I always had trouble in asking someone out and when a friend of mine told me about the great amout of relationships he has had in his life so far, I came to the thought that I´ve lost my youth. I'm 27. I have poor psychological resources to deal with my shynes, which make me believe I can´t enjoy life: meet girls and have sex normally, like almost everybody does. How do I get out from a sick mental pattern that makes feel stupid and want to die? Please, help me I don´t know what to do anymore?
2006-06-23 14:05:10 · 10 answers · asked by Ricardo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of people feel this way... I've been shy all my life and have gradually overcome much of it by taking a job where I have to force myself not to be shy and deal with it. Also, working out regularly has made me a more confident and happy and stress-free person. Good luck!!
2006-06-23 14:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 27! Nothing is lost yet, in fact its good that up till now you have not had to deal with all the bullshit in relationships. But now is a good time to start looking, most men recently like to settle in before 30 or around that age. It would be a good idea to maybe go clubing more or just attempt to meet as many new people as you can. The more you meet the higher the chances you find someone that you just "click" with.
So go out there and just put the best foot forward everyday, you never know who you might just meet. =)
2006-06-23 14:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by R man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy. The resources are out there that are inexpensive I'm sure. You already know you have to get out of that self loathing cycle. If you and your friends can't convince you that you're great, then maybe a professional could help. And don't feel too bad. One of my close friends is 27 also, and she's never had a relationship, or a date, or sex. She's not unattractive or anything, just extremely picky. So there's another side of the coin.
2006-06-23 14:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Embrace your age. Embrace the increasing amount of wisdom and knowledge that comes with it and try to educate those younger than you to not make mistakes you might have made in the past.
Your thoughts are referred to as "hardening of the references." I'm 28, and I feel strange about my age from time to time. But then I think about what I've learned thus far, and look at my age to be an asset in terms of experience.
2006-06-23 14:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by stevis78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe it or not alot of people fel this way,i guess you could always start with pushing your self to do something out of the normal this is how i overcome my shyness by doing something out of the norm and it was a few years ago,i wore a short skirt killer boots and let my hair down never reggretted it as it gave me the biggest boost as a woman and ever since changed alot of me,you can do the same perhaps change your style of clothing,go to the hair dressers and get a new hair cut, maby some colour,start doing things you wouldnt normally do and start approaching women step by step it can be just with smiles at first then start saying hi to women as you pass them by or if your out start conversation even just as two people having a conversation,dont be upset by the fact you havent had many girl friends that is defiantely nothing to be ashamed of,the right girl will cross your path,and she will be the love of your life and definately your soal mate and she will get you out of your shell,but in the mean time you can start right now with changing how you feel
2006-06-23 14:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set aside your insecurities and live life. You can break the pattern you are in. You just have to want it. Don't be afraid of rejection, and when you are rejected, because it will happen, don't feel bad about just learn from it and move on. Life's too short to man just live!
2006-06-23 14:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by jrollo76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur nonetheless 23 and saying that u hav wasted young ones . What does that propose ? U nonetheless hav lengthy existence to steer and ur nonetheless young ones. Do the failings that u truly like to . Have transformations in ur existence ,it continuously keeps u healthful in ur existence and u will in no way get bored . U in no way lost any wish. in simple terms sit down and patiently imagine and ull get all ur hopes decrease back . good success.....
2016-11-15 04:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your pretty normal, watch the fourty year old virgin and be thankful. Try being nice to one girl per day. Make one girl per day smile.
2006-06-23 14:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the nursing home
2006-06-23 14:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM NOT SURE WHATS UP WITH U BUT U NEED 12 C A DOCTOR
2006-06-23 14:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by sexysweetbudsmoker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋