I really love this girl but she's hesitant to be in a relationship.I'd say that now we are the best of friends as we spend almost every day of every week together.We are always there for each other.Right now we are both on summer break from the same school but we still talk a whole lot.There are also several times where it seemed like she had similar feelings towards me but I never knew how to analyze those situations.She also knows that I like her.It has been like this for almost 5 months and I fear the day when I see her chill with some guy, but I there's thought in the back of my head that she might choose me some time in the future too.We haven't even kissed yet, but close.I don't fully know how to describe my situation cause it's kinda complicatin and tough to describe overall with pages of words.But from what you can see, is there anything else that I can do to further this relationship and let her realize that I will make her happy and smile for all the days that I'm with her?
2006-06-23 17:03:53 · 21 answers · asked by just wonderin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you just need to ask her straight up if she wants to be at your level. if she says she is not ready, dont push the issue. keep treating her nice and being her friend. maybe that is all it is meant to be.
2006-06-23 17:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well guy, I would say you are in love with this person and don't know what to do with it. Hummm ya know what, the best relationships are those of friendship. They become strong and lasting usually. Just let nature take its course and be a best buddy. It's great if you both like to do things together and like the same things. Be sure to let the person have some space to be themselves. Don't control or smother the person. There is an old saying about Love. If it was meant to be yours it will be and if not let it go. If it comes back it's yours and if not you are better off. You can't make people Love you. It helps if you let go and let God handle it. When you learn to listen to the still small voice inside and let go of fear, your life will be more balanced. If you cannot change one minute of time, how can you change anything else. Rev. TomCat
2006-06-24 00:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a quiet place, a small cafe, or a park nearby, or some other place that's open, but cozy. Tell her you understand that she's hesitant to start a relationship, and you'd like to understand why because you are truly falling in love with her and want what's best for her, and if that means you have to walk away from what you have with her now, then you will. Tell her she means so much to you that you don't want to push her into anything, but you are struggling with your feelings for her if she's not ready for a deeper committment. Tell her you want to give her what she needs to make a decision, whether it's more time spent with her or backing off and giving her space. She also should know that it's a struggle, and you won't be able to keep it up too much longer, so you'd like to know how she feels. Don't make it an ultimatum, you might drive her away. Good Luck.
2006-06-24 00:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have crossed over into Friend territory. To which usually, there is no return. Once a girl considers you a friend, thats it. However, there is a way. Im gonna share it with you, against all my sisters. Date another girl. Nothing serious because you dont want to hurt someone else. But make it known that your dating. Make sure dates happen at times the girl you love would want to be with you. But, and here's the tricky part, dont push her away. Stay available sometimes. But make her want you.
Good luck.
2006-06-24 00:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by lkhbhurnje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just gotta take it one day at a time. I'm in a similiar situation and all I can say to you is don't push it. If you push things sometimes they break. And I'm sure you don't want to lose the friendship you've got with her. So just take it slow and do all that you can for her. Maybe one day she will choose you.
2006-06-24 00:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by St. Jimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up front and honest and ask her how she feels. Then you'll know and if she's not on the same page as you move on honey. Life is too short not to take a chance.Just tell her you need to know where she sees your realtionship going.
2006-06-24 00:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by daddies_lil_angel62702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to be honest with her and put your feelings out on the table. If she is hesitant to be in a relationship is it because she really doesn't want one or is it just that she doesn't want one with you? You will never know until you and her have a heart to heart talk and get your feelings out in the open.
2006-06-24 00:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to miss the boat...it you dont tell her what you just told about 10 million people....she might think you dont like her at all.
LACK OF COMMUNICATION IS THE WORSE THING THAT CAN HAPPEN IN A RELATIONSHIP.
IF YOU FEEL FOR HER THAT MUCH....THEN DONT MISS THE BOAT.
Life is to short...tell her
good luck
2006-06-24 00:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by BEENSAVEDTODAY? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her.
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2006-06-24 00:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her what she feels about you. Thats the simplest way, rather playing the guessing game for months. Atleast, you may not repent later with words like "If I had......"
2006-06-24 00:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋