this is a little complicated...but i'll try and explain it..
i had a bf for 9 months...we broke up 2 weeks ago..i dumped him cuz he's been treatin me like **** for 2 months..he really didn't care bout my feelings or anything and he was so self-centered..he's also a little suicidal..he didn't try to commit suicide before, but he's got alot of thoughts about it..
anyway...when i broke up..he kept begging me and tellin me he's gonna change and he only wants a second chance and stuff..but i don't love him no more..besides,i have a rly good friend who's been always there for me as i went through this..and he's n love wit me since forever..anyway..now i think i like this guy..so i told my ex that i can't take him back
2day he called a friend of mine who's the gf of his bestfriend and told her he jumped out of the window and broke his leg cuz he misses me and that he's goin crazy and stuff..and this friend z makin me live through GUILT all the time..
HELP....
2006-06-23 14:41:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh..forgot to ask that...that friend whom he talked to z tellin me i should b friends wit him..should i?
2006-06-23 14:47:33 · update #1
You should NOT be turning to us for help. Your ex needs serious and professional help. Tell someone like your parents, doctors, counselors, police....Anyone who might be able to help. You should NOT feel guilty. It is not your fault that he misses you. He treated you horribly and so you dumped him. You are not responsible for what he feels.
2006-06-23 14:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
He is trying to make you feel guilty by verbalizing suicidal threats and possibly trying to carry out suicidal actions. However, his suicidal ideations (and attempts, if any) should be taken seriously.
Is there a 3rd person (who knows you both) who could intervene? How are you with his parents - can you talk to them? Please try to get someone to intervene, hopefully someone he won't hold a grudge against. You seem like you're young, are there any other trusted adults or older teens in your social circle?
In some states, he can be hospitalized if he is a danger to himself or others. If he is a minor, his parents can commit him for mental health treatment. Either as an adult or a minor child, professionals (doctors, social workers, etc) will help decide if he needs to be hospitalized.
It may be hard for your and/or a 3rd party person to get help to him but it will be better than living with the consequences if he does try to end his life.
Even if he is very dramatic and just verbalizes for the attention, he may need help in dealing with negative life events (such as breaking up with a GF) in more constructive ways. It needn't be professional help (although that would probably be a good idea) but it could just be someone he trusts who has a good head on their shoulders, someone who can listen to him and try to get him interested in other activities so he doesn't keep obsessing over you. Either way, DON'T buy into the guilt trip he is trying to lead you on.
2006-06-23 22:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call for help. I'm sure there's some sort of suicide prevention hotline you could call. Get his parents involved. If it's that serious, they need to know.
He's basically being a baby. He blew it. We all do sometimes, but crying and getting all suicidal about it has never worked for anybody. Pray for him.
2006-06-23 21:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by jermaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not let guilt bring you to him. it is a kind thing to care about him and try to help him, but if he does anything, it is not your fault. it is him being selfish. you are the one that has to decide who you do and do not date. if you don't love him anymore, don't be with him because in the end, it will end up worse.
2006-06-23 21:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by majeco 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
destructive behavior is all the more reason to stay as far away from this guy as possible.his manipulative behavior is very unhealthy for everyone involved,he needs help you can't give him be honest keep your distance don't respond to neggative behavior
2006-06-23 21:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by charleybgoode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets dumped. he needs to get over it. He is only doing this to get you back. He will treat you like #@&% again if you do. Move on.
2006-06-23 22:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by krupsk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not mother theresa, if he can't deal with a breakup, he's not a man! all you can do is refer him to a help service, and do this over the phone...don't bother seeing him again, it will only draw you into his sad little life!
2006-06-23 21:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres notin u can do unless u want 2 take him back!
2006-06-23 21:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by iluv_whitetigers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is ridiculous! Tell him you are going to tell his parents that he is and idiot and see how fast he gets "unsuicidal".
2006-06-23 21:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by texasmiss2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont take him back.
2006-06-23 21:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by wormhole 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋