my finance and I are suppose to be getting married in august , but moving in with each other by july 5. we found the place already. now he got into a fight with me yesterday, talking about why i ask him where he was. he is also and stubborn person. he told me yesterday that are relationship was over and i should move in the apartment by myself. iam pissed off. he still hasn't called me and iam upset and don't know what to do. do u think i should call him because i asked a normal question, or wait for him to apolize to me. i am confused because now i don't know if i should still be with him, are even live with him for that matter. help
2006-06-23 13:33:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way we have been together 4 years.
2006-06-23 13:34:08 · update #1
If you really love him and he really loves you, things should work out by themselves. Ultimately, you might, unfortunately, have to break the ice with him and invite him to dinner or something. Then, talk to him about your issues, but, if you love him, do not fight with him. Instead, lovingly find out where you now stand with him, and see if he still wants to push forward. If you want to be with him, don't fight with him and make him be glad of what he no longer has, be loving and make him regret what he has lost. This way, even if he does not want you back, you still walk away the better person with your dignity intact. Only you can determine whether or not you should still be with him, because it is your heart guiding you. Look into your heart for answers; it will not steer you wrong.
2006-06-23 13:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come to you! What you asked was a perfectly normally question, I don't know what tone you used, but there was no reason he should be honked off about it. If he does come back into your life, the two of you need to sit down and have a long talk about things like that. Particularly if you plan on being with him for a while. It sounds to me like he might be afraid of settling down, or having second thoughts. Both are natural, but he could have found a less destructive way to express it.
Another thing you need to consider/determine for yourself is whether you should expect this behavior in the future with this guy. I am not saying either way, I don't know him, but people tend to repeat patterns until they have something change them. I know I wouldn't put up with it if I expected it to happen,but that is me.
2006-06-23 20:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Princess, Maybe this is a blessing in disguise,you find this out now rather than later when property and children are involved.. Life is like a bus route, there are a lot of stops with a lot of different people at them,, you will find someone else who will treat you right, and he might be right at the next stop !!!
2006-06-23 20:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by john l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the wedding on hold, dear. You both need to find out what you both expect from the relationship. Premarital counseling is highly recommend. He could be having the pre-wedding jitters. This is rather an abrupt and immature way to deal with it. Good luck, dear.
2006-06-23 20:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is how he is now what is he going to be like after the wedding. do you really want someone to mentally abuse you like this?? dosnt matter how long youve been together. tell him to buck his ideas up or he will be a lonely person the rest of his life
2006-06-23 20:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he has a case of the cold feet, let him call you first.
2006-06-23 20:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋