I desperately need advice!!?

Question

I am 29 years old ..last week i went to see my b/f who is 20 and only found him to be with his 15 year old ex g/f...whom dated for a year ...he says he tryed to get over her but she showed back up and he really isnt .....obviously i couldnt have got into a fight with a minor so i left ..wrote him a letter and told him what a liar and jerk he was. He called that day to apoligize and informed me that he was not with the girl anymore ......but here is the kicker also found out that day i was pregnant. Should i try to work it out with him? I do still love him cuz u cant turn feelings on and off over night ...but he hurt me very bad ....but now i have a bigger picture to look at ....i would love to have guys responses to btw. Oh and NO I have not told him about being pregnant yet mostly for fear he would think i was just trying to hang on to him. How should I handle this situation? Thanks for ur time

ok for the ones who keep saying find someone ur own age ...in my def. he also lied and told me he was 24 at first

Answer 1

You gotta ask yourself now...is he the type of guy you want to raise your child? The child comes first from now on. I don't know him but from what you've said it doesn't sound like he should be raising children if he's sleeping with children.

Answer 2

If he even thought about being with a 15 year old then that it self should answer your question. Yea you could tell him about your baby, but I am here to tell you already that it is your baby, your body and your choice. I know that it hurts but any guy that is 20 years old and would even consider being with a 15 year old child then this guy isn't ready to be a father. And when and if you tell him, I am so sorry to tell you be he will blame you and he will become very angry, which will feel as though he is tearing your heart out. So if I were you I would not give him that satifaction, you make the choice about your baby, and pretend that he never had anything to do with the situation. He will only hurt you.

Answer 3

I am semi'baffled on why women love guys who cheat on them? I understand the bonding of sex but something has to give. First, a 20 year old with a 15 yr old. Can you say "possible jail time?"
Next, would this guy be responsible to be a father for this child, emotionally as well as financially? Some guys can change but for what reasons?
Tell him your pregnant (if you know he is the one) and see what response you get. Any 20 year old guy with attachments to high school (a frosh, I believe, too) doesn't deserve your time. Find someone nearer your age who is more mature.

Answer 4

honestly, this isn't the type of man you want as a father figure to your unborn child. He's only 20 and is obviously not mature enough to even think about being a father. Even though you love him, he just isn't responsible in his decision making, plus the fact that he dated a 15 year old before you doesn't say much about his character. Being a single parent probably isn't easy, but I believe it would be much easier than dealing with an a**hole like him. Sorry hun and best of luck.

Answer 5

The guy obviously cant be trusted. You shouldn't be with as guy that you cant trust. If he did this once then he will do it again. His ex isn't gonna go away that easily, and why would you want to stay with a guy that likes really young girls? The bigger question is what are you gonna do about the baby? Are you gonna keep it or not. You have to decide what is best for you and the unborn baby.

Answer 6

That's a tough situation. The first thing you need to do is tell him that you are pregnant and see where he wants to go from there. Had he actually done anything with this ex? Could it have been an innocent meeting between the two of them? You need to talk to him and sort things out whether it be being together or going your separate ways. Good luck.

Answer 7

Hold on here Sweet your 29 years old why hell would a 29 year old wants to date a 20 year old boy. He is not grown yet if he still dating a 15 year old. Let me clarify it again he was dating a 15 year old. For one thing , he is stringing you along well he still seeing this little girl. Don't you get it? Your the back up P*Say for him while the 15 year old not there . You wan to keep this baby . My god, you think he going to drop everything and commit himself to you and his child. YOU NEED TO THINK THIS THROUGH AL OT HERE.

Answer 8

oh,, girlfriend. get out. raise the baby by yourself. the fact that he was dating a 15 year old, scares me to death. people don't change. they just change the way YOU see them. a 20 year old should NEVER be with a 15 yr old. obviously against the law, but, you are 29, a grown woman. don't compete with a child. men are selfish so very selfish. they want their cake and eat it too. please be careful let him lead the way. don't tell him about the baby tiill you know what he is doing. let him go his way. you know if you are going to keep this baby or not. and YOU will find a way to raise it with or without him. don't let the poor baby be the reason he comes back to you.

Answer 9

I would let him know to be fair and yes that baby needs a father not just a dad so it will take sometime but hopfully it will work out but make him earn your trust back dont be easy with him that will hurt u for a long time sorry about the saddness and goodluck tell him to step up and be with a real women and not a kid

Answer 10

I know you dont want to hear this..........but what is a 20 year old doing with a 15 year old................?? Doesnt sound like a guy who has respect for any woman............and to date a older woman makes a man feel like an older woman can take care of herself ......no responsibility with a 15 year old or a 29 year old......................I say he will run if he feels he is going to be a father...............I hope everything turns out for you.....and the baby

Answer 11

First of all i thikn you are way mature for him, what did you get yourself into? He is just a boy... and you did a good thing into getting a fist fight with a sorry lil girl. If you are going thru this right now, what would you not go thru with him along the way, especially with your pregnancy (all the mood changes), i think you need to get someone a lil closer to your age or over your age.