Him and I have been together for 4 1/2 months. I believe Jesus, the son of man was sent to this earth to die for our sins.....him, as a deist, does NOT believe he was crucified for our sins. And he does not believe that Jesus is the son of God. We love eachother, and this is the ONLY THING that is getting in the way. We have had pretty interesting discussions, (we were both very respectful and understanding) just dont agree with eachother. I would like to hear everyones opinion, ESPECIALLY a deist and Christian couple. How do you not let this get in the way? Is differences in believes be a good enough reason to not be together? Im seriously having 2nd thoughts about this relationship. Thank you.
2006-06-23 13:18:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
UPDATE: Him and I discussed it last night, and we both agreed that it will not work out. How I explained it was: Religion and spirituality is part of our foundation, if its rocky, brocken, or cracked it will not be strong enough for a healthy relationship.
He agreed and we broke up. He did say that I have brough enlightenment like no other. He said his belief in Deism is not set in stone.....you never know. I miss him.
2006-06-24 04:27:24 · update #1
i hate to say this sweetheart, but i would not a) contine seeing him or b) marry him.
think about this. this will be the one thing you all will fight about the most. i know that you love each other, but when you think about it, God WILL provide someone else for you. i think once (if) you give up this relationship, God will take care of you. let me know how this works out for you, i will be praying.
plus, the Bible specifically mentions that we should not be 'unequally yoked' with unbelievers. good luck, hun!
2006-06-23 15:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
HA! knowitall is funny. Okay look, he may be a great guy and all, and it may work for a while, but having a atheist and a christian is WAY different than having a Jewish and catholic. The Jewish and Catholic both believe in the same God, but in different ways. While the Atheist doesn't believe in the spouses God at all. Getting together will bring a crazy end result, in my eyes. But if you do date him, but I dont recommend it, the Bible says to live your life the Christian way, and show them that being a Christian is different than most religions.
What I mean is: It's probably not a good Idea, but don't just listen to me, read what the Bible has to say. Good luck with your decision!
2006-06-23 13:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by thebusstop69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really a deist-then you believe in the same God. He would be a little worse that a non-practicing Jew. That would kinda be like an American-kinda like all of us except not Christian. That almost qualifies as an unbeliever-which would be not in your best interest. It would be better for your relationship long term if you either get him converted or say good bye.
2006-06-23 13:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember in the Bible when it says "do not be yoked with unbelievers"? I think by dating this guy, you're going to start compromising your own beliefs to fit his. I would pray about this and you will probably find that this isn't God's will for you. The Lord desires for us to marry a fellow believer and grow spiritually together... remember that 'missionary dating' isn't a good idea, because it often times fails. There is a big difference between the two of you's beliefs and it will be apparent in the future. Pray about it!
2006-06-23 13:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by C.J. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It won't work
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 2 Corinth 6:14,15
2006-06-23 13:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Conundrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the bible does say be not unequally yoked together and i beleive that hole heartedly. but, there are situations when two people that are lost get married and then one of the two get saved now because of that does the saved person divorce the lost person? but your situation a little different your already saved and if he doesnt believe that way (speaking of christ and who he is and what he done) then hes lost. my advice is to you is this trust in God let him decide this decission for you dont trust our opinions our opinions dont amount to a hill of beans concerning a decission youve got to make about your life when ultimately you want to do what pleases God first. hey 1 of 2 things will happen for sure he will either believe at the end or he wont, the thing you have to be aware of is not to fall into a state like king solomon did. id say 85 percent of his life he depended souly on God for everything then he started gettin married to alot of different women well they brought their religion into his kingdom slowly he started going away from God and leaning towards false idols the outcome from that point on wasnt joyus. God has either allowed this man in your life or sent him to you if he sent him to you then he has a purpose behind (marriage, your witness to him for salvation, a man thatll treat you the way God intended a man to by the word of God, and so on) it if he allowed him to be part of your life then this may be a test, a test that if you do not trust God thru it all then the outcome could be devistating (possibly). hey in the end your going to do what you feel is right but remeber just because you think its right doesnt always mean it is. people always say they dont believe in heaven or hell (an example) just because they believe that doesnt mean its not real so be cautious and lean on God for your answer. hey ask yourself this question concerning a future husband, would you want a man you picked out or one that God has chosen for you? was he sent to you or been allowed to be in your life? God knows.
2006-06-23 13:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by anthony p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why that should be a barrier. Uniformity of thought is no guarantee of a successful relationship. You will have to let go of the idea of one person being right, one wrong, just recognize that you can each learn from the other, and accept that you are each on your own path.
(I'm a Christian)
2006-06-23 13:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the Bible says about Marriage
Rules for taking a second wife.
If he take him another wife.... -- Exodus 21:10
God's rules for disposing of hated wives.
If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid: Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel's virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate.... But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father's house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you. -- Deuteronomy 22:13
It is better not to marry. But if you must have sex, then get married. It's better to be married than burn forever in hell.
It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. -- 1 Corinthians 7:1-2
For I would that all men were even as I myself.... I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. -- 1 Corinthians 7:7-9
If you're not already married, don't get married. If you have a wife, don't have sex with her. There's not enough time since Jesus is coming soon.
Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. -- 1 Corinthians 7:27
But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none. -- 1 Corinthians 7:29
2006-06-23 13:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by pope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work just as badly as any other relationship; as long as you both admit and agree that you are living, and that you don't know or understand everything. You also have to agree that it's OK to disagree; you can bring light but don't shine it in each other's eyes-you'll bind each other. Bring Truth to each other so it can be seen.
Oh yeah, you also have to agree to a whole lot of other things.
2006-06-23 13:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by kasar777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you planning on argueing or being in a loving marriage? Life is what you make it. Everyone has different opinions about all sorts of things. Live and let live.
2006-06-23 13:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by pickle head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋