don't drink with a straw.
find a woman who is a friend and go clothes shopping. Take all her suggestions.
Get your hair cut and shave.
meet her first
tell her you think she's great, does she want to get some coffee on thursday.
2006-06-23 13:07:07
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answer #1
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answered by god1oak 5
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Number one, be yourself. There's nothing wrong with being the person you are...shy or not. Number two, maybe you're trying too hard. Sometime the simple "sit back and play it cool" approach works just as well. When you find a girl you want to get to know better, just take your time and treat the situation with the same coolness you would when you were say, ordering a beer from a bartender. Be calm and collective. Get to know her. People (especially girls) like to talk about themselves. Ask a few questions...you may find the answers aren't even what you're looking for. If you like where it's going take small steps like buying her a drink, etc. Remember, do not be too pushy, too forward, or appear too desperate......this scares us girls away quickly. Just relax.....you'll find the right lady soon enough!
2006-06-23 13:08:41
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answered by Anonymous
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Take dance lessons at some place other than Arthur Murray's which is like a used car dealership with all the hardsell to your insecurities and vulnerabilities. Find a place that rotates dance partners and then you don't have to come up with brilliant conversation for an extended period of time. And then just note who seems like fun, who seems uptight and critical, who's attractive, who's not. If you're 37 and still so shy - you might try group or individual therapy and talk about your progress. I've been shy but eventually found a beautiful gal at the dance hall. We're married with three kids.
2006-06-23 13:07:26
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answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4
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You know what trial and error is a good thing sometimes if you just get the nerve to walk up to a lady thats good even if she rejects you at least you tried and if you do; try to be a gentalman say "hi how are you" if they don't role there eyes you might have a good one so after you ask how she is doing proceed to say your name and say whats yours if she tells you say oh thats a beautiful name, even if it isn't because a woman loves compliments then say "nice to meet you". Don't let it end there say "well I was wondering if we could talk a little later so I know you a little better because you seem like a interresting person to talk to". If she ask for your # don't doubt because I always ask for the guys # you giving her your # doesn't mean she doesn't like you, and if she gives you her # don't automaticly think its fake and if she does give you her # don't call her right away and if it is early in the day when you get her # call her around 9pm to set up a date. If you get her # at night then call her 9pm the next night or the night after that. I haven't expeareanced that but it is what I desire because alot of me aren't gentalmen and the come to wemon like jerks, if it doesn't work in the first try then don't stop because there is someone for everybody and if you stop beleiving that then you won't ever step up to a lady and be heard.
2006-06-23 13:23:23
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answered by lillady085 1
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how would drinking something other than beer help you??? I was with you until that point. I dont know your look or your style so I really can not help you there. are you trying to meet the right person or just PICK UP a bunch of hoes??? Theres a difference! The difference is, women don't like to be HIT ON. Change your attitude and mind set about women then maybe they will find you appealing.
THEN ask a friend to set you up....
2006-06-23 13:05:38
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answered by ChrissyLicious 6
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I think you're approaching women the wrong way. It's much easier to work with someone you know than some stranger at a bar. Coworkers, friends, friends of friends, whatever are better places to start. You're sure to have something in common, so conversation is easier. If it goes well, it wouldn't be too hard to try asking her out. If she's already a friend, you've got two things going for you right off the bat; she's much more likely to agree; and it doesn't have to be romantic, so the planning is easier and she'll usually pay for herself. Also, it's easier to act like yourself with a friend who you like than someone you're trying to impress. Getting to know someone before trying to sleep with her is a better way for you to figure out if she's good for you, you'll know if she has a significant other you might need to deal with, and you can really make an impression her if you know what she likes for gifts, etc. Also, for longer-termed relationships it's better to have a friend than just a f*** buddy.
Now some mini-tips:
I don't think drinking stuff other than beer will help, nor does your particular look matter much, but how you convey your look does. You need to feel okay to look okay, and feeling great makes you look great, so if you have some serious downers in your life deal with them asap. Confidence is a very important of a look, but not bravado, more like self-assurance that you are a good, interesting guy and you're okay, etc. Conversations rely on what is in common more than teaching, especially in this situation; if you have time, try browsing here or Wikipedia or someplace just to get a wide grounding of knowledge/trivia that you can use when discussing something she likes or to help a lagging conversation. Don't allow yourself to fawn over a woman just cause she's got breasts; it's a good thing to be your own man, to have your own opinion and to defend it. If you just want sex, buy it; it's cheaper in the long run.
Most of all, remember that women aren't nearly as complicated as they think (nor are men so simple); we're much more similar than either sex likes to admit. Just imagine what you'd think in her situation, how you would like to recieve so-and-so, what you would feel in whatever-whatever, etc. Yeah, she's gonna be different, but close enough.
Anyway, good luck man, and have fun!
2006-06-23 13:32:57
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answered by Fenris 4
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conversation....anything will do,well use your better judgement.(not,you got a great ***)compliments,wich can be conversation starters,but can also backfire since you might convey coming on too strong.finding things in common,or not,wich can open the conversation stream,have confidence but dont be cocky....as the aggressor you have the upper hand and put those feelings of nervousness and shyness in her playing court.take intrest and look them in the eyes,just dont stare them down....your not getting in a fight.this first encounter will lay down the path if there is going to be one,smile and resonate a friendly countenance. before ending the encounter tell her you enjoyed talking to her,and if you could offer her your number or method of communicating to enjoy her company again. do this a hundred times,rinse repeat and it will all fall in place with practice.
2006-06-23 13:19:08
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answered by Anonymous
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Okay, you said the word 'beer' which got my attention. Not a good drink to strike up a conversation.
Dress normal, be yourself. Women will like you for who you are. Don't be so shy about it. If you see someone you like, walk up and start a conversation. Perhaps start with 'hi' or 'hello'. Ask about a recent event. ie weather (lame) soccer world cup, something about the location your in. If she's interested she'll talk to you.
2006-06-23 13:04:17
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answered by revoltix 7
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This is a rarity in a guy. If you know how to treat a woman, then it shouldn't be difficult for you to get someone interested in you. These days, females are more aggressive. Just don't get involved with a married or taken female for your somewhat first real relationship, this would be hard on you. Go to places where you'd more likely meet women of substance, store, mall, not clubs, strip bars......
2006-06-23 13:06:32
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answered by msthinkpositive 5
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ok, here's the deal. we can sit here until tomarrow and tell you what to say and how to say, but none of that is going to help because if you're to shy to walk up and say it, or if you choke...it's all irrelevant.
here's what i think you're lacking. confidence. do whatever you think you need to do to boost your confidence level...women really like a guy who is self assured. that being said, here's what to do. start "fixing" yourself from the outside in. if you look good and know it, you'll feel way more confident on the inside. simple ideas: 1) gym membership--you have to stick to it though, since results don't come over night, but in a few months you will see a big difference; 2) clothes--if you're wearing old shoes or cheap clothes...they make a difference. go out and buy some nice, sharp looking clothing. 3) hair...it's really important to always have your hair clean and looking nice. i get my hair cut every friday...bit of over kill, but i'm obsessive about it; 4) do other things that will make YOU feel better and more confident.
other ideas. cuz i'm gonna go and answer your question. when you talk to a girl/lady, there is no rule of what to talk about...honestly, here's the trick and it works wonders for me. walk up to a female and crack a silly joke about anything. if you can get her to smile, you're half way there. after that, ask questions. the way to control any conversation is by being the one to ask. make her tell you about herself until you find something you have in common. and if you're wondering what to ask about, see what she does for work, fun, if you're working out at this point, talk about that (by the way, the gym is a great place to meet good looking ladies...if you're fit, they'll come up to you and ask for help), talk about anything that is interesting to both of you...that's why you have to ask questions and get her talking. you don't need cheesy pick up lines. just be yourself and make conversation. good luck and feel free to contact me if you need any help. oh, and if you're not an active/fun person...start doing it. you have to have fun and interesting stories to talk about on a date, that is, once you get one.
2006-06-23 13:18:19
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answered by Anonymous
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