I just asked a question not too long ago asking men if they had to choose between beauty and brains what would they choose and every man that anwered said that they like beauty but brains would be more important. If this is the case why do men who do get married or into a serious relationship cheat on their mate? If men settle down with good, intelligent, nice women and that's what they prefer, why are they still not satisfied?
2006-06-23 16:10:47 · 24 answers · asked by Oracle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, I'll stop generalizing. Why do "most" men cheat on their smart nice mates?
2006-06-23 16:17:26 · update #1
NOIR has a real interesting theory....
2006-06-23 16:35:00 · update #2
I might ask: Why do women cheat? And why do women pursue a "relationship" with a man they know to be married/with someone?
But, yeah, that's a diversion that merely points out that it takes two to tango and that there are women who do things as bad as some men.
So, I'll try and answer it as honestly as I can: Because some men are, well, idiots. They may not be dumbasses all the time (but they could be you can't always tell). But men are fallible creatures (something no woman I can assure you is). And we have moments of weakness (something again no woman does) and we make stupid, stupid decisions (something again no woman does).
There is no person who wouldn't, under the right perfect storm circumstances, not experience some form of weakness towards someone who isn't their wife/husband. You can be happy in a relationship. It could be on the rocks. You might just have had one drink to many. You might just think "S/he's 1000 miles away... what s/he doesn't know, won't hurt him/her" You might be a pompus, insincere ***. You might just be stupid for one measily second and kiss 'em instead of going, "I should get home to my wife/husband."
And not all men cheat. And not all women cheat. But we are all fallible and it is sometimes very important to remember that.
2006-06-23 16:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by derkaiser93 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋
i think the question should b y do people cheat, men r not the only ones that cheat especially these days, i think there r 2 different type of cheaters, 1 likes the feeling of having multiple partners or thinks it's cool 2 fool around with different people, they feel they can't settle down and just b with 1 person, so they choose 2 b a player, the other is probably feeling there relationship is over and they want out, and instead of ending it they end up cheating cause they feel there is no other way out, they feel they r getting more from that person than in their relationship, but don't think it's just men, it goes both ways.
2006-06-23 23:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe some men and some women cheat because of the way early man and woman were designed. For the " Human race " to multiply men had to procreated with as many women as possible and women sought out the strongest males ( providers and defenders ) to preserve their existence . Our brains are simply wired that way. Now that civilization has advanced and the human race has certainly multiplied, ancient natural habits seem hard to brake. Men cheating on their wife's and women chasing guys with money and power.
2006-06-23 23:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by NOIR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"OK." Sorry I know you said for men only but, I had to add in my 2 cents. Speaking as a woman, I think it is very important for the wife to not lose herself after she has a family... So if this means to a certain point being a small amount selfish for her self, then so be it. I think that men want someone smart and all of those things but they also want a confidant woman that takes care of herself...... It is just a matter of balancing family, marriage, and every day life for all of us...... What I am saying is..... Don't forget that "Daddy needs you too......." SPOIL him from time to time and keep him smiling.......... And take time out for mom, "YOU", so that you feel good too. It makes for a happier family...... "And just to clarify , I am in no way saying women don't cheat.... Everything I said applies equally to the man as well.........
2006-06-23 23:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by ~ Rio ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men cheat for the same reasons that women cheat. It can be anything from not feeling cared for by their partner to not having certain needs met (as stupid an excuse as it is). As well, men and women get bored of their partner sometimes, which causes them to look for something new. There is no true excuse for people cheating, but we try as hard as we can to justify it anyways.
2006-06-23 23:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men cheat for the same reasons that women cheat and for the same reasons that the women are still not satisfied.
2006-06-23 23:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Oscar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well once again I hate to disappoint you but I have been married to the same person for the last 10 years and have never cheated on her. Why would I cheat on my very best friend. I love and respect my wife more than words can ever express. In my opinion actions speaks louder than words ever hope to
2006-06-23 23:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sander 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really mean to generalize? It sure sounds like you do. I don't see any qualifiers in your question like "some" men, etc.
Obviously, SOME men cheat for the same reasons that SOME women do. They became dissatisfied, for whatever reason there is amongst the millions of reasons why humans become dissatisfied.
2006-06-23 23:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same reason that u all (WOMEN) do the things that u do to us. we as men can never satisify yall and at first we were able to do, but as soon as we got married then the women changed. and the end result is that we aint married to the woman that we married at first so we tend to go looking for someone else who we think would make a good wife without changing.
2006-06-23 23:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by oaklandkc1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men chaet when they are not happy inthere relationships and they dont have the guts to tell the person there with they dont want them any more,there not pigs some just lack the communication skills to tell there current gf or bf that they dont want to be with them any more so thats why it happens,men like to have variety and spice and heat and fun in there relationships if they are not constantly satisfied in all areas in there life then things change in there relationships and do search else where for that need,women do it too,
2006-06-23 23:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by treatau 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋