How to overcome if you are deeply worry and depressed?

Question

I always worry in the future I see only negative since there is some misfortune came in my life. And now someting is in recovery but I still keep on worry, I oftenly cry because of the past happening and I cant forget it. As the saying go " the wound could be healed; but the scars stay always. I am afraid sooner or later I become crazy or psycological ill or brain disorder. Please tell me many advices as possible.

Answer 1

Hey, the best thing is always to get professional help as early as possible. Many people don't go for mental help, but sooner or later they regret it. Trust me, there are millions of people who have felt the same way and there are no other people to contact for advise than those who have been trained to do help.

Answer 2

Well, that's a tough one. The answer is personal to you - how you view the world, how you like to get information, it's just a complex issue. Therapy isn't always the answer.

There are some people who find their relief in religion, and some who find it in "new thought," like the Science of Mind, or Unity Church of Christianity. There are some who get a great deal accomplished with the Landmark Forum, or by just reading Maryanne Williamson or Dr. Wayne Dyer.

What it really comes down to, in my personal experience (having been right where you are, and still feeling it sometimes,) is you have to realize that you don't have to have the thoughts that just pop into your head (worry, frustration, doubt, self-doubt, sadness)

You can stop, acknowledge that those are the thoughts that you used to have, and choose to focus on something else.

It's not that simple, and it's really that simple.

Focusing on the past doesn't change that it happened. Focusing on the past will have you continue to aim in that same direction in the future, though. There is only right now - the past is gone, and tomorrow isn't here yet.

So, think about what you have right now. When you're in a good space, make up an inventory of what's great about your life. What you like, what you enjoy, what makes you happy. When you're feeling not so great, you can TRY (and it's hard, I know) to re-focus on those things that are PRESENT for you and that bring you happiness.

As with anything, practice makes perfect.

I used to need medication for anxiety and depression, and now I just need a good swift kick in the butt every once in a while.

Don't be afraid to ask for help. Don't be afraid to take medication as a SHORT TERM SOLUTION. Be afraid of anyone who wants to put you on meds and leave you there; they have devastating side effects after long term use AND they become ineffective. Prozac is probably the safest short term drug for depression.

I wish you the best. I know it's hard, but just believe that there are other people out there who have beaten it and who have lives that are much happier.

Answer 3

You did the right thing by reaching out. Now please don't worry if you get a troll or two with harsh comments. Personally, I'd recommend you start with St. John's Wort. A capsule two to three times a day may help significantly.

Second, remember that worry does not count as an activity, but planning does. So does researching solutions to your various problems, or asking people for help and then accepting what help they are willing to give, without being overly concerned about what they are unwilling to give.

You can indeed drive yourself crazy by thinking you can. It's like the lady whose hair went gray. When asked why, she said it was from worrying. Asked what she was worrying about, she responded that she was worrying about her hair going gray!

You might also take up yoga or other forms of meditation, but beware of those with big deal hype that really just want to get you hooked in, giving them money and control over your life. Just sit quietly and listen to your mind. My Methodist Sunday school teacher mother said prayer was talking to God, and meditation was listening to God. And it is true: inside your head, just like everywhere else in the universe, there is God. Find a quiet spot, wear earplugs if you need to, and just listen. If you find things getting negative, talk back to them. Any god worth communing with is certainly not going to be negative on you at a time like this, so talk back to the demons that tell you bad crud. (Sure, the scars stay; but we all have our share of psychic scars. Many of us have quite a few physical ones, too!)

And talk to anyone you trust about what worries you, and listen to the advice they give you on how to improve things. Maybe it's only a little step here and there, but if it's in the right direction, even a single little step can mean a lot.

Answer 4

First of all it does no good to worry about things that you have no control over. I'm sure on some level you know that. The hard part is remembering to put that idea into work in your life.

Find the things you do have control over and do something about them. Then you will feel a sense of accomplishment and you will feel better. (It takes time, it won't all get better at once. But keep doing good works and fixing only the things in your life that you do have control over.)

Get counseling or seek a support group is you don't get over this soon.

You talk about happenings in the past and wounds you still have- are you in therapy? If not, and you can find a way to get it- please do. You obviously have issues you need to work on.

Answer 5

what is the worst that could possibly happen? then, have a plan to deal with the worst, and a plan to prevent the worst from happening.

for example:
problem#1: you have no money to pay for your rent.
Worst scenario: you landlord will kick you out, and you have to live on the street.
To prevent it from happening: you do what you can do to raise money for your rent. talk to the landlord for an extension. ask a friend for a room to stay until you can find a solution.

problem#2: not getting along with your spouse
worst scenario: divorce
what you can do to prevent it from happening: repair the relationship by doing so and so. set a realistic goal.

use your negativity to creat a power to change. you can change your past, but you do have control of what you can do today. and the things you do today, will change the course of what is going to happen in the future.

it is absolutely ok to worry about uncertainties and unforeseable in life. it shows that you are very considerate and thoughtful. but, don't let yourself depressed b/c of it. turn that negative thinking into your energy for good.

good luck. let me know if it works.

Answer 6

well you really should go and see a doctor, to check, if you are really depressed... well if you are depressed and if you have things happened in the past, then you really should make a therapy! depends on how bad the depressions are i suggest to see a therapist at least once a week...but one thing is for sure, it isnt done by taking drugs...you really should have a therapy, so you can get over your past... well i had times like that and crying about my past and stuff, bad childhood and so on.... the thing i did was trying to think about what i have right now, i am healthy (well more or less lol) having a roof over my head and something to eat...i kept on telling myself that there are people im more sorry for than for me...if you are really depressed that probably wont help. my mom is depressed since almost 5 months now and its terrible for me to see it and i cant even help her...if youre depressed your in a black hole and whatever most people tell you probably wont help so you really should go and see a specialist about that...i used to work with depressed people, and one really important thing is, you need goals in your life... get a hobby if you dont have one find something you like...a sport, music or some craft stuff....get yourself a goal in life!!the worst for people with depressions is if they just go to work and then do nothing! you need a goal in life and get out of the house!!sun is very good!you should try and make walks in the sun or ride your bike!maybe with some friends...i just can repeat myself, go and see a doctor to get over your past...means making a therapy eventually with the help of some drugs (im not into those drug thing but if someone is about to kill himself it sometimes is the only way for the start of a therapy)! and get a hobby and goals in your life!!that is so important!! and sun sun sun! good luck

Answer 7

Hi

I can't feel your pain of the past, or even tell you I understand your struggles, however, I know about prayer, I know about taking a stand in your own life making a good choice, your blessed to still be alive.. someone might come to you with worse problems and you will give them some lite in their heart to keep moving forward.. Whatever your past is, you can't continue to let it control you. You must stand up and say this day, I will burn the past, will not allow it to haunt my thoughts, soul, mind and life, you may need to seek help, someone you can cry on a shoulder to, a family member, a church home, someone that your comfortable with.. Keep praying, don't let the devil win!! He wants you to fail.. You may not see it now but you are somebody, and somebody needs you.. Here is a big HUG! from me to you.. stay strong, keep walking forward never look back. I know you might even ask why me? You have to help somebody else that is lost in theirselves just like you are now, when you come out this storm in your life, you will understand the reason our life struggles are no joke..

May God Keep You, and restore your soul!
when you have nothing else to say or do just call his name JESUS he will hear you, when no one else wants to listen

Answer 8

You are making things worse with all this negativity!!! Stop! There is so much in this world to be happy about....In spite of all that is going on. You really need to change your attitude. As soon as you do, You'll be amazed how quickly things will get better.

Answer 9

See the webpage below and read it. Then you can click on "natural healing" and see "depression" with tops on how diet can help.

Answer 10

i here ya i have had my share of wrong happen to me ...
i have no advice but just to say no one is ever really alone and if nothing else, i find I'm so darn stubborn i fight sadness just to proved i wont be another victim of it!
OK yeah... maybe I've crossed over to crazy land? who really knows, but at least i know myself and I'm not scared of who i am!