I was just reading another question..and this popped in my head. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him, at first I thought about it and nothing else came to my mind. All i was concerned about was the possibilites of getting pregnant andd I was wondering if we would really work out. Anyhow..one time when i decided to leave, my mother wasn't for it at all. Now i hope most of you have high morals but she said that I shouldnt be moving in with a man unless he puts a ring on my finger because its against God's will for a woman to move in with a man because I could possibly have sex with him which would be a sin. You see how complicated this is? So anyhow a lot of things have happened between my boyfriend and I, I talked about it to him once and now he is saying he wants to get me a ring--still wanting me to move in. I thought about this, he has been telling me he loves me over and over, and he has been more caring lately. After I got off the phone with him I realized that he was trying
2006-06-23 16:35:46 · 14 answers · asked by Priss18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to prove a point. I think he feels that if he is showing me and telling me that he loves me and if I believe him then he shouldnt have to get a ring. He asked me..so you want me to get a ring for you before you move in with me right? and thats when i realized...hmm. Point, so should it be okay if I decided to move in with him, believing that he truly loves me..without the ring. I think doing that..is more powerful,and I also want to show him that he doesnt need a ring to prove his love for me, I know things can happen either way..
2006-06-23 16:37:33 · update #1
I think all the girl needs is a set of keys!
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2006-06-23 16:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so ...i dont know your situation all that well but it sounds like he really cares about you and he is willing to buy you a ring although he maybe doing to A: Keep you and he may not be ready and things wont work out or B: give your mother a good impression.... and if you dont feel that way maybe you should tell him you dont need a ring and you care about him and tell your mother that although you know how she feels morally you are an adult and you can make your own decisions and you in your heart will make the right one even if that means you could have sex... love means more than any ring ever could
2006-06-23 23:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by lauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to talk religion, technically you should not live with a man until you are married to him. What difference is it going to make if you have a ring on your finger or not? I see no problem with people living together. Actually, I think that people should live together first. You really get to know someone when you live with them. The best advice i can give you is to do what you feel is right, not what's right by your mother or anyone else.
2006-06-23 23:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not move in without a RING and A DATE...no exceptions.
If he is really committed, he will not mind accomodating that request; otherwise he can take his time and you don't want him to be able to drag it out.
Women like security and yes he can buy a ring and still be non-committal, but the effort of his willingness to set a date and give you a ring to solidify the commitment would make you feel more secure about his level of commitment.
2006-06-23 23:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be necessary, no. In fact, it's not always too common either, especially here in Canada. Your mom and my mom sound quite similar on their views of sex before marriage. But no, in my opinion as long as you both know you truly love each other and aren't just saying it, it's definitely alright to move in ring or no ring. Besides, there are even ways out of that ring (i.e: divorce or annulment).
2006-06-23 23:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need to buy a ring to show he loves you, but if you are willing to take a big risk by moving in with him, he should prove to you somehow that it is not just a fly by the moment type of decision of his that could change at any time.
2006-06-23 23:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by Angels girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, what is a ring gonna do for you, your falling into society's bulL Shi**. If thats what you want have him give you a ring, live home, save money till you get married. The ring is the least of your problems....what do you want? do you even know, sounds like you should stay home and decide. Take your meds...girl your on a crash course to a psych ward/.
2006-06-23 23:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by ms.mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you then he should marry you. Remember why buy the cow when the milk is free. Don't just settle for a ring tell him your worth more than that.
2006-06-23 23:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by ronnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need a ring on your finger to move in with someone, your mother seems old fashioned and set in her ways, in this day and age, there are very few people who save themselves for marriage
2006-06-23 23:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by OpalMine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you define your situation well and all well heard.
Sister, daughter, don't move in with him. Truly, you have the power and he wants your body--for real, girl.
Stay at home, girl, and away from him. NO matter how emotional he smooths you.
2006-06-23 23:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by watersprings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋