a boy asked me out and I had a nice night out with him he took me for a meal and then a few drinks, but when we got back to his flat
his room mate was watching T.V and I ended up having sex with them both I want to put my reputation behind me but i keep falling hwow can i change
2006-06-23 12:41:02 · 18 answers · asked by jenny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the issue here is your own self image, and self respect. I get the feeling that you don't regard yourself very highly, and feel that you need to please people?
I may be wrong, but I get the vibe that you have always tried to get people on your side, you're a likeable person who will never rock the boat.
You need to get assertive and fast. First of all, what if this guy had been out to sexually assault you. Aided by his friend you would have had no chance. It's really a question of your personal safety. You put yourself in a very dangerous position. All I can hope is that you used protection. Even so I would get tested.
To put your reputation behind you, you have to recognise what you did was silly. The fact you posted the question, suggests you know what you are doing isn't right, or isn't what you would like to be doing, and therefore it's a place to start.
I think you need to talk to someone about issues surrounding your self image, how you percieve yourself, and how you want others to percieve you. I would advise this, before you get really hurt. I don't mean emotionally.
Just because a guy buys you a meal, doesn't mean you have to sleep with him.
2006-06-23 21:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesnt seem fair that if you like sex its a bad thing for a girl and ok for guys. Guys like it when they are making out but most dont want you around long term because they wont trust you.
I dont know the answer but going with two at once makes it hard to deny
2006-06-23 21:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by cate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like doing it? Do you have regrets after doing it. I have had a "relation" like this..actually a couple times with two different people. BUt I don't have any regrets. But these were also people I have known for several years. If you don't like the way it happens then just don't put your self in those situations...good luck :)
2006-06-23 19:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need therapy, put all your fantasies on paper and cross them out once you've fulfilled them. also you need to respect yourself enough to feel you are able and capable of putting your reputation behind you. better still find ways of satisfying yourself before going on a date kinda takes the urge off a little bit.
2006-06-23 19:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by mo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a few drinks & a meal is all it takes to get u to hav sex with a guy u barly even know & a complete stranger then that speaks 4 itself....U know wat ur doing only u can stop it from happening....
2006-06-24 04:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by alwayspopilorr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is go out on a date with me and I'll take care of the rest.
2006-06-23 19:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by M.A.T. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop drinking and get some councelling before you get yourself in a really bad situation. you could be raped and killed. please wake up and get some help for your low self-esteem before something bad happens. I'm scared for you. You obviously like a thrill but there are safer ways of getting your kicks.
2006-06-24 05:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must make a conscious decision to stop doing that. try to stay away from going home with them. Stay in places you know you will not get busy at.
2006-06-23 19:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Vidra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex with me, I don't care about your reputation.
2006-06-23 19:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your date back to your flat!
2006-06-23 19:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋