i'm 18 years now, and i have never had a girlfriend, i'm very shy, yet the point is that i feel something missing in my life, i'm depressed, like i probably won't get a girlfriend anytime soon, my question what should i do, before my life runs toward disaster?
2006-06-23 14:45:14 · 15 answers · asked by Zamurai_X 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I notice you asked a question a month ago as to whether to tell your friend that you like her. Did you tell her? If you did perhaps this is why you are feeling a bit down now.
Why should there be a disaster. I know someone who didn't find a girlfriend until he was 25! A lot of people find a partner in work or college. It just creeps up on them. Stop worrying and it will happen sooner than you think. You will learn to handle your shyness and it will lessen with time. Why not find a hobbie and concentrate on that for a while. Join a reading club, learn to play an instrument etc. A hobbie will give you pleasure, and get the social interaction going, and before you know it hey presto!
2006-06-23 15:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by mel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple, find a girl. The hard part is that women respect and like confidence. To be able to try to fight the depression, try getting outside and exercising, run, ride a bike, "just do it". With exercising you will feel better about yourself and have more confidence. When finding a girl you should start slow and not rush, find a girl that you like and has similar interests so you have things to talk about. Don't worry about being nervous, ever one is at first. When you feel ready to ask a girl out, just remember to be/appear confident. Also remember that a wise man once said "what do you have to loose?". The worst case is that she says no, rejection sucks, but there are plenty of fish is this great and vast ocean of ours. And remember confidence.
2006-06-23 22:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your life wether you have a girfriend or not. If you sit around depressed you are missing out on things. Don't worry the girl thing will happen when the the time is right.
2006-06-23 21:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to be happy with yourself. I was in the same boat as you... I didn't even have my first kiss until I was 17. I had to figure out what I needed for me... after that... the girls just came naturally. Look man, women aren't interested in a man that can't be his own man... and as long as you feel that you need a woman to be somebody or something... they're gonna sense that and not be attracted to you. Find something else to focus your energy on... it'll make a big difference.
2006-06-23 21:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by TheLizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there when i was your age, i am now 25 and married. so you can keep trying buy no matter what you do , things happen in thier own time, so you have to relax or you will look desperate, and maybe act desperate and that will show and girls will fall away from you. so just get out there and meet girls and have fun and one will come along and gain interest in you and take it from there ok! life is not as short as everyone says so just relax!
2006-06-23 21:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself out there man, any excuse u can think of to get out and be social. Time is wasting dude, she's not gonna find you!!! But dont be that depressed your only 18, u got plenty of time, enjoy life!!!
2006-06-23 21:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy, I am old enough to be your father and i never had a date till i was like 20.Hang tough and do not let this stuff bother you.It will all collect together at some time.Be cool dude.
2006-06-23 21:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Y ME I DONT NO. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, i'm like that too, 18 years old with no man. live life and enjoy every minute of it, remember good things happen to those who wait.
2006-06-23 21:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Monroe the freshmen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try learning a little about feng shui. You might be able to improve your relationship luck by making some changes in your bedroom, home, and yard.
2006-06-23 22:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont need a gal 2 fill whole. Wat u r missing is Christ Jesus. I may sound stupid 2 u thinkin hu am i 2 talk 2 u about Jesus.It may sound stupid nd people may mak fun of u, but if u really want peace,only Jesus can fill dat gap in ur heart. His just a prayer away nd he luvs u.if u want 2 talk more about Him, contact me on slimlove10@yahoo.com. God bless bro nd tk kea.
2006-06-23 21:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋