How can I get across to my bf that Im pregnant and I want him in my & our babys life?

Question

My bf and I have been togeather longer than a year and now Im pregnant, were both going to college and lets just say its going tobe harder. Im 18 hes 22 and I know its too soon but, its also too late if u know what I mean. He dosn't want me to have it and hes acting like alittle kid. He thinks beacuse, were not rich our baby will hate us and he also said that he wouldn't be there for me' Hes just upset and dosn't mean it but, no matter what I say Im wrong and the bad persion who is fu**ing up his life. It hurts soo' bad to hear him say these things but, what can I do. The last thing I want to do is not have it and live with guilt. Someone talk to me please.....

Answer 1

That is the sign of a mature, responsible person, to do the right thing. If he is acting like it's time for him to cut and run, perhaps you should, as you'll not get any help from him and HE'LL be the resentful one

Answer 2

Look, in agree with the previous post, i was raised by my mother. My father was a stupid kid, or so i thought, but anyhow. I would never leave you if i was the father in the first place, after all, the hell i remember i could never do that to another, especially my own blood. If he refuses on all accounts to help you, at all times, here is my final suggestion. Ignore him, do not even make your child realize he was a jerk, but had prior reasons to leave, never really talk about it, until they're a lot older, nearing the ends of high school, then if they want to know, fill them in on some details, i probably will never know the real Christopher R, my father. But here is the one thing you should not do, if he ultimately refuses to be a part of the parenthood of that child up until the very end, then walks into the ER/Hospital and has a sob story about how he was scared, and tells you he wants to be a part of your life, and he will sign the birth certificate, do not allow him to. Like i have seen to family, its just a chance for them to get a hold of something on you. What it all boils down to is, be careful, raise that child well, make sure it has support of an Aunt, Uncle, or Grandparent, make sure you and another person raising it have stable jobs and that it is tended for as need be, but don't overprotect it, make sure it grows up how it should, neither a positive nor negative to the normal parimiters. Be safe

Answer 3

I think you are finding out what he is really made of, sadly, at a time in your life when you really need him to be a decent human being.

I suggest you decide what YOU want to do and follow through. He sounds like he is very immature and not willing to take responsibility for anything. That means it's up to you. Considering your age, I would like to suggest you place your baby up for adoption. Today, you can meet the people and make sure you like the couple, etc. This way, your baby will have a home with two loving parents who can best care for it.

You have your whole life ahead of you, a child is a very big responsibility that requires your time, money, and heart. I don't doubt you have heart, but the time and money seem to be a problem. Plus, the father is useless.

Please respect yourself and do what you feel is right. Learn to use protection not just so you don't get pregnant, but to protect you from disease--which is rampant.

Last, if you believe in God, ask Him to guide you. I wish you the best.

Answer 4

The first thing you need to do is think of yourself. Are you ready to be a mom? Would you consider adoption? Do you have a parent that would help with the baby while you go to college? You cannot think of your boyfriend, because he might not always be there for you, no matter what decision you make. You have many options, but you have to do what ever you can live with and do what you feel is best for you.

Answer 5

It sounds like he has a little growing up to do. He should realize that he is at least partially responsible for your pregnancy. He could have said no (granted most red-blooded 22 yr old guys wouldn't, but he had a choice). Also, he should realize that it is your choice whether or not to keep this baby, not his. Finally, I would suggest you speak to a real-life friend, close family member, or (if applicable) a priest/pastor/rabbi/etc. This is one instance where it would be better to have a real-life support system rather than just us people on Yahoo Answers.

Answer 6

you may want to not be alarmed, you need to be grateful that he's already being concerned sufficient about your baby to self-discipline him/her. there is not any excuse for a tantrum like that, it become undesirable parenting on that mom's section. there is not any way in hell i'd enable anybody slap me, no longer to point a touch baby. And, only my opinion, i do not imagine you need to go away all the self-discipline for your fiance because if that seems to be the case, your baby will study that he/she will be able to stroll throughout you because you're a softy. You 2 might want to target to do the self-discipline at the same time. per chance go away the tremendous complications to the daddy if it makes you too uncomfortable. yet, now and again as a determine you need to do issues that make you uncomfortable for the nicely-being of your baby. that's fairly a heavy question, in uncomplicated phrases you could confirm what's properly for you.

Answer 7

Did you both just find out about the pregnancy? He could be taking his anger out on you because he's upset. Remember, you did NOT get yourself pregnant, he had part in it too. He may come around and if he doesn't, screw him. What's done is done. It's not YOUR fault. Even if you were on birth control I'm sure you know it does NOT always work. I have 2 birth control babies. Your boyfriend may think his world is coming crashing down but people HAVE had babies before they were ready before and IF they try, they CAN make it.

Good luck and congratulations

Answer 8

i have had 4 miscarriages and trust me just having a miscarriage hurt me really bad i blamed my self and all! its ur body and its up to u to abort it or not, right now i have a 3 month old son and i just turned 19 (i got preg. at the end of my senior year) i wouldnt change a thing, and trust me ur not messing up his life because u both decided to not use protection.. and some guys react like that until u start getting bigger and reality hits them! but trust me i wouldnt change getting preg. at all at first i was worried cuz i just grad. high school and i was goin to go to college.. but when i first felt him kick and saw the sonograms and held him in my arms for the first time my heart melted and i didnt care if my boyfriend left me or not, because the baby is a piece of you something you made and nothing can change that. and your the one whos pregnant not him, your the one thats gonna have to carry a baby for 9 months not him, dont let him make ur decisions its ur body and life yea i know you love him but u cant sacrifice everything for someone because in the end your left with nothing...
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Answer 9

well, my mom went thru the same situation except she was older. her boyfriend was a total *** hole! when he baby sat my bro, all he did was sleep all day and he was rude to my baby bro. then he just one day said that he was going to stop babysitting. now he sees my bro about twice a week and he is really improving as a dad. i never thought he could be a good dad cuz he said the same things your bf did. all i gotta say is hang in there. things will work out and he'll come to his senses that he will want to be part of the wonderful kids life!! i hope that helped. :)

Answer 10

If you have it, BE PREPARED; your life will never be the same. Everything will be about the baby and no longer about yourself anymore. Do you think you're ready for this at this age?