girlfriend and their life,most of his complaints are about their sex life,money,and the fact that she has her 22-23 year old daughter and her 3 grandchildren living with her,I have told him time over time that I will still be his friend,but I will never ever disrespect my fiance,by cheating on him with my ex-boyfriend.But whenever he is around he always brings up what few good things we had going on,and is always trying to touch me!My question is should I give up the friendship to respect the man I love and respect?Or should I bring the two of them together to show him how much I treasure my new life?what would you do?Please only serious,honest and caring answeres.
2006-06-23 15:48:44 · 22 answers · asked by redjewel52 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him, forget him and his problems, he sounds like a jerk. Focus on your bf and dont drag him into this mess. Time to move forward, or better yet tell him to get a life.
2006-06-23 15:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by ms.mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously consider my friendship with this guy. If he is complaining like he is to you, and speaking about how you guys were in the past, it "SEEMS" he is trying to get you back or something. Your fiance' should be the most important friend and lover in your life and you wouldn't want that jeopardized by your current friend. It's a tough choice, but who is going to be by your side always in your life? Who has been in your corner when you needed them the most? That would probably be your fiance....stick with those that have your best interest at heart and no motives. Good Luck!
2006-06-23 22:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mekayla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is not happy and he keeps coming back to you because you're familiar. He should be talking these things over with his new girlfriend, what does he think you can do about his problems. I don't think you have to cut him out of your life completely , but I think except for occasionally keeping in touch to see how you're doing he needs to grow up and take care of his life. If the new girlfriend is too much of a problem he's needs to make a decision and leave the relationship, but that's on him.
2006-06-23 22:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex obviously has rejected your boundaries you set in your friendship. Put some distance between each other until there comes a time he can abide by the rules (including phone contact). It sounds like he isn't completely over you and this distance could serve you ex's well being in the long run.
2006-06-23 22:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by linkus86 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to let go of the past other wise your current relationship will be destroyed ,your not with your ex for a reason and if your engagaed then you made the decission to commit to someone else,dont let your ex have a hold onto your mind in the way he is now,everyone has had good experiences with other people in there life but that was not for the most part,if your engaged and you are happy and love your fiance to bits and think he is your soal mate then let go of your ex get rid of his numbers and you change yours,it is aphase that will go away but you need to makwe the first step,
2006-06-23 23:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it's hard to let go, but he needs to turn his focus on his current girlfriend. He's not showing any respect to you, your fiance, or his girlfriend by his behavior. I don't see where anyone would benefit by your fiance and ex being brought together. My serious, honest answer is, if he can't show more respect, get rid of him.
2006-06-23 23:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by LOVE2LD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say tell your ex to cool off or you can't be friends and introduce him to your current guy. if he can respect your new relationship then you can keep the friendship. If not then you have to lose it because it will always cause trouble between you and your new love and you will never really feel comfortable around your ex.
2006-06-23 22:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by IckleMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you should tell him "No hard feelings about our past relationship but I have boyfriend now and I don't appreciate you touching me." Then stop talking to him. All you had to say was no hard feelings about the break up but by being by his side and hearing him and letting him touch you. You are giving him the wrong impression and is making him think you still want him. Good luck sweetie :)!
2006-06-23 22:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by SweetTina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay honestly i think you need to break the friendship off or least tell him to respect your fiance by not speaking to you about the past, the past is the past and the future is with someone else that you will be sharing your life with,,,, he probably regrets what he has done by giving you up
2006-06-23 23:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to be a little distance between you and your ex, at least for a little time. Stop calling as frequently and make it clear to him that you are uninterested.
2006-06-23 22:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋