There's this guy that i've been talking 2 for lets say 2 months and some change. He tells me that he likes me and yes i like him. But it's like 1 moment everythings on cloud 9, we're expressin our feelings 4 eachothers and discussing mistakes in out past relationships. And other moments he's acting stuck up catching attitudes over something small if not anything. Once i told him that im scared of being in another relationship because im tired of being hurt. He said that he's been hurt in his last relationship and that if he knows what it feelis like 2 be hurt then why would he turn around and hurt someone ele. But when he catches these petty attitudes it gives me a different picture. And once a female called me from his phone askin who i was and i asked who she was and she said his xgirlfriend name and hung up. Then he called and asked if a girl called me from his phone and when i said yes he said it was his little cousin. I think he still has feelings for his ex but am i being played
2006-06-23 16:21:27 · 14 answers · asked by Glow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, this guy is NOT the one for you. There are a few things going on here. From what you have described, he wants to get get back with her and vice verse, but he is scared to break up with you because he told you he would never hurt you, but if you broke up with him, then he wouldn't be the bad guy, (in his mind).
He's probably telling his ex, (whom he's probably already with) that he needs time to break it off "gently" and she is probably falling for it even though she does not like it. For all you know, he never broke up with his girlfriend and she was just as surprised about you as you were about her calling.
It does not sound like he is ready to be in a relationship with anyone and I advise getting out while you still have your heart in one piece. You don't want to have to mend another broken heart over someone who is immature.
Good luck!
2006-06-23 16:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by #1 auntie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he really can't decide what his feelings are. Guys normally won't express their true feelings freely. It's like a sign of weakness (in some weird way I can't explain). I never do unless I'm talking to someone one on one. If he's acting differently, try to figure out who's around him that might be causing him to be uncomfortable or maybe pressuring him to appear stronger. If you want to find out his true feelings, then don't tell him what you feel. Lead him astray to keep him guessing. After a while, if he does like you, he'll tell you hoping that you'll tell him you feel the same way. If he's just playing you, he's depending on you liking him. If he doesn't know whether you do or not, there's no way he can play you to get at his ex. Think about it though. If he's being a jerk too often, he probably wouldn't make a good boyfriend. Plus, if he does still like his ex, you might end up getting hurt if you commit yourself to him.
2006-06-24 00:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Silver Spoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's really immature! And he said it. He said that he was hurt and he would like to hurt someone else. I don't think that you want to be the one hurt do you? Tell him that you knew that he lied to you about the ex-girlfriend. See how he reacts from there.
If he gets all moody lose the guy. I hope you find a real man.
2006-06-23 23:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by QQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds like it. I think its time to find out. set a trap and catch him. Think about it. He will mess up. Just watch and catch him. His crotch will take him down. It will over ride his brain. LOL
2006-06-23 23:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're obviously being played like a raquetball. cut the string and tell him and his friend to get lost. lots of other guys out there..you deserve someone who will treat you decent
2006-06-23 23:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by sharpsilver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THOSE ARE NOT ATTITUDES THOSE ARE MOMENTS OF SCARDNESS. HIS FEELINGS ARE GETTING INVOLVED AND HE DOES NOT WANT TO HURT U BUT HE DOES NOT WANT TO RUSH INTO SOMETHING THAT MAY INTURN HURT U SO CHILL OUT AND SLOW DOWN AND TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME.
2006-06-23 23:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by oaklandkc1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he likes drama. If you like drama too then he's the guy for you otherwise walk away really fast. He's trouble.
2006-06-23 23:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer to all is yes
he is probably carrying baggage, confused and as a consequence ambivalent about you
tell him you need him to sort his sh*t out and maybe a break until he does is a good idea
2006-06-23 23:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM. He sounds like a narcistic personality type. DUMP HIM. Move on. dont play second ever, you will just get burned.
2006-06-23 23:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by ms.mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is a psycho. Find someone better, it should be easy.
2006-06-23 23:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋