me and my boyfriend have an open relationship, he goes out and I don't complain, but I never go out so now I

Question

am invited to a bar where all my high school friends are and he is getting jealous, we love each other but why is ok for him to go out and not me?

Answer 1

Let him know that you feel that way when he does things. Maybe he will realize and see how it makes you feel.

Answer 2

It's not. He has absolutely no right to be jealous when you've done him the unbelievable favor of allowing him to sleep around, but the fact that he is sleeping around is probably what is causing him to be jealous. He assumes that you'll be looking for the same thing he is when he goes out. I would say reassure him that you don't plan to sleep with anyone, but you shouldn't have to when you have an open relationship and he doesn't deserve the reassurance anyway. Explain to him that he's being incredibly unfair and if he won't be reasonable about it, then maybe he can't handle every part of an open relationship.

Answer 3

No offence, i dont believe in "Open- relationships" seriously your basically saying ok sweety ill be here for you whenever you want day time anytime and you can go and sleep around with as many girls as you want, if you are in love then your eyes should only be on eachother, why are you giving him a chance to cheat on you? how do you think fights and cheating starts hun? think about what your doing, its not right for you to establish an agreement like that and then expect good results, and obviously he gets jelous cos he cant stand other guys looking at you, but shouldnt you be worried if other girls hit on him? and then latero n he will use the excuse "well u said we could have an open relationship" think bout it..

Answer 4

Okay, let me make this clear!!!!!!!!!!!He is going out and doing what ever and who ever that he chooses. And if he tells you otherwise then you have blinders on. Of course he likes the open relationship thing because he knows that you are not going out and using this free ticket. So he is thrilled. He can go out and do what ever he chooses. And he know that you are sitting at home or with your friends and you are not doing anything. But now that he knows that you might be going out and putting yourself into a situation where you might be tempted to do something, he is freaking out! Yes you can look at this, like okay he loves me that much or you can look at it like it really is. He has been having a wild time doing what he wanted, and he still had me as his property. Now that he thinks that another guy might just want to enjoy you, he is upset! Well baby, my advice for you is this, your guy has been having a good old time for sometime now, well now it is your turn and if he doesn't like it then sweetheart tell him to kiss your A--! Because you are just as good as him and you deserve to right to explore all of your prospects. Girl don't you ever settle!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

it's not ok. if he can go out with his friends, then so can you. unless you've given him a reason to not trust you, then what's his problem? Sounds to me like he has some insecurity issues. Or perhaps he does things that maybe he shouldn't be doing when he goes out and now he has the notion that you'll do the same things (even though you wouldn't). I say, go out and have fun. He'll throw a fit for a little while, but he'll just have to get over it.

Answer 6

We guys do naturally get jealous. Remind him that he does go out a lot and that you don't, and if he has a problem with that, you two need to sit down together and talk about your relationship and make sure you're really sure about where you're going.

Answer 7

Guys are selfish animal. You should tell him to remember the deal of the open relationship. If he minds you go out to have fun, then he shouldn't go out to have fun either.

I and my bf also have open relationship. He can go out to meet girls and I can go out to meet guys. But we both love each other very much and like our life style. It just works out for us.

Joyce

Answer 8

It's not okay. I've got a saying I try to live by. I would never ask you to do something I wouldn't do. And I know that I would never let anyone boss me around so I don't tell people what to do.

Answer 9

Maybe cause he thinks its a male thing to do and women should just stay home looking pretty.

Answer 10

its not oaky! If he loves you he will trust you to go out with your friends just and you let him go out with his. If there is no trust there is no relationship!