My boyfriend was really immature and had too many friends that were girls for me to be comfortable with so i broke things off with him. Then i started to think that maybe i was just a little too jelous so i aksed him for a second chance, but he said that he liked just being single. Now ive been seeing him everywhere and he keeps looking at me really sadly like he misses us. I dont know what i should do because i dont want to call him and be let down again.
2006-06-23 17:33:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did confront him about it several times and he kept telling me that they meant nothing to him, even after i told him that it bothered me.
2006-06-23 18:00:40 · update #1
You have your answer right there. He stated that he liked just being single. I can assure you that he's having plenty of fun with his female friends. The sadness you may be seeing is that you are not one of his playthings. I think you followed your instincts and they proved true. Find someone worthy of your affection and see what life is really about.
2006-06-23 17:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by jimmyweda 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The one thing you have to keep in mind is that when you broke up with him, there was no offer to try and work things out (him taking it a little easier on the female friends). If he'd really been interested in keeping it together he probably would have offered to cut back on his friend time to make you more comfortable. He probaby does miss you, but he isn't willing to change things so it's time to move on. Sorry that you're hurting.
2006-06-23 17:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be honest with you and not play the guilty card. If he is doing that already imagine what it would be like down the road. By turning you down, either he really doesn't want you, or he is wanting you to feel nice and guilty before he takes you back to "forgive" you for dumping him. Those are petty childish games, that you don't need to be dealing with. There is no reason you should be feeling guilty for suspitions that might be true for that matter. (No offense, but I don't like guys that play with girls feelings and visa versa) If you really like him then I know it would be hard, but there are other guys out there that can treat you better without the minds games. I hope the best for you. Good luck
2006-06-23 17:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your boyfriend was immature to have female friends. I think you went over board with your jealousy and prematurely breaking up with him. A mature person would not be threatened by his female friends. Because out of all his friends (even the cute ones) he chose you! (Ok, unless he spends more time with them than with you...then you have a legitimate case).
I think you hurt him pretty badly when you broke up with him. I would suggest letting him heal and leaving him alone for a while.
2006-06-23 17:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, just cuz a guy has a lot of friends who are girls DOES NOT mean he's gonna cheat. I think you were a bit extreme with the breaking up.
If you told him your reason, then I suppose it was perfectly reasonable for him to not wanna get back together, no matter how painful it may be for him.
2006-06-23 17:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cassy , why dont you turn the table around and see what happens. I mean what you got to lose? A guy? There are plenty of men out there why bother with this one. To see if he really wants you back , let him see you with another guy and see his expressions.
2006-06-23 17:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe he has 2nd thoughts about the "being single" lifestyle...but I think I'd let him come to me this time.Just sort of communicate your open to starting over with him...maybe have a friend "drop a hint" to him.
If not...move on...life is to short to wait for him to decide.
2006-06-23 17:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by jaydragon0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're both immature. He already gave you an answer. Accept it. If things change, he'll call you. Until then, if you see each other, talk.
Otherwise, move on.
2006-06-23 17:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by David B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If you were jealous when you were dating and he didn't seem to care, especially if you let your feelings known, then just move on. Guys that don't focus on the girl they are dating are just going to be trouble down the road.
2006-06-23 17:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get his attention this way, write a note telling him how you feel, attach the note to a brick. Go over to his house and throw the brick through his front window, pick a big one so you wont miss. this will surely get his attention, be sure to put your name adds. and phone number on the note so he will know who it's from !!!
2006-06-23 17:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by john l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋