I have always wanted to experience the wonderful experience of having a child of my own with the woman of my life filled with unconditiounal love. All through my life I have been told that I would never be able to have children beause something that happened when I was a child. I've never tested myself and I have never had any experiences where any woman I have been with have told me that they believed we might be having a child. To know what it would be like to be a father of my own child brings tears to my eyes and aches my heart. I know adopting would help a child who needs a father but in my heart doesn't feel the same as blood relation which is what I want to feel deeply. I am 46 years old and pray for a miracle that I may be able to have this one wish before my time should come before my I return to home. I believe all things happen for a reason but do not understand why it is this was not a part of my life here. I'd like to hear your story of feelings of your loss in life.
2006-06-23 15:16:26 · 9 answers · asked by jimmyweda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if i were you i would adopt. if you believe all things happen for a reason then maybe your suppose to adopt a child. and something good will come from adopting a child. you could be saving a childs life. and i dont think blood relation will really matter if you love the child.
2006-06-23 15:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by crank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for what seems to be a tremendous loss for you. I know, to a degree, how you feel. I was told that I would never be able to carry a child to term. It took 10 years before I was ever able to get pregnant the first time. Although he did try to come early, we stopped labor and he wound up being over due. I did have a miscarriage after that, but went on to have a daughter. Just remember that God's will is not always our will. And although we do not understand, a lot of time, God knows what He is doing and why. It could be that you haven't had children thus far because there is a special child for you that you haven't met yet. Yes, I am speaking of adoption and I know that you feel that is not the same. Just bear in mind that a child (birth or adopted) is born of the heart before ever born of the body. Your child has been born of your heart now you just need to find that child. He or she is yours and he or she is waiting for Daddy to come find him or her. And you would also be providing a life for a child that might not have a very bright or promising future without you. If they lived long enough to have much of a life at all.
2006-06-23 15:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck-n-happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adopt! Adopt a child. There's needy children all over the world who need someone to love them and you sound like you'd be a great father! Maybe the reason that this happened is becasue God wanted you to adopt a child! I'm only 16 so I havn't really had a loss that I can't get back as of right now, but I have wished some things wouldn't happen, and that some things would happen sooner. But really, pray and ask God and search your heart cause adoption may be for you.
2006-06-23 15:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Why Not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when one has aloss in there life it hurts and you cant take that pain away because no matter what it stay in you forever,i guess that not having a child for you would break your heart and you would understand how precious little things can be in life,where as i have two children one 9 and a 12 month old and sometimes i think i take that for granted knowing that i have not had any problems with my children,however i had a loss of my one true love,the one person in my life who made everything complete,no one understand untill they meet there true soal mate the feeling inside is truely a complete feeling of happiness and it was taken away from me,and i cant ever be with him again,there is a difference between love and true love and the true love is so very hard to overcome when you have lost them,we are all effected in different ways with things we wish and our heart yearns for,perhaps you may be able to go tot he doctors and get your sperm checked maby you have done this but try and if your sperm is not right the possibilities are endless and i hope that one day your wish will come true,being a father is a very special thing and a very stressfull thing too ;) but it is all worth it and i hope you will soon be able to experience all the joys a child can bring in your life soon enough
2006-06-23 15:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all things happen for a reason that's true and if you cant have a child of your own its probably because it the future he might suffer a lot or get killed or anything bad that would make you regret having a child because of the pain you have to go through! i am a christian and i believe in God and if you do too then you know that there is no impossibles for God! if you truly want a child pray to God why he wont send you one! my mom when she got married she found out she couldn't have a child too but she didn't give up. one time at church she was praying to God telling Him she wanted a child and this lady came up to her telling her that God was going to give her a gift which was a baby! she walked out that church saying she was pregnant and that month she didn't get her period and went to the doctor to get tested only knowing that she was pregnant! she didn't only have one baby she had 2. Like i told you before There is no impossibles for God, if you want something ask Him with all your heart and he WILL send you one! if He dosen't He has his reasons like i told you, it might be because maybe your child will suffer a lot in his life! i hope you really take my advice and remember even if you don't get a child still be thankful to God.
2006-06-23 15:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by (*sara*) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying. I was pregenant once and lost it and then I had alot of medical problems and never use birth control for 6 years while with my ex and never got pregnant..But if I were you I would go back to a doctor and first get a second opinion and if he feels that that cannot happen ask him if there is alternative ways. If you still have a sperm count he maybe able to envitro your other half. Who knows? But do it right away because you don't want to mis them growing up . Good luck!
2006-06-23 15:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by gotthex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that I do not have any stories of loss in my life, but I hope that I can encourage you.
The bible tells us that what ever happens to us is not predestined by God. It tells us that unforeseen occurrences befall us all. (Ecclesiastes 9:11) So what happened to you was not God's will.
Jehovah does not like it when we are hurting and he promises that in the future he will erase all of the pain and suffering we are experiencing. Revelation 21:3, 4 tell us that he will wipe out every tear from our eyes and death will be no more neither outcries nor pain will be any more.
What ever it was that robbed you of the ability to father your own children will be corrected and you will be able to experience that unique and wonderful joy.
2006-06-23 15:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by happybujok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only say that my husband was 48 years old when our son was born.
I know what it feels to ache for a child...I was there. And while my husband knew I wanted a child (he had 2 from his first marriage and I had none), he did it for me.
When we met, he plainly told me..."I don't want any more kids". But as we continued to date, he knew, I wanted one...and told me "If you don't mind having an old husband...I don't mind having another one just for you". We are 20 years difference in age.
When we decided to go ahead...I had many problems...it took over a year. Every month I would cry myself to sleep when that time of the month came. I literally told God "If it's your will Lord, please grant me this one gift that I long for...I know only you can give me one of your angels". That next month I was pregnant. I can't believe my little man is is now 13 years old (5'11), and a heck of great kid. I thank my awesome God for him.
Don't give up hope...but also maybe it's your mission in life to help someone other child whose parents were not fit to be parents.
Whatever the case...my thoughts and prayers are with you.
2006-06-23 15:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are not meant to have a baby of their own...some are meant to take care of one that does not have a family...like does not always work the way we want it too...have faith...good luck
2006-06-23 15:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋