How can you stop a lazy 5 yr old from pooping his pants and going potty?

Answer 1

Stop changing his pants

Answer 2

After reading some of the answers you received I have to wonder why some people even bother...I am the mother of a 9 yr old boy who has suffered with a condition called *Encopresis* for almost 6 years now...I too at first felt this was due to being *too busy* to take the time (and to some extent it is) but that's not the only cause and so after having tried everything from making him wash his own underwear (by hand), punishing, shaming, screaming, hollering,and finally even whipping I took him to his doctor who gave this problem a name and it wasn't LAZINESS...Over time my son had held his bowels to the point where he had stretched his colon and it would no longer hold like it should, had ignored his bodily urges (telling him he had to go) to where he no longer feels it and because his body is something only he can control he started hiding it and lying about it as well hoping I wouldn't find out...Today it is still a constant struggle for us so please don't be quick to assume he's being lazy, instead first start now treating him as if you were having to potty train him all over again and try getting him back on a schedule, if this doesnt work contact your pediatrician and he may suggest as mine did the use of Milk of Magnesia...This is safe in helping to regulate him and make your job of getting him back on track a lot easier...Hope this helps. ~Good Luck~

Answer 3

First off before you do anything take him to the pediatrician and rule out any health issues. Then make sure he isn't being abused in some way by anyone. After you've ruled that out. You can focus on rewards instead of punishment. Get a calendar and some cheap stars at the dollar store. Put a star on every day he doesn't poop on himself. If he does it everyday start out telling him if he makes it 2 days and gets 2 stars you'll go to the $1 dollar store (or some little inexpensive treat) and let him pick out something (its a dollar store so no big deal).

If he only does poops acidentally once a week or so ...start out telling him if he makes it the whole week. You get the idea.
When he does poop have him dump it flush it and give him some soap and have him wash them out.
DONT do anything to humiliate him. Like making him walk around naked...etc
Thats how serial killers,rapists,etc...are created.

Answer 4

For all the people saying to punish a child by abuse, shame on you and I hope that you aren't parents. Remember, domestic violence can not only harm a child, but kill him.

My sister had the same problem with her son. I suggested to her to buy a lot of cheap underwear & shorts, and don't buy pullups or diapers anymore. He will come to you when he needs to be changed. At that time, explain to him that you'll just try again. Try to catch him in the act - and hurry him to the potty. Get excited about it. I bought my son matchbox cars and rewarded him when he pooped on the toilet. Hey, it's still cheaper than pullups.

Just remember, he's not going to go to college pooping his pants. Get him to the next stage with enthusiasm and support. The more he feels bad about how he's pooping in his pants, the more he will do it in secret.

Answer 5

If you are certain that it is just laziness and not a physical condition, find out what he really wants to do--play soccer, go swimming, play t-ball, etc. and tell him he can't do any of those things until he uses the potty all the time. Don't give in until he cleans up his act. My daughter has used this method with success.

Answer 6

By age 5 the child should have that down...do you do everything for him?If so,that is called enableing .Not a great way to start parenting.Imagine this kid as a 30 year old man...do you want to be cooking and cleaning up after your grown child?Do you want him unemployed and sitting on your couch all day? If this is not a medical problem...then it is surely your fault.Fix it without a belt or yelling.Children respond well to soft spoken women...Be a kind mother who teaches skills to raise a well rounded productive adult.

Answer 7

I like the answer ladywolf gave but if its not a medical condition
I had trouble w/ my daughter well sometimes kids need to hear it from someone else my hubby got tired of spending $ on diapers so he simply took away her diaper and told her no more diapers she is going to wear underwears he helped her put them on and that same day she was potty trained.

At 5 he knows what to do its a matter of choice so have someone else try maybe a nana auntie freind just someone else other then you.

Answer 8

Since he is 5, I'll assume he is old enough to go to school. Determine first if he limits this behavior to home or not. If he doesn't do this at school and in public, then it is definitely intentional and he most likely avoids doing so because it is humiliating to do so in front of his peers. If you insist he clean up the mess he makes when he does this it might discourage him from doing so and encourage him to take responsibility for himself-without berating him or punishing him. Perhaps he is reacting to being labeled as lazy-do you openly refer to him this way? If he doesn't limit his behavior to home then there might be a more complicated issue-either physiological or psychological-I'd recommend seeing a doctor and/or therapist.

Answer 9

let him get around his friends like that, stop changing him. throw his clothes away after he poos in them and dont buy him ne more. i thot i had it bad with my 3 yr old. im sorry. we finally got her going all the time by not letting her do some things that her older sister was getting to do bc she is potty trained. my dad would come and get my kids and take them to the park to play, if she pooed her pants he would bring her back home and leave again with my other girl. it took a few times but not too many of reminding her that nobody wanted to be around big girls that did those things in her pants.

Answer 10

Well, my son was 4 and still having a similar problem. We came up with a reward that would make him try harder to use the potty. He really wanted a castle gray skull for Christmas and I told him if he would make every effort to use the potty that he would get a castle gray skull for Christmas. He did start trying and managed to accomplish the objective. He did receive the castle for Christmas and life was easier for everyone.

Answer 11

Make your child go to the bathroom every 15 minutes they will stop using it on themselves and using it in the toilet so that the 15 minute bathroom breaks will stop effecting their daily routine. Praise them when they go on the toilet to promote more of that behavior. If they continue perhaps you should seek help from their physician 5 is a bit old to be pooping your pants.