b/f dumped me in an email... how to deal?

Question

my b/f & i were in a 2 yr ldr when he move in w/ me. everything was fine b4 he moved in. the entire time we were 2gether he had a job 4 only a month. it was hard finding a job down here. 2 solve the problem he went back up to his hometown 50 mi. away and then dumped me- a month b4 our 3 yr anniversary- in an email! i know we were fundamentally incompatible, but i still miss him because despite everything, he was the bf i ever had. i know i deserve better, but i cant stop thinking about him. is it the lack of closure? how do i get through (and over) this?

Answer 1

Well for close to three years you were trying your best to make it work, despite all the obstacles. So of course you're going to find it difficult now to break the habit of three years. But you have to change the way you're thinking of it. Your energy should no longer be on how do we make this work/repair this/overcome the distance and instead allow yourself to see him for what he TRULY is. Its there in your question. This is a guy who can't hold a job or doesn;t want to, he runs away and then he's too cowardly to do the decent, respectful thing of ending it in person.
As others have eloquently state, he's a loser. You MUST allow yourself to see him as that. That's the first step. Then keep taking baby steps. When was the last time you had to train yourself to break a habit of close to 3 years? Be gentle with yourself. There will be a sense of closure--that moment when you realize that you were not "dumped" but freed. And that you've been given a new chance to find happiness with someone who can treat you with respect, who will deserve all the love you're wasting on this Kevin Federline wannabe!

Answer 2

To be honest with you and this isnt what you want to take heed to yet he probably is only putting forward that so that you end attempting to sort it out. Im no longer being harsh yet my boyfriend broke up with me a month in the past through txt (on my 18th bday) and he suggested he'd ring and clarify yet guess wot im nevertheless waiting! I saved putting forward issues to him through textual content and he would reply and say textual content me in some days yet then he ultimately has textual content me putting forward there is not any probability and if he had suggested that properly on the beggingin per chance i'd have had a nicer birthday so i imagine you need to only stay your existence and then if he comes to a decision to attempt lower back you could yet dont wait round for him. you're nicely worth more advantageous than an e-mail and bigger than him xx

Answer 3

God that's low. How could somebody do something like that over an email!? I'm sorry, but I'm afraid that it'll take some time. Get out and meet new people.

Answer 4

Smiles 'n' Tears, Giggles 'n' Laughs, Late nite calls 'n' Cute fotographs, ill b rite here till da day of ma death best friends forever till ma very last breath!!

Answer 5

are you living in a country side?
i just thought if its hard to find a job maybe hard to
get chances to meet people as well.
hes a real jerk girl. go to places where single people
meet each other dont look back and be happier

Answer 6

this is the latest way to deal with letting you know with out face contact. use to be txts now email. to ashamed to tell you so lucky he ended it because he doesn't sound like he was worth it

Answer 7

Well... you obviously have his email address, so just put him on really weird mailing lists and if you have his address, send him weird free samples... I don't know. It worked for a friend of mine.

Answer 8

i dumped my chik on msn chat lmao after like 2 weeks n she got reaaaaaly pissed at me......go kick his ****

Answer 9

what a loser lololo tuff luck take care

Answer 10

He's a LOSER!