She has a kid from another marriage...and recently she got custody of him. She loves him, and everywhere we go she carries him on her shoulders. We never hold hands anymore and i cant put my arm around her since the kid is riding her shoulders. its hard to kiss her also because he puts his feet in my face. the kid is 11 and is a brat. what should i do?
2006-06-23 15:25:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What kind of amazon are you hanging around with, that can tote an 11 yr old kid on her shoulders all day? The kid has two legs, I assume, suggest that he walk, if the kid doesn't walk, maybe you should.
2006-06-23 15:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Cow! First of all, why is she caring an eleven yr old on her shoulders? That to me is just a little annoying. It is very understandable that she loves her child. But why did she not have him in the first place. If she does it because she missed the younger days it is time to live the now days. I am sorry for saying this but that boy is at the age of his first hrdon and it might feel good to him if you know what I mean. She needs to understand your feelings too. How long have you two been dating? If not a long time advise her that this is an uncomfortable situation for you and you know that this is her child and you want to except that but you need your time with her too. You don't want to miss out on her either. If you have been together a long time you need to explain to her that you guys are in a relationship and just because there is another person in the picture she cannot keep you on the sidelines because if she does it doesn't give you a chance to bond with the boy or her.
2006-06-23 22:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by gotthex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and make sure she knows your not trying to sound insensitive and that your not telling her not to love her son and DO NOT call him a brat to her, however you could suggest punnishing him for things when you see him acting up.
Also if she JUST got custody of him thenperhaps this will wear off a little and she will be a bit more reasonable and keep the kid from acting up a bit.
I wouldn't leave her over it or anyhting
but that's just me
2006-06-23 22:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by Freakangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is carrying an 11 year old kid on her shoulders? Sit her down and talk to her about what is bothering you. I guess you miss the times when it was just you and her so you need to sit aside some personal time for the two of you. Good luck and God bless
2006-06-23 22:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't come to terms with the fact that she's going to spend a lot of time with her kid, I don't think this relationship will work out for you. I wish you luck. Try talking to her about it. But regardless of whether he's a brat or not, you have to try to get along with him. That's her kid, you know? She's not going to choose you over him.
2006-06-23 22:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by theletterQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooohhh., that's a very touchy subject. Now, I have 2 kids, and I'm going through a divorce. Personally, I would want the person I'm dating to respect my children. If you think that you need to, just talk to her. It's her child, so she may be sensitive, but just let her know how you feel.
2006-06-23 22:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes so happy she has custody that all the attention is on her child, and thats great but you have to let her know you need adult time with her. if a kid knows they can get in the middle and basically hog moms attention they will do it all the time. i know this, i have 3 children and my boyfrien has 3 kids. it can get pretty hairy at times
2006-06-23 22:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to her this child is everything to be closer to her be closer to the child. maybe this child is being a brat because he sees his mom with someone other than the real dad. think about what its like for the kid. get to know this child more, talk to him find out what he likes and spend time with him. then you will be able to be closer to the mom. be patient
2006-06-23 22:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by lushy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hrd one i would ask her do we stil hve a relationship or ru just happy the way things r because im feeling left out i don't feel love anymore can we talk about some time for us so we can hve something if this don't work just MOVE on im sry but that is the fact jack
2006-06-23 22:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mingsi L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her knoe how you feel and that you would like to be with her without the child being in the way but at the same time involve the child.
2006-06-23 22:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by leannepsc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋