My neighbor is a"young female thug" so is her boyfriend(which is the onsite manager's son),we didn't like each other from the start, I am eveything she's not and vice versa. The boyfriend knows everyone cause he's lived in that area for a while. I don't know anyone around the complex, I work on my truck, I hear "she's a slut" or "she's on dope cause she cleans everyday" or "she thinks she's better than us" I keep to myself. My neighbors have turned my other neighbors against me,when I haven't done not one thing to anyone. I'm thinking KARMA?
2006-06-23 21:43:23 · 10 answers · asked by thefemalerule 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I put a camera up so I can record the harrassment, It caused more harrassment for a few days, then my neighbors act as though I'm the one harrassing them. Gosh. I even helped her furnish her home, took care of her children and so forth. Let's see, I don't kiss her boyfriends butt like the other tenants. That is why they treat me as they do.
2006-06-23 21:56:17 · update #1
Do it the old fashioned way, take up black magick.
2006-06-23 21:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here are some things you can do to combat psychological and verbal bullying. They're also good tips to share with a friend as a way to show your support:
Ignore the bully and walk away. It's definitely not a coward's response - sometimes it can be harder than losing your temper. Bullies thrive on the reaction they get, and if you walk away, or ignore hurtful emails or instant messages, you're telling the bully that you just don't care. Sooner or later the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother you. Walk tall and hold your head high. Using this type of body language sends a message that you're not vulnerable.
Hold the anger. Who doesn't want to get really upset with a bully? But that's exactly the response he or she is trying to get. Bullies want to know they have control over your emotions. If you're in a situation where you have to deal with a bully and can't walk away with poise, use humor - it can throw the bully off guard. Work out your anger in another way, such as through exercise.
Don't get physical. However you choose to deal with a bully, don't use physical force (like kicking, hitting, or pushing). Not only are you showing your anger, you can never be sure what the bully will do in response.
Talk about it. It may help to talk to a guidance counselor, teacher, or friend - anyone who can give you the support you need. Talking can be a good outlet for the fears and frustrations that can build when you're being bullied.
Find your (true) friends. If you've been bullied with mean rumors or gossip, all of the above tips (especially ignoring and not reacting) can apply. But take it one step further to help ease feelings of hurt and isolation. Find one or two true friends and confide that mean gossip has hurt your feelings. Set the record straight by telling your friends quietly and confidently what's true and not true about you. Hearing a friend say, "I know the rumor's not true. I didn't pay attention to it," can help you realize that most of the time people see gossip for what it is - petty, rude, and immature.
2006-06-24 04:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Crash&Burn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. I hate to say this, but you really should move. There are unreasonable people on Earth and your neighbor sounds unreasonable. You should be comfortable and relaxed in your own home and not only is that not happening, it sounds like it's not going to happen any time soon. Are you young and living with your parents? If so, you really need to speak with them about this and impress on them the importance of your personal safety. If you are an adult, document some of what happens and try and get out of your lease by telling the owner about the abuse. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-24 04:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by irmamontez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with 2 other people who answered you. Sometimes it is better to just move unless some miracle happens and they see you for the nice person that you say you are.
Sometimes we do things to bug people and we are not even aware of doing it. Do some soul searching and if not, just try to stay away from them.
Don't let it bug you. You don't really want friends like that anyway, do you?
Find some good friends. Good Luck!!
2006-06-24 05:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away... You don't need that kind of treatment.. If you stay there your anger will fester and soon you will be just like them... I think your neighbor is just jealous of you and putting false testimony against you.. Don't give them the satisfaction.. There are other neighborhoods better than that one.. Move out and live a better life and tranquility will rule your world... good luck...
2006-06-24 12:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them be as they are. And for your neighbors, just try to talk to the people who are a bit better than the others, sure they'll be some guys better than the other people, who'll have some feelings. Just try talkin' to them and first of all just try to ignore 'em. If you don't get troubled, they'll think that they do not matter in your life and I hope they'll automatically go away.
BEST OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-24 04:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to consider moving. But if that is not an option and they really are harassing you, you may need to call the police and make a report. You can take your police reports and get a restraining order.
2006-06-30 19:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, you're screwed. Some things were never meant to be.
Sorry to put it out to you like that, but it already starts out that bad, you're doomed.
Unless you can find a better place, far away from that zone.
2006-06-24 04:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by Tunkson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move
2006-06-24 08:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk back to her, don't let her push you around.
2006-06-24 04:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋