I wanna knw the reason as they say love brings happiness!!!But most of the time it brings tears!!! :-(
2006-06-23 21:52:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
loves hurts so much because we sit around thinking that our partners would never do anything to hurt us and every kind word that they tell us we feed into it and think he or she loves me and they'll never do anything to hurt me and that their so wonderful and when something does go wrong it's unexpected and it con-fusses us and it ends up causing us pain
2006-06-26 21:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by anniemae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The feelings happen more or less influenced by how we think. What you end up experiencing is partly what you feel at first, and then what you feel about how you think about what you felt at first. In this way a smaller bad feeling can be turned into a huge overwhelming one. The thing that our thoughts add to feelings is meaning. We think about what we sense, and then once we decide what it means, we have a huge reaction to the meaning. Those second emotions are what knock the world apart. The first feelings are just unpleasant, until we decide what they mean. Therefore, meaning the more you know, the more your thoughts tend to have a good influence on your bad feelings. the less you know, the more likely it is that your thoughts will only make bad feelings much worse. I'm not talking about high IQ, I'm just talking about the kind of knowledge you gain from experience. Once you have seen that you can survive the end of a love, it no longer means the same dire things. The good news is that hearts are not brains. Even while you are having thoughts about how horrible it is that your heart is broken, all your heart needs to feel better is the idea that the next love is right around the corner. When your thoughts stop making you feel bad, your heart will be more than ready to love again. In this situation you get to be about as miserable as you decide to be. Stop thinking about what is lost and look forward again. There will be someone new, and life will be great again. It may also help to consider that time spent between loves can be happy as well. It often helps to be on your own for a while, but don't waste the meanwhile by thinking about the last one and feeling bad. All that does is make you an expert at making yourself miserable. Use your time between loves to make yourself happy in other ways. that takes your mind off the past, and feels good. Once you have got back to feeling good again for normal daily reasons, you will be presentable again and not some wallowing mass of self-pity wracked by pain, which we all spend time being now and again. Always remember Love is all about love. Pain is about loss, not love. Loss is an event, and shouldn't become who you are and all that you feel.
2006-06-25 05:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its somewhat fixed in the minds that love synonyms with candle light dinners,long drives and long stem-ed red roses.but its not exactly like what it is portrayed in any mills and boons story.love brings tears to cleanse our eyes so that we see the happiness that it will bring,sooner or later,clearly.sadness makes us realize how important the small moments of happiness are!!!
2006-06-24 05:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by upd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts because when we are in love we drop our guard we leave our selves open we reveal our weaknesses and our inner most desires when love is true the one we show our selves to will take these and strengthen them they will stand at your side and help you along. But when love isn’t meant to be they become a target and the one you’ve shown will use them when it suts them best
2006-06-24 05:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by kitsune_hikage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely, you're choosing the wrong men. Know what you want. And definitely know what you don't want and what your deal breakers are. Don't settle for less...trust me you have this high bar and each time you go against what you want it goes lower and lower till the bar's hit the floor. Pay attention in the beginning, don't ignore signs. So know what you want and be willing to be strong to cut it loose.
2006-06-24 05:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by SusaJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tears are not necessarily a sign of sorrow...
tears are an out flow of EMOTIONS...
more happiness brings tears to your eyes.....
well!!!! as you see lady, i have just told you something which can make you understand.... about PERCEPTIONS.......
you defined tears as sorrow, i defined it as a sign of happines.....
IT IS THE WAY HOW YOU SEE THINGS..... you can take it negatively, or can take it positively....
life is all about taking things as they come and taking all in a positive sense.... i.e. if you wann be happy....
take care
2006-06-24 05:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it brings tears & happiness, so why think so much? juz get it over & find the happiness
2006-06-24 05:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by jason18syh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE YOU LET LOVE TO HURT.Try to think differently about that phrase you wrote, it works.I was thinking the same, two months ago, but now I don't give it to hurt me any more.
2006-06-24 05:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only hurts when it's broken, and then I ask God why my dog died after my dad started smoking crack after the rest of my family died in the plane crash. I come onto Yahoo! Answers to forget these things, but thanks for reminding me of them I'm going to kill myself now.
2006-06-24 05:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by Tony, ya feel me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is a felling that is very deep and as they say love hurts
2006-06-24 04:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by Dustin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋