Y am i attracted to other guys tho' i m in love with a guy? How can i control my thoughts towards other men? Tho' i jus look at them i feel guilty that i m decievin my guy.
2006-06-23 17:50:47 · 19 answers · asked by zincita_444 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A wise man once said, "When I am too old that I no longer look, just bury me."
You might be attracted to other men because there's something lacking in your relationship. Or because you're bored with it. Or because you're just not ready to settle down with just one guy.
Be gentle with yourself. We all "look", whether we're in a relationship or not. The difference is in whether we look and move on, or look and obsess.
Just enjoy the dating experience. When you find the right guy for you, you'll likely start falling into the category of "look and move on" ... and realize that the guy you're with is better than the others you "look" at.
Relax. There's nothing wrong with you.
2006-06-23 17:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, I don't know how in love you are with your man but it seems to me that maybe you may not be ready for serious when you think about other men all the time. Although there is nothing wrong with admiring someone who is well dressed or takes care of themselfor is generally nice to look at. I even do it with other women. If a woman is attractive I sometimes point it out to my husband and vice versa, he will point out an attractive woman too .
2006-06-24 00:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by suzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in love with someone you don't find yourself attracted to others. You're not in love, you are in lust and don't know what love really is yet. Love will blind you towards the attraction of other men. You aren't ready for love and I say you shouldn't be in any kind of relationship until you realize this.
2006-06-24 00:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by jimmyweda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GURL WHAT EVER THAT IS NATURAL I'VE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND FOR 11YRS AND iM THE ONLY WOMAN AT MY JOB AND IN MY FEILD OF WORK HELL THESE MEN LOOK GOOD AND YES I BE NICE AND FLIRT OCCASSIONALY but i know i love my husband and besides i look at it like this if i have a flat tire one of these men will be there to be the rescue-in other words if my husband and i depart i will have another to take his place . what u feel is normal hell sometime i even picture another guy while we where getting booty and it was just another fantasy
2006-06-24 00:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by jcleann13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural thing... don't worry about being attracted to other guys. It's going to happen for the rest of your life. It's not cheating or deceiving to feel that way. Just don't tell your guy that you're attracted to someone else... unless you want him to feel bad. It happens both ways. I guarantee you he's attracted to other women too.
2006-06-24 00:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Landslide 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're not ready to settle down. If you really do love your guy, you wouldn't want to look at others. Also though--looking at other guys isn't deceiving your man. It's thinking of acting or acting on thoughts that gets you in trouble.
2006-06-24 00:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by scc1fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares? i was with my guy and always looked at other guys. in easy terms, it is ok to look at a car as long as u don't take it for a test drive. if your guy loves u, he will understand. he is looking at others as well. everybody does it. if u cheat though, that is a whole different story, which is wrong, regardless. ask your guy to look at other guys. i did. that is because i am gay though. i was watching a movie with my b/f which featured matt damon and told him that if matt damon ever appeared in town, i would have 2 be single for a weekend. he laughed and thought it was cute.
good luck.
2006-06-24 00:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by johnny_on_the_spot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax... just go with the flow and stop allowing yourself to be controlled by those kindof thoughts, they do nothing more than ruin the moment when anything good that happens to you... because all you think of is the bad ... when in reality all there is is good.
2006-06-24 01:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by ambidextrousartist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's human nature to be attracted to attractive guys (duh!! lol) You may truly love him...you can't control who you are physically attracted to, or even emotionally for that matter. And it's no excuse to cheat...the key is when you overcome that attraction and stick with the one you really love.
2006-06-24 00:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by redneckmusician23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can think ppl are cute ..its kinda like you can look but you cant touch .. when you think about touching thtas when you know .. your not really in love
2006-06-24 00:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by Ironicical Dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋