I have a very close friend who lives on a different continent than me. I sent her an email three weeks ago, and she hasn't written back. I know that she has been online regularly since I sent the email, as our mutual friends have mentioned chatting on MSN (which I don't use). Her birthday is coming up, and I feel kind of bitter about sending a card when she can't be bothered to reply to my email. Do you think I should send her a proper card, a quick email, or nothing at all? Why?
2006-06-23 19:41:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Wow, I went through something similar. I would mail the card and continue to be a good friend. So when you reach the point of confrontation you could say that you upheld your end of the bargain by being a loyal friend. Any chane in attitude will lead to both sides being bitter. Remember, be who you were and do what you normally do until you can find out why things are the way they are. Relax, and think it through.
2006-06-23 19:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by EmersonCyclist 1 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Well, you could blow her off because she hasn't contacted you but then again that would be lowering yourself. You should think the best and send her a card or what ever you will send with a note in it from your heart as to how you feel in regards to your freindship with her and wish her a happy birthday. If she on her part responds and it turns out that she was going through some changes or whatever it was/is and your card and message stirred her to respond and reconnect, then good. If she doesn't respond then you can at least walk away knowing inside you did your part as a friend(and peacemaker) to connect. You will not have lowered yourself and you will keep yourself from the pangs of bitterness.
Regards, Ammo
2006-06-24 15:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by ammoconfidential 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends. Did you really enjoy spending time with this person? I think that if you were really good friends with this person before she stopped replying to your emails, then you should send her a really cool card, and then maybe she will think about why she does not talk to you. She might be really busy, or she doesn't remember you. I think that it would be wrong to just forget someone, but it happens. Hopefully that is not what is going on in your case, but if it is. Tell her that you want the card back.
2006-06-23 19:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send an e-card for her birthday. It doesn't cost you anything and it may open the lines of communication so she gets in touch. If not, then you know for sure where things are. I don't really understand why people treat each other that way, but it seems like it's "common" to just shun someone rather than try to talk when there's a problem.
2006-06-23 19:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should send her a card becuz if she is a close friend then yes! i mean if she hasn't written back to u she's probably busy and doesn't have time to write back but a card could mean the world to some one!! or maybe give her a call that could meaan even more cuz that tells them that some 1 does care about them! and u could talk with her and ask the questions u need answered if needed!
2006-06-23 19:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Shayla <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should and in the card, you should ask where she has been all this time and that you heard that she's been online regularly and that you're wondering why she hasn't answered your email of 3 weeks ago. If you don't get a reply after this, I suppose she doesn't care about your friendship at all.
2006-06-23 19:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by lovebug2004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would send the card of you don't hear from her regarding the card she might be iterated with you? Did you send an e-mail that might have been misinterpreted? Could she have a problem that you don't know about.? Send the card. Give it a try and if nothing else see if she responds on your birthday or an upcoming holiday
2006-06-23 19:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by peacocktrail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would send her a card...maybe she has just been busy? My birthday is coming up too and I would love to get a card from someone I haven't talked to in awhile.
2006-06-23 19:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card, write small on the bottom, "Miss you, we gotta e-mail soon." something light and funny.
If she still doesn't respond, take that as a hint, she doesn't want to be friends anymore and move on. You really don't need to know why, it is her decision not yours, and there is nothing you can do about it.
2006-06-23 20:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her a card and make her feel bad for not getting back in touch with you, that's what i did and my friends called me the day she got it and apologized for not contacting me, but i found out that she was having a hard time at home too
2006-06-23 19:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋