I have been dating this wonderful woman for almost a year and I need to figure out away to break this to my parents. I am 26 but I feel like a small child in this situation and don't know how to handle it. Where should I go from here.
2006-06-23 13:01:49 · 21 answers · asked by Mediarts13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I understand where you are coming from. I had a lesbian experience with a woman that I am still friends with today, although I am married to a man. My dad is a Reverend and my mom the Reverends wife (even worse).
There is no easy way to tell your parents you are gay, you simply have to sit them down and be frank with them. You have to tell yourself, they are probably going to be very angry at first, then tell yourself "these are my parents" - they will love you regardless.
I can't tell you that it will come out all honky dorey... it took my parents over a year to accept it, but the finally did. If you love this woman like you say you do, then you will be honest with your parents about your relationship. If the woman loves you the same, she will be supportive and go with you if you need her to.
Don't worry! It's going to be ok, no matter how bad it seems like it is. Remember the 3 C's - Calm Cool and Collective...this should be your demeanor.... parents sense fear.... and if they sense it in you, they will play on it. If there is no fear.... what else can be said or done. Absolutely nothing!
Good Luck!
2006-06-23 13:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by jemapelle_aphrodite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have either of you been living on an island for the last 25 years? Don't you think they know? You're their child.
Your parents will love you no matter what however I'm not always sure that you have to "come out" to them. If their culture, has a "problem" with homosexuality, love them enough to not say more than you need to.
Be gentle. This is not usually a dream most parents have for their children.
I'm not an expert, just a parent. Maybe this link will help. Good luck.
2006-06-23 14:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... u r not asian, rite? Most of non-asian parents are open minded than asian parents. Before you told them, you must plan and recognize the risk(s). What will happen and what you should do if it happen. Like maybe you should leave the family, then where you want to live? Plan it!
Hmm... i'm gay but i will not tell them forever! I'm asian & i know, asian parents cannot accept it!
2006-06-23 13:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by lazuardi.sepi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them ur a lesbian and if they dont like it then tough sh** if ur in love with someone then ur parents should just be happy 4 u not go of on u ur 26 yrs old ur can do whatever the he** u want when ur out of ur parents house thats what i would do if i was gay
2006-06-23 13:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually parents understand the way you want to go and if you just tell them how you feel they will likely listen.
2006-06-23 13:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by En. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your girlfriend go with you to your parents house, and just say, Mom, Dad, we've got something to tell you...and just spill it..the quicker the better, like ripping off a band-aid.
2006-06-23 13:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her to dinner
about 3 or 4 movies have been made about exactly that situation.
and you tell your parents
guess whose coming for dinner ,
my lover .
and let them find out when she steps through the door
they may see the humour in it before they break down
2006-06-23 13:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being Straight forward
2006-06-23 13:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest to be straight up with them, get it out in the open, no matter how hard it will be to tell them you will feel sooo much better getting it out in the open, and off your chest,you can not hide who you are.if they seem alittle strange about it, thats ok. it may take them alittle time to get used to it, thats all.a parent should love their children no matter what their life choices are as long as no one gets hurt
2006-06-23 13:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
......There is no easy way.Just tell them that you are happy like this and this is who you are.Tell them that you wouldnt be happy with anyone else and that they are your parents and they should support you no matter what you do or who your with.Trust me as your parents they will porbably take it well but if not dont let them tell you how to be happy.You cant force happiness...=)everyone knows that
2006-06-23 13:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jenna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋