What did i do wrong? I want to apologize, please help!?

Question

Ok, so im 16 yr old guy.. A friend of mine introduced me to this girl at school that was dieing to get to know me. So we talked, and in a few days we were talking on the phone every day and spending time together after school. We hadn't dated yet, but everyone at school thought we were.. My friend told me to go ahead and ask her out before it dies out, as it did with him, as it turned out, he liked her before, and she liked him but never said. So nothing came out of it. So anyway, i never asked her out. After all the casual hangouts, i decided to ask her to a movie, and we went. Personally, i had an awesome time and towards the end i gave her a peck on the forehead. From then on, everything screwed up and we haven't talked since. She didn't return any of my calls and coincidentially enough, she hasn't been on msn since. I feel terrible, and i want to apologize becauase i'd rather have her as a friend than nothing, but i dont know what i did wrong. What do i do?

ok.. the date was like 2 months ago... if she's gonna think about it, she's had plenty of time.. i only tryed calling back the first few days, then i gave up.. but now i really miss her, and it's killing me

Answer 1

I'm 16 and I'm a girl and personally by reading that I have no idea why she's acting that way and I don't think you did anything wrong at all so you should talk with her and find out what's wrong it might not have anything to do with you or it might be something really stupid so the best way to find out is just to ask her what's wrong then you'll know but I really don't think you did anything wrong unless she wanted more than a kiss on the forehead or something I don't know or maybe she didn't even want you to kiss her??? strange

Answer 2

Maybe the kiss on her forehead gave her a sign that u just wanted to be friends with her? As a woman I wud think that way. Why didnt u give her a real kiss? Do u think she feels that you pushed her off? How wuz the rest of the evening? Did u try to approach her while the movie played, like holding her hand or so? If she is upset out of that reason there is a good chance she likes u... Good luck

Answer 3

Dude! Seriously, you need to stop trying to contact her. If she decides she wants to talk to you, she will call or get ahold of you in some other way. I have went through what you are going through and the only thing I managed to do with it was look pathetic and a little like a wierdo.

You probably did not do anything wrong, but you need to give her space. If there were any feelings there, you need to make her miss you. That isn't going to happen if you keep trying to call her.

I went through it a couple times before I realized that. Good luck and don't be closed to dating other people while she is doing this.

Answer 4

Quite honestly, the only thing that you did wrong was scare her. She freaked at the closeness. You know how women always complain about men being afraid of committment? That's her. She is afraid of a relationship....she's afraid of letting anyone get to know her better. She believes she's better off alone.

What you do in this situation, you write her a letter. I understand how difficult it is for a 16 year old guy to be confrontational. It's not a cool position to be in and I'm trying to spare you from that. Either way, you simply state: I'm sorry for whatever went wrong, but I'd rather have you as my friend than nothing at all. And if she continues to back away from you, then you are not to blame for her actions.

One of the greatest life lessons I have ever learned was to not hold yourself accountable for other people's actions.

Answer 5

All you can really do at this point is find out why she pulled away in the first place. you must do this in person, but do not put her in an awkward position, like confronting her while she is with her friends. Just ask her, and you could even say something to the effect of "Look, i am not quite sure what happened. That night, when i kissed you, the moment just felt right to me at the time. I now realize that it was not, and i am in deep regret for my actions. The worst part about it for me is that i seem to have lost your trust and your friendship. That is killing me inside. Please, let me make it up to you. I am sorry for scaring you, and i really want to be your friend. Please accept my appology." Something to the effect of that, and you can change it to suit your own self/situation. All you can do is see what she says; if it is over, it is over and no prayers of yours can arrest the decree. Good luck to you, and i hope that you can at least maintain a friendship.

Answer 6

i dont think you did any thing wrong. between 2 people it works for 1 but not the other..if she didnt feel comfortable with you then she may be avoiding you for the embaressing moment of faceing you again. there also maybe be other reasons. like if she has a strict dad who dont like her dateing guys at this age and im sure there are plenty..may be she wont face her parents with this if she feels shell get to involved with you. i mean you are both young. stop calling her and texing her give her some breathing space..she may have found you too over powering. and with the friendship itll come together gradually. just give it time..take a step back..and dont worry too much. and please remember you didnt do any thing..

Answer 7

If everything went the way you say then you have done nothing wrong that i can see, she is just being a normal female, playing with you head to see how you can take and right now you ain't doing so well, just calm ya nerves and if she is the one for you right now Kid she will contact you do not worry ya self if you was a good little gentle man like you say you are then you will have your lady Peace

Answer 8

i detect the concern is that adult men make an apology too lots. My unfavorable boyfriend apologizes each and all the time for issues even whilst they're so minor as to no longer even warrant an apology. case in point, forgetting to place decrease back the milk. i think of that adult men ought to make an apology for great issues, and then do merely what women people do, and refuse to make an apology for minor issues that don't incredibly remember.

Answer 9

You didn't do anything wrong. She might have misinterpreted your peck of kiss, which I think was gentlemanly and fine. If she won't return your calls, then you have tried. It's not fair that she won't give you a fair shake. You can ask a mutual friend to find out for you if she won't talk to you. Or she's just not into you. Good luck, dear.

Answer 10

how long has it been? You may just need to wait it out, a friendship is still possible, even a relationship is still possible.
Call her, write her a poem(if you can't write look some up on the net) do something to make her feel special and she'll be talking to you again before you know it