Am I a hypocrite if I want to go to church when I am living and sleeping with my fiancee'?

Answer 1

If you accept the beliefs of the church and the tenets say that is wrong, well then yes

Answer 2

It depends on which church you are going to. If it is a Southern Baptist church, then yes, you are. If it is a Unitarian church, then no, you are not.

Actually, if you interpret scripture correctly, there is practically no difference between being betrothed and actually be married. According to the Old Testament, if you were sleeping with a man, and you were not already promised to someone else, your "punishment" would be to get married, (and the man would have to pay some money to your Dad). If you were sleeping with someone that you had already been promised to as a wife, you would just automatically be considered married at that point.

Of course, most Christian sects today have made up a lot of their own rules about this type of thing that have absolutely no basis in scripture at all. Why you would want to go to some church that did that type of idiotic stuff, I can't imagine.

Answer 3

Jesus did not stone the women caught in adultery but did tell her not to sin anymore. In the scriptures the true believer is differentiated from the false by what they "practice" The believer puts sin away even if he still struggles, the empty professor keeps sinning. You need to ask not if you are a hypocrite but if you have ever been born again of the Spirit of God at all. Do you really have no trouble coming to worship a Holy God while living in sin? Those who do so are usually the ones warned about who deny the true power of godliness. I don't say this to be mean but that you may not be deceived. Remember Ananias and Sapphira . Also remember the sons of Aaron who tried to worship God in a way He did not approve, this is what God said after He killed them:Leviticus 10:3
And Moses said to Aaron, “This is what the LORD spoke, saying:‘By those who come near Me I must be regarded as holy; And before all the people I must be glorified.’” So Aaron held his peace.
Do not take God lightly. Even the Corinthians in Paul's day had many sick and some died because of the way they defiled the Holy Supper.

Answer 4

No, that is not hypocritical. I am not religious but I think God would be happier to know that you have "sinned" or whatever sleeping with your fiancee' is, and still wanted to go to church than if you just didn't go to church at all.
And no matter how strong your faith is in God or your religion it's important to live with someone before you get married and start a life together so you know that you are really compatible. What if you didn't live with your boyfriend and never slept with him only to get married and find out none of it worked out. You wouldn't want to stay in an unhappy and unhealthy relationship forever and I don't think God would want you to live your life unhappy. As long as your committment to God and your fiancee' is real then I don't think you should worry as long as you are happy with yourself.

Answer 5

You know, your church would say you are wrong, but then the church has it's own ideas.

You are getting married, you love each other. I assume there are no other significant others, no one is cheating with another person.

Religion aside, and maybe parents, no one is being hurt by this relationship.

I would not consider you a hypocrite. Find out how many people that claim to be religious and holy rollers are bigots, who may condemn you, but have had affairs. These are the true hypocrites.

Answer 6

Your not a hypocrite for wanting to go to church. You would be one if you did not condone that action in others or said you did not do those things,but do. However as Christians we are called to live to a higher standard so I encourage you to go to church, and get your relationship with Christ worked out first, then get your relationship with your fiancee worked out. I am sure that if he loves you the way a husband should love his wife he will understand and be willing to work it out with you. If he doesn't, I think I would reconsider him to be my husband (if I was a woman, of course).

Answer 7

No, you're not a hypocrite, for there is not one person at church who hasn't sinned and who won't sin again. You might be classified as some other non-complimentary term since you are living in a way that you know is not in God's perfect will for your life, but at least you are engaged to be married and you haven't totally fallen away from the faith. I hope you get married soon, in Jesus' name, Amen!

Answer 8

If you claim to follow Jesus and say you are a Christian, then you would be living in disobedience. If you are telling other people to live pure lives, THEN you would be a hypocrite. If you are going to church because the Holy Spirit is prompting you, then you are acting in obedience to His prompting. If you are going to church to try and work your way to heaven, it doesn't work that way.

Answer 9

A hypocrite? Well I can say that it is against what the Lord has for you. The Scriptures teach purity, and this is not purity.
It sounds as if the Lord is drawing you to go to church, pray about it and ask Him what you should do. He loves you, but this is not what He has for you, it is not His best.

Answer 10

You go to church because you are a sinner, along with everyone else that goes to church. Church is for the sinners, so they can go, pray, worship, and in time change there sinful ways.

Church is where you need to be, alone with all other sinners.

Answer 11

Guess it depends on the church and whether you choose to preach values you obviously don't agree with.

I have to ask the logic behind it. Why go to a church that you don't share their values? Is it out of guilt? Message me and let me know? I am purely curious.