How did you find a way to get over it? I know forgiveness is the key, but what if you doubt his/her sincerety about doing the same thing again? Especially after it has happened three times so far..
the situation is not one that involves another woman, it involves lying about talking to certain other people.
2006-06-23 15:49:02 · 11 answers · asked by herenthere 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
these certain other people are busybody relatives.
2006-06-23 15:50:01 · update #1
Thank you Mainworry, and may GOD BLESS YOU!
2006-06-23 15:54:01 · update #2
to clarify and before I am condemned to burn at the stake, this was the situation:
my husband has been hurt by these people numerous times. because of their religiousity, they talked him out of going to dialysis. he wisened up before it killed him, thankfully. they have told him that he is going to hell for marrying me, that his mother is in hell because she didn't have the faith to believe in her own healing, that they are perfect and without sin. my husband becomes upset with them for being who they are. I told him the best thing was to leave them alone, because they are who they choose to be and nobody can change them but GOD. well, he promised me that he would not contact them, and did so of his own free will. it was the lie factor...I have told him that if he wants to put himself in a place for them to hurt him again, that was his choice, but that I cannot stand hearing about it again.
I hope this is clear enough for those that "assume" they know the whole story.
2006-06-23 16:31:24 · update #3
As it is written, we must forgive "seventy times seven times" our fellow man who wronged us... Lest our sins will not be forgiven us.
Peace be with you!
2006-06-23 16:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Arf Bee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, this is one of those hard pills to swallow, so here goes. Please receive this in love from a wife who knows what it's like. You are required to forgive. Period. Unfortunately, the Bible makes no stipulation about forgiving when people repent. We are to forgive so we will be forgiven. I'm not sure how that jives with your theology or mine for that matter, but it's in the Bible. As a woman who ministers to other married ladies in my church, I would suggest you spend some time in prayer about your heart attitude. I'm not implying you have anything wrong. I'm just saying that forgiveness is a hard thing to give. ESPECIALLY when there is no repentance. I know God always has things to show me about myself so start there. Then PRAY for your husband. Not that God would change your husband. He'll do that anyway if he has a willing heart. Pray that God would make you the helper suitable for your husband that you were created to be. If he's lying to you there's obviously other issues. Pray that God gives you the heart towards your husband that you should have. Pray that God would help you get over any bitterness. Pray that God would make your husband the spiritual head he was created to be. Just keep praying.
2006-06-23 16:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by luckyme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in Faith Healing, but I also believe that God gave us the medical knowledge and technology of today's world and that He wants us to use it. In my opinion people that tell an ill person to ignore the medical system and just pray are dangerous.
I think you were right to ask your husband not to talk to these people. As far as the betrayal is concerned, you are in a difficult situation emotionally. The only way I know of to recover is to get as close to God as you can, asking Him to help. If you can afford a good therapist, that can help. Is there a pastor that you can trust?
I don't know why so many people think that you cannot combine faith in God with medical care. It's like telling people to live on faith instead of eating anything.
I will pray for you and your husband.
2006-06-24 13:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by Brigid O' Somebody 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to forgive him even if you're certain he's not sincere about it. Forgive him even if he refuses to give up talking to the busybody relatives. Forgive him no matter what he does, because of the unshakable love of God that you possess in your heart. That's your responsibility as a daughter of God, and Jesus repeated that command many, many times. Other people do lots of things which are inexcusable. . . but they can never do anything which is unforgivable, because that's your own choice to make. Remember how free you are, and how much strength you have in Christ. That's the only thing that ever helped me.
2006-06-23 15:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by Billy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage & all trust. has the same amount of letters.
if a letter is missing, find the letter.
Divorce & no trust. has the same amount also.
otherwise, you have neither one. Get over it? That is only something God Himself can provide for you. Thats what it would take for me.
3 times? I don't feel I would be there after the first time. But thats me.
Prayer..support..and friends..and a good church group.
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2006-06-23 16:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer of course! I'll pray for you too.
Then tell him that you think he should be more considerate to you, before anyone else.
And what concerns you should be more important to him than anything else in this world.
Tell him you love him as you show him this scripture
1 Pet. 3.7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
And here's a little something to cheer you up!
http://annflore.typepad.com/photos/fleurs/rose_anna.jpg
Blessings!
2006-06-23 20:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say pray about it. Tell God how you are feeling and ask Him to take control of that situation. He cares more about your life and situations than anyone in the world. So just talk to Him and ask Him to guide you.
2006-06-23 16:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by RT777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if its a boyfriend/husband girlfriend/wife.Its hard to give a good thought out answer.The trust factor is gone.But boyfriend/girlfriend walk now lying becomes a habit.husband/wife work it out or walk.you can only forgive so much.
2006-06-23 16:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by dreamweaver021557 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets get this straight? you have forbidden your husband from talking to his relatives? How insensitive can you be?They are still his family, and will be so long after he has kicked your controllingbutt to the curb. Its you who is in the wrong, not him. You must learn to accept his family for what they are, not for what you think they should be.
2006-06-23 15:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I even have been cheated on and am now divorced. some people can recover from that, yet in my view, i might finally end up retaining over their head for the remainder of their existence. stable success however.
2016-10-31 09:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by basinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋