They wont even let me go out with one as friends cause their afraid people might think we're dating! I even brought up going to prom with one of my black guy friends and they said they wouldnt help pay for anything if I did....why do they act like that and how do I get them to get over it??
2006-06-23 13:12:29 · 21 answers · asked by cinamintwist34 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gangstadad's Answer:
"Your parents are protecting your future. how many white male friends do your black guy friends have? I will bet it is zero, they don't like white people, you are a trophy for them."
My Response:
I have to say that I disagree with this because I am a black guy and I think that I have more white friends than I do black. All black guys do not hate white people. If you want to convince your parents into letting you go to the prom with this guy then let him meet your parents. Believe me, all the white girls that I have talked to let me meet their parents and now they enjoy my company more than anything. Like this one white girl that I know; Her dad gave me their number just so I could play tennis with HIM and with her at anytime. So just tell him to chill, so that you can set up a meeting between him and your parents. Your parent must be able to feel like they can trust him first. By the looks of it, I bet they have never even seen the guy.
2006-06-23 13:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Tony D. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say...............but I'm more then sure your parents are racist. If they weren't it wouldn't matter what other people say or thought about you being with a Black Guy. Your aprents are still in the closet when it comes to these things. And they probably say oh no my Best Friend is Black..........but truely all that a cover up. Anyway good luck.
2006-06-23 13:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Joyce B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common for the "old schoolers" to be racist. They grew up in a time where it was running rampant and the stereotypes remain in their minds. I personally would just let them know that this world isn't the way it was 30 or 50 years ago. You have a mind of your own and it is your decision, just pay for it yourself. Or sneak and do it.
2006-06-23 13:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by M.A.T. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes if it looks like a duck and sounds like a duck- it's a duck. Honey your parents are racists, I know it's hard to admit. While you live under their roof you don't have much choice in what to do (parents can make your life hell) but when you move out date whomever makes you happy, don't let your racists parents influence you.
2006-06-23 13:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kellidoscope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your parents aren't racist - what do you call it? You probaly should invite your friend over for your parents to meet. Maybe they haven't spent much time with people of other races and so they are uncomfortable with people who are not like them. Tell your parents what a great guy he is and have him over.
2006-06-23 13:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your parents may be either racist or they are caught up in the news way to much. I'm not racist myself in anyway, but I know that there are still negative stereotypes that exist with black individuals, so maybe thats why your parents are so against you dating this guy.
2006-06-23 13:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by chocolatechip333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty racist to me.Racism is racism,no matter how you put it.I say KKK racist.Everything they said is negative against the Black race.Not your fault,just don't be like them and you will be a better person for it.
2006-06-23 13:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are racist, they are overprotective and racist.
though i doubt they will join the kkk or anything
how old are you? you must be within the age your parents tell you when to go to bed.
you have no choice right now, wait till you are in college, then you can stay out till 8am if you want.
you love your parents, but you have to live your life.
2006-06-23 13:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by ! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's no two way about it. Your parents are racist. Either pay for the prom yourself or do what they want.
2006-06-23 13:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ive gone through this same problem. im white/mexican, my dad is one of those stereotypical mexican men when it comes to their daughters.
since i was 13 (im 18 now) ive been attracted to black men. in 8th grade i was going out with this one black boy and didn't tell my parents, but one of my friends parents told my dad aobut him and exaggerated about him saying he was a "thug" and what not, and it made my dad pissed. i pretended to break up with the boy so my dad would cool off. it helped for a bit. but then my freshman year of high school i got into a serious relationship with a black boy and im still with him now, but when my dad found out i was talking to him, not in a relationship with him, he got pissed. but i tried to sit him down and talk to him ,but it didnt really help because hes really stubborn.
at the end of my senior year in high school, i think my dad finally accepted the fact that i was going to be friends with black boys. i actually had to get a ride home from one from school one day and my dad was home. at first he was pissed, but luckily the guy was very polite to him and i think that made it some what better.
the only advice i can give you, is sneak around your parents. i know this isn't good, but its not fair that our parents aren't giving these boys a chance. i would try sitting down and talking wit them, trying to get their side of the story, and give yours. try to make some what of a compromise between you two. offer to have them meet the boy you are trying to go out with.
your parents may be around the same age of my parents, in their 40s, and i dont know, but my parents seem to still be kind of racist. they worry about what people are going to think, but since im biracial i tell them that, neither one of their parents wanted them to be togehter and they didnt listen to their parents and look, they're extremely happy now.
2006-06-23 14:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by dabaygurl510 b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋