how long will it takemy BF to come out of the cave now that his mother has passed away?

Question

she passed away 3weeks ago and he is sooo depressed..i was depressed 3months after my dad died.is it different for guys and their mammas?

he already has started some counseling and meds.

Answer 1

It's different for everyone. Some people have a lot of other things they need to deal with (I did when Steve died), and they pull themselves up pretty quickly. However, that doesn't mean mourning is over, only that it is subdued. Some people sit and brood over might-have-beens and should-have-dones and should-have saids until they work themselves into a major depression.

Be patient with him. Be sure he knows you are there for him, and do what you can to comfort him, but don't tell him to "get over it," or give in to impatience with him. If he's willing to talk about what's on his mind, listen, and don't say much. "Oh, my dear," and a big, comfortable hug, is perhaps more effective than any trying you argue him out of it could possibly be.

When he's ready to hear it, and he starts talking about the past, remind him that, however hard it is to face, there is no changing the past. If his religious or spiritual beliefs admit of such a concept, remind him that his mother goes right on loving him from beyond the veil. Because of course she does; probably more completely and purely than she was able to express when she was alive.

Answer 2

It could take a good while. It's different for guys period. A lot of men don't know how to express themselves, and hold it in. And everybody is different.

Answer 3

u ight want 2 get him some counseling if not he could go into depression

Answer 4

Yes, he might need counseling.

Answer 5

everyone grieves different , be there for him...