if not, where is a good suggestion to go where we can talk and i can get to know her better. i'm 14.
2006-06-23 14:55:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the park or a zoo where you can walk around and spend a fun and nice day sharing each others company
2006-06-23 15:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT ask her where to go. Any place is fine as long as you act like it's the most fun and interesting thing you or she has ever done, and it helps if it actually is fun and interesting. Go anywhere where there will automatically be things to talk about. Outdoor markets, thrift shops, anywhere where you can browse and find wierd or cool stuff that you can make jokes and witty comments about is great. The park, suggested above is another good idea. Above all it should be fun. Getting to know someone as a person is great, but it can get you trapped in the friend zone.
I've noticed that some people are suggesting you ask her to find out what she likes. I would suggest instead finding out what she likes on the first date, then surprising her on the second date by going to or doing whatever it is she likes. That way you get the triple threat: you're doing something you know she enjoys, you don't appear indecisive by asking her to be in control, and you show her that you're genuinely interested in her and that you were listening.
2006-06-23 22:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by Guelph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT ask her where she wants to go. And don't take her to a movie and dinner on a first date, because conversation can get awkward. Choose some place where there is lots of activity...where you both can have fun, and laugh. It's easier to get to know people by watching them around others, and want her to remember your first date where you BOTH had a great time, not where you have to entertain each other, or worse yet, try to impress each other. Carnivals, Frisbee in the park. You're 14. Don't get cute...
2006-06-23 22:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. I'm a girl, I know. If you ask her, rather than drag her along to some stupid place, she will respect you and think of you as more mature and in tune to her interests. If you are terrified of asking her (nothing wrong with that, guys are cute when they're shaking in their socks) then suggest something to her, like a coffee shop (nice and quiet), beach, etc. Make sure not go somewhere too loud, as that can really blow a date. Best of luck!
2006-06-23 22:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for a walk. Is there a park nearby? Take her out for ice cream. Ask her what she wants to do, but if she can't decide, have a backup plan in place. You could also go to a movie, and then go for a walk after, and then you can talk about the movie.
2006-06-23 22:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should find out what types of things she is interested in. On my first date, he took me to a place called the Enchanted Castle where we played laser tag and ate pizza. Make sure that you don't take her some place where she doesn't feel comfortable. Perhaps you could try the oh-so-popular dinner and a movie. You could also try miniature golf, go-kart racing, or going to an arcade.
2006-06-23 22:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a leader dude and not a follower, I suggest you pick a place where there is a lot of things going on and lots of people around, don't ask her where she likes to go, then you will get a dead end for sure. Girls want someone who is confident and can lead so do so.
2006-06-23 21:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by ravinaznrich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ask her.If you are trying to get to know her as a person,the park is the last place you want to take her.Offer your opinion of where you think you too should go,then ask her where she wants to go.Were ever it is make it a public place so that she feels comfortable being with you.
2006-06-23 22:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls love surprises. So you pick it. Don't take her to a restaurant. Too expensive and not needed. Tea room or Coffey shop will do just fine. Your there to get to know each other so make it quiet.
Asking her where to go is not a good idea. You need to pick the place. She will like anyplace you go if it is a surprise.
Just have fun.
2006-06-23 22:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 ha? i would say take her to a mineature gulf place like muligans or something, the movies and then a pizza? or the beach if you have one! an arcade of some sort. go to a park and go out to eat. thats all i have, at your age you should not be doing much so.
2006-06-23 21:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can ask her!
If you don't want to do that, then why not do the traditional dinner and a movie?
The weather is nice, so you could go to a park or a lake, river, etc.
2006-06-23 22:03:54 · answer #11 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋