well, to begin one of my best friends is pissed at me and refuses to talk to me. then yesterday was the last day of skool, then my sis ratted on me and my moms being a total *****! i know many people have it alot worse, but this is pretty bad for me. :(
2006-06-23 12:57:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes when I was around your age I felt the same way. But, now I look for a little humor or inspiration to put it all into perspective.
For example, here are some sayings I have collected, and enjoy on bad days.
>Accept that some days you're the pigeon,
and >some days you're the statue.
>Always keep your words soft and sweet, >just in case you have to eat them.
>If you lend someone $20, and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
>Never buy a car you can't push.
>Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, >because then you don't have a leg to stand on.
>Nobody cares if you can't dance well. >Just get up and dance.
>The early worm gets eaten by the bird, >so sleep late.
>When every thing's coming your way,
>you're in the wrong lane.
>Ever notice that the people who are late are often much jollier than the people who have to wait for them?
>You may be only one person in the world,
>but you may also be the world to one person.
>Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.
>We could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors but they all have to learn to live in the same box.
>A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
>Happiness comes through doors you didn't even know you left open.
Have an awesome day, and know that someone has thought about you today....
2006-06-23 15:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by Orchid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best-friend may be refusing to talk to you, but give it a few days, and cool down then call her. You don't need to settle everything today, think about what happened and why she is so upset.
As for your sister, hey haven't you ever ratted her out? Try to make amends with your sister. Invite her to a movie, go to lunch, hang-out. She is your sister and it's time you both start growing up and taking responsibility, and try to stop ratting each other out.
And your Mom is being a Mom. Don't ever disrespect your mother to anyone. Your Mom is probably fed up with you and your sister fighting, and guess what; She thinks life sucks too.
Time has a way of healing, be patient kid, you got the rest of your life and yes, at times it will suck, so enjoy those moments that rock.
Now go and call your best friend, hug your sister and mother and tell them all you love them and stop complaining, because you don't have it so bad. Just wait!
2006-06-23 20:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by You got Moxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are exactly but I'm guessing a teenager. Yes, at this age life can really be tough. For starters you are caught between being underage and being a full adult, capable of making all your own choices! There is comfort and security having home and family. But at your age you want to experience everything. Hormones are kicking in good from the sounds of it. It is normal! But you can do a lot to overcome obsticles. Mom is just being Mom. She loves you and she would be a crummy mother if she didn't care about where you are and what you did. Sometimes love hurts. My advice is to form a pact with your mom. It seems weird but honest disclosure is the best route. If you can create a relationship with your mom where you agree to be honest with her about comings and goings, and keep your word then Mom in return has to give in a little. Trust is a huge issue and most teenagers don't realize that the more upfront you are the more she will loosen the ropes around your neck and give you more freedom of choice. I know because I did this deal with my daughter and it was a big relief for her not to have to lie about anything. True, she didn't get to do everything but she was given a lot more space and she said it was worth it. The longer she held her agreement the more space I gave her. My daughter also said she could talk to me much easier about a lot of things she would never discuss. It made our relationship so much better. And if I had to decline something she wanted to do there was not the big blowouts! She took it a lot better because she had been given many benefits based on a track record that she herself created.
Friends: Any friend who gets mad for more than a day or so isn't worth having for a friend. I think you should widen your circle of friends. This way if the friend stays mad, you have others to hang out with. A good rule of thumb .....don't discuss any fights with one best friend with any others. It's not cool. Let it be. You don't want to make it worse. Email your pissed friend a nice card and tell her you are sorry about the argument and miss her. Make the first move....it gives you character.
School: Are you crazy??? Most people are happy to put away the books for the summer! Enjoy days in the sun, sleeping late, swimming and hanging out with friends. Invite them to your house for music and guy talk! You might even want to try to earn money somehow to put towards great new clothes for school in the fall! Don't worry as summer is too darn short anyway!
Sister: I have four....that means four times the aggrevation you have! Sisters are sisters and she will grow out of this childish trait of telling on you. Tell her two can play the game! You won't squeal on her if she doesn't squeal on you. You might try spending some time with your sister. There is nothing that works better than building a better relationship by doing a couple of fun things together on a regular basis, She'll come to feel more important to you and will think twice about the blabbing thing.
I'm on your side! It does seem like everything crappy comes at once and it's hard to deal with. So don't. Work on one problem at a time until you are satisfied it has all worked out. Remember, you are not alone. Just about every teenager feels the same way you do about life. It will pass with a little effort on your end. Good luck, sweetie!
2006-06-24 02:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by gardenwitch_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's see... there are a few ways to answer this question. First of all, well, life could suck and you're just fine, but I don't really think that's going to be the truth, do you? Second, maybe it's just you who sucks, and the rest of us are just fine, but that doesn't sound too true either as we are all "out there" in our own way and have our own problems. Hmmmmm...
Try this: "It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you've got." - Sheryl Crow
A lot of wisdom there. For me, I can look at things that may REALLY pi$$ me off at a certain time, yet when I look at it say in a few days or whatever, then it often doesn't matter. However, on that particular day, I can either sit and wallow in my own $hit, or I can try to look at things from a different perspective.
Look at whatever situation you have to deal with, and change what you can about it. If you can't change it, maybe there's a reason why you need to be where you are, and maybe you need to grow from the experience. If you are open-minded and willing enough to try that, then maybe you can see something positive about your life/current situation, and that you can decide how happy you are going to be day-to-day, instead of allowing circumstances to control you emotions.
Probably not what you want to hear, but I know when I can do this, it works. Good Luck!
2006-06-23 23:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your best friend pissed? Is it something you did or just a misunderstanding? Last day of school? Have a great summer. Sleep in a little. Make some cash. Your sis ratted on you?
That one is your fault. You gave her something to rat about.
Hmmmmm. Sounds like a great life or a sucky life is all in your hands. Whatcha gonna do???
2006-06-23 21:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weelllll.... If you are "Best friends" you'll be talking again.
And have some new things to talk about.
Maybe you should try to remedy whatever pissed them off?
That life sucks attitude will project from you and others will pick up on it >>> they will continue to let your life suck.
Make it not suck yourself. If you have time away from old friends, try new things you have wanted to, or meet new friends. Don't come on with the pissy attitude though, or you'll just hook up with more bored people for friends.
There is A LOT out there, go get yours!
2006-06-23 22:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by astroservus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this is ALL you have to worry about,, Jeeezzze wait until later in life when you have some real problems,, right now you can enjoy the hell out of life, so just do it and quit b**ching !!!!
2006-06-23 20:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by john l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't life that sucks it dealing with the f___ing idiots that cross your path that sucks! Always pay attention and try to never be one of those idiots that makes someone else's lilfe suck.
2006-06-24 01:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by ab72756 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its you - get a life and it will not suck - your problem is you do not have a life. sounds to me you heavyly depend on the actions of others to create a life for you and when they f**k up you blame them and life.
Its you - You Suck because you do not have your own life.
2006-06-23 20:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by zqx357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life sucks...
however, I always make the best with what I have. Then it sucks less =)
2006-06-23 20:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋