guys i am in a wheelchair why does that repulse guys?

Answer 1

I am in the same situation as far as dating and also use a wheelchair. It took a long time to try and figure some things out. Try locating some works by Irving K. Zola. He is a renowned figure in disability studies. We all as human beings are 'temporarily able bodied', meaning someday we will for the most part need some sort of assistance in life. This idea scares many of people. Perhaps we as people who use assistive devices such as wheelchairs reminds society of what awaits them. Another thing to consider is everyone in the world has an impairment whether it be poor eyesight to crooked teeth to being unable to walk. For the most part these impairments are socially accepted b/c they don't impede day to day activities, are easily corrected and therefore not 'disabling'. For instance for those with poor eyesight they can easily obtain a pair of glasses and those with crooked teeth obtain braces. For those who use wheelchairs, we can also obtain the proper adaptive equipment, but we also look toward society to help out with our mobilization such as curb cuts, accessible transportation and such. Unfortunately society has yet to fully comprehend and tackle the issues at hand that people who use wheelchairs face on a day to day basis. People without these 'disabling' impairments see this. They also the struggle that people who experience these 'disabling' impairments endure in their day to day lives. As a result people have been conditioned through the years that to believe that b/c people who use wheelchairs might need help getting from point A to point B they also must need to help in everything else that they do including in the bedroom. One piece of advice that I have found very helpful when it comes to dating is although the "curse" of using a wheelchair is ingrained in our culture, try looking at it as a "blessing" as well. By blessing I mean more often than not you will learn about an individuals shallowness very early into a relationship. In my experience it is the first date. It is much easier to find out early that the relationship is not going to work than months or years down the road, which happens much more often to those who don't experience 'disabling' impairments. When the right guy comes around, it will be much easier to know b/c he will be interested in you as a person, not as you 'in a wheelchair'.

Answer 2

because most guys think that they cant and wont be able to do the thing that normal people do not calling u abnormal, but u r bound by a wheelchair. no i dont have a problem with a woman in a wheelchair. but u know as well as i do that takes a little more maturity then most boys or guys are willing to give. have u tried to talk to guys that are in the same position tht u r in is that something that u could do. the other guy said send pic, that is not necessary because if u like someone u really dont have to see them as long as they are being honest with u it is the heart that u like and not really the looks. because, and dont get me wrong u could be the hottest girl on earth, but that wheelchair makes u look ugly so some people.

Answer 3

Actually, it doesn't repulse all men. I like to try to see what's on the inside AS WELL as how the woman looks. I am not being shallow, just honest.

Most guys who turn women away who are not "perfect", usually have a big ego. Plus, some men are scared to face things that are unknown to them. Of course, most will never admit it.

Lastly, there is a kind of "girl envy" thing out there. If some other guy's woman looks better than another's, well, that's break-up time. This is the most shallow of all, but it happens.

Hang in there. You will find someone.

Peace and axle grease,
Jon

Answer 4

It doesn't repulse anyone with an IQ above 50. Consider this, dear... do you want someone to be your friend who is that shallow? This is one of those "consider the source" moments... surround yourself with good-hearted people and forget the jerks in life. Wheelchair or not... there are always jerks. The key is to insulate and forget them.

If it wasn't the wheelchair it would be glasses or braces or hair color or whatever. Make some good friends, love them and live your life.

Answer 5

Because you haven't found any "real" guys. Being in a wheelchair is not al there is to you I am sure. Hold your head up and know somewhere out there is a great guy who will love and accept you for the whole you. Keep smiling honey and never forget you are beautiful

Answer 6

first of all if it repulses a guy that u r in a wheel chair they r very shallow minded & u don't want to waste ur time with someonr like that .a lot of the world these days r shallow minded & don't stop & think about people whom r different from them , in a wheel chair, on a walker , etc. , if the tables were turned they would not want to b treated any differently but one day something may happen to change their minds if a friend or family member or themselves happen 2 wind up in a situation like that . keep the spirits up & forget about the shallow minded people .

Answer 7

it doesn't repulse guys but don't worry. you should find a guy who respects you if you're in a wheelchair or not. guys shouldn't be looking for what's outside but what's inside. keep looking. :)

Answer 8

It wouldn't repulse me. As long as you are friendly, nice, and have a good personality, I would probably get to know you better. It's just kind of weird not having a person at eye level when you're talking to them.

Answer 9

It doesn't repulse guys it's just not something that a lot of guys like. Personalty though keep looking for someone.

Answer 10

Some people are very shallow and can't get past the physical aspects of a person. It's not what's on the outside that counts, it's what's on the inside. You will find someone who loves you for the person you are, just hang in there.