you provided will only make things worse.

Answer 10

talk to them.. tell them what you feel... running away from home or killing yourself is not the best way to do... dont escape from problems face it... ask them why they are always fighting... tell them that youre not happy with your situation..