ive been dating this guy for a month we just found out his ex is pregnant with his baby she is having it he doesnt want it. i think i should step away and let them do them. even though he still wants to be with me
2006-06-23 21:01:57 · 33 answers · asked by tanisha61878 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GO!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-23 21:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him figure out his situation before you start demanding a decision from him. Believe it or not, he is in a very difficult situation. Some would say he should stay and be a father to the baby, others would say that a child cannot develop properly in a home with a strained parental relationship. It is a moral decision on his part and you need to look at it from that perspective. Whether he wants or doesn't want to be a father to his child can tell you a lot of things about him as a person. Will his decision mesh with your moral standards and ethics? What would you want him to do if you were in the ex-girlfriend's shoes?
2006-06-23 21:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the guy I would stay with him! I mean when his ex girlfriend got pregnant, that was before you. I would tell him to be apart of the baby's life, no child should grow up without a father, and you two could still be together. Your boyfriend and his ex should try to talk, about the baby and money issues, ect. But if you have strong feelings for this boy, I wouldn't let his past destroy a good thing you two have! Good Luck, and Best Wishes!
2006-06-23 21:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that...
You two can still be together. There's no reason for him to leave you because the ex girlfriend is pregnant. He SHOULDN'T ignore her. He is the father and he has to help out. It doesn't mean get back with her and get married. He should help out with baby needs and money. He, by law, has to pay child support. It would be ridiculous for him to leave you for his EX girlfriend. Obviously something between them didn't work out or else they would have stayed together, right? So why throw two people who don't really like each other back together and then throw a baby in the mix. That is just pure suicide.
So basically, he should stay with you, however he cannot let his ex go through the baby stuff alone. That is just brutal.
2006-06-23 21:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this situation, if you are willing to put up with the drama that is going to be coming in the next few months, then go ahead. But you just started dating this guy for a month you really have nothing to ties you to this guy. My man and I, we started dating for about 3 month then,"Surprise", we find out his ex is pregnant, then we find out I was pregnant. Our kids are 1 month apart,exactly, I had twins, but they would have been 2 months apart. He's with me still, don't get me wrong, I love my twin girls and they are 10, but I would have done things differently. Don't stay just to prove to yourself that you can deal with a situation and him not wanting anything to do with her or the baby you can kind of see what he's like or what he's going to be like with you if there is a future. She will give you all the drama you don't need. Put yourself in her shoes and he doesn't want anything to do with you. You've only been dating for a month. It'll hurt but someone else will come along, just like he came along after the guy before him, maybe with less stress for your life.
2006-06-23 21:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by coconut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i first got with my husband his ex was pregnant i didn't leave and now we been married 4 years and have 3 kids and we still see his daughter as much as possible but the decision is up to you and if u want to basically want to have a step child
2006-06-23 21:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by kareni23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord let him go. What a dog...he wants to be with you...what happens if you get pregnant?...
Yes you are wise to think of leaving. You don't want to be tangled in this mess. Let them deal with it. He's a jerk and the girl may start giving you drama in the future if you're with him...do you really want to deal with that grief? It's much easier to break up with him since it's only been a month then one year from now.
Send him on his merry way and wish him luck when child support comes knocking on his door.
2006-06-23 22:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by SusaJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, run, don't walk, to the nearest exit. He has made his choice by getting her pregnant, then the worthless weasel won't even do the honorable thing and be supportive to the child that he created. What is it you see in a guy like that that would make it hard for you to decide whether to stay with him (or not).
2006-06-23 21:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep away. The man you are dating has not finished his first responsiblities. He has shown himself unresponsible. Let him take care of what he needs to do, and if things are just fine, then go ahead and start where you left off. Remember that life will always go on! Cheers!
2006-06-23 21:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jesse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his decision to make about the baby. As long as you realize that he will be part of the child's future, I don't see why you need to leave. Try giving it some time and see where everything goes from here. This kink in your relationship doesn't have to be the end.
2006-06-23 21:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by mopargrapeape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT!!!! For the love of God if you dont have strong passionate feelings for this guy then get out now. Even if you do, I still suggest that you cut your ties. he's commited to the child now, and if he isnt, if he walks away from that responsability, then do you really want him? think of your self first and you will be happy, and in the end, him too.
2006-06-23 21:07:42 · answer #11 · answered by tjcsonofallnations 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋